My husband and I have been together as a couple for 7 years, married for 5 with two small children. My MIL and SIL are STILL gossiping about me and making hurtful comments to and about me. Worst of all, they constantly compare our children to the SIL's children - in front of the kids! How do I handle this?
We've tried confronting them nicely - I've even gotten steaming mad a few times. Nothing changes. The holidays are coming up - I'm already dreading it. The drama..
2007-09-08 19:15:42 · 6 answers · asked by Magaroni 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You may appear to be an easy target for them. So dont be.
IF your hubby is relaying the gossip to you teach him to stop or set an example by saying or ILs have bad breathe so on and so on.
And as for the comments about your kids nip it in the bud quickly. First tell your kids in front of your ILs to leave the room and look ur ILs straight in the eye and rely although you were entertained by their small minds about you that under NO CIRCUMSTANCES is it to go farther then you PERIOD. And that you would like an apology. If it happens great if not they will leave you alone for hopefully a long time b/c no adult can side with them when its about kids. NO ONE.
2007-09-08 19:53:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it took my husband standing up to his mom about the issues and then he cut off all ties with her. every time we trusted her after that and tried to give her another chance we would get screwed over. so basically now she watches what she says and does when it comes to us and our children. luckily she breeds dogs and my oldest is allergic so she can only come to visit our children. which she doesn't take the initiative to do unless it's their birthday or christmas. so it's her loss now. ball got put in her court and she dropped it basically.
people like that you can't be nice to. and it's going to take your husband standing up and putting a foot down to stop the nonsense. that simple. you'll be satan's spawn of course but really it needs to stop.
it's not a competition with children and it's time some people realize that. and you're never going to be good enough for her son b/c he is her son so she'll probably always say something. just don't let that get to you too much. mine finely learned her lesson though and no bad talk comes out of her mouth anymore. SIL of mine is the same way. Hubby cut all ties to her too. and i had nothing to do with that and i didn't know it had happened until it was already done.
2007-09-09 03:35:16 · answer #2 · answered by Amanda 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
MIL have got to be the worst. I found with mine she has always got to have an opinion about every thing even things that don't concern her. I try to pay no attention and ignore things she says. Its the only way to avoid an argument.
2007-09-09 07:27:33 · answer #3 · answered by montieork 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother-in-law is a total b.tch and I tried for ten years to get along until I finally said no more. I don't think you should have to put up with being treated badly and I think your husband needs to stand up for you before too much damage is done and you do what I did and say "deal me out, I've had enough."
My kids and I now have nothing to do with any of my husband's family and he supports my decision although I know it is painful for him. His mum came over yesterday even though I have asked and told her to stay away from me. I was soooo angry I pushed her as hard as I could and told her to go home.
2007-09-09 02:23:52 · answer #4 · answered by Kell 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Withhold your family from their festivities... go elsewhere for the holidays.
It is about time that you went where you were welcome.
Go visit your parents instead.
Shoot... have Thanksgiving dinner at Golden Corral!
You don't have to put up with any abuse.
When you get the chance, after from the holidays, and they confront you about missing the holidays with them, you tell them why... and since they aren't "getting it" when you talk to them nicely, you have my permission to "go off" on them!
This is about boundaries.
2007-09-09 02:29:02 · answer #5 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make other plans?
Sorry, but until your husband stands up for you and your kids, it probably won't change.
2007-09-09 02:24:18 · answer #6 · answered by Shades of Grey♥ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋