Does this sound like my uncle was joking?

Question

I treated my family to Popeye's for lunch, & my cousin ate my food & treated me like crap in FRONT of my face, WHILE eating MY food that "I" paid for. She said I'm a worthless nobody. So, later on in the day her dad (my uncle) invited me to spend the weekend. I said no. He said, "Why?" I sarcastically said, "Your daughter is gonna make me hurt her." & he said, "& U WILL GO STRAIGHT TO JAIL!" I said, "I was just joking." & he said, "I was joking, too! But come & spend the weekend." When I drove off, my brother said, "He wasn't joking. He was serious." I didn't even ask for his input. & then he said my uncle was talking DRUNK talk by inviting me to spend the weekend since he's an alcoholic. In my town, we jokingly say we're gonna hurt other people when we don't mean it when they do something foolish. I'm not violent & I fear the consequences of violence. But my cousin got into a fight with a neighbor & her dad didn't press charges, even though my cousin was like14 at the time.

Now why would he press charges on his OWN family, but here an outsider got into a fight with my cousin, & he didn't press charges. My aunt & uncle are both drunks & they lock their daughter (my cousin) out at night & beat her up themselves. She's forced at 17 now & 14 then, to have sex with other guys in the projects (ghetto) to have a place to sleep at night. It's just totally dysfunctional. She's a troubled teen, & she was trying to provoke me. I have an anxiety disorder.

Answer 1

i think it was all talk... of there part but i wouldnt stay over there you dont no what they will do 2 you... anyway i think the girl is just so angry that she needs som1 to help her but doesnt no how to ask...

Answer 2

The fact that you Post this question and seem quite worked up about the situation suggests that it is potentially harmful to you whatever happens. Your stress level is very apparent in your choice of wording and I would highly suggest avoiding the situation at all costs both for your physical and mental safety. Go seek counseling at the very very nearest opportunity. There needs to be a change in the way you are approaching your family and the relationships you ALL share. I would definitely seek help in your situation. I have been seeing one for 2 years, it could very well save your life as well as the life of a family member. Don't hold back from him/her. Your counselors job is to help and do so discreetly. I would ask him or her the best course of action for you and if you should intervene or continue contact in any way with these people before you proceed any further. There are many disturbing things in your question, many of which may have some legal implications. I worry for all of your safety. In my state simply stating that you would hurt someone is called terroristic threat. You don't have to be serious. If the person feels threatened you could face between 6 months to 2 years in jail for making such statements. I pray you share this with a mental health professional BEFORE you make any decisions based on what I've read. Please take the time to calm down and PLEASE keep yourself safe hon.

Answer 3

Since you know how dysfunctional this branch of your family is, you should steer clear of them as much as possible. Many a truth is spoken in jest. Although you were joking when you said you might hurt your cousin, you said it because you were genuinely hurt by your cousins disrespect for you. Although knowing that his daughter probably deserves your being upset with her, he was, somewhat jokingly, letting you know that he would be on her side if anything happened. Avoid them like the plague.

Answer 4

i know what u mean...i get the same thing..my extended family always puts me down even though i get good results and I'm about to start my 1st yr psychology at a good university here...it is so degrading and it just puts u down when a family member esp puts u down.. well, my mom gave a good suggestion when i was facing that..she suggested that i just don't bother about what they have to say but still put a smile on my face and act sane because firstly, that will at least show (even if I'm burning inside) that i handle criticism well and just think that the other people put u down because they are jealous or they wanna make themselves feel better and look more successful by putting u down..so, just be cool bout it and try not to be too close to them but still have contact at least..in the end u will realize that whats important is Ur own success and happiness..so, just don't bother about the insignificant people that have verbal diarrhea

Answer 5

You're overlooking the most important thing which is that your uncle obviously raised a rude little brat who didn't even appreciate the lunch you paid for, so he's clearly no better and a very rude man to have not offered his apologies when you made it apparant his daughter had offended you. I say, to heck with those people.

Answer 6

Joking or not, he doesn't sound like a person to spend the weekend with.

Your cousin is too poisonous for words.

Take me to Popeye's instead next time. I will sing your praises.

Answer 7

You should try not to spend any time with these people, especially given that you have the anxiety issue. It's just not worth it. Oh, and please don't go to their house, especially to spend the night. These people are clearly dangerous and you don't need any part of their lifestyle.

Answer 8

He may be joking, but who's to say. If you feel in your heart that you may have to f-up your cousin...don't go ! If you just don't feel comfortable around people that have drinking problems...don't go ! Just don't go. But he may press charges !

Answer 9

apparently everyone has some type of "disorder" nowadays. whatever.

since your aunt and uncle are both alcoholics, why the hell would you go over there? or "treat" your family to Popeye's?

just move.

Answer 10

this is fairly random, yet i like it! i do no longer understand many individuals that talk like that, yet having pronounced that, all I hear on a daily basis is a Maine accessory...I hate it while human beings attempt to impersonate different accents...it is so freaky! besides, the humorous tale gets like, a 10 out of 5 for me...! It replaced into truly humorous!!!

Answer 11

If you dont plan on beating her up, then why are u so worried about it?? Relax, dont spend the weekend, and try to limit your contact. They may be family, but make them distant family!