Starting to think i can't ever get a girlfriend?

Question

I'm 18, my whole life i asked 7 girls out. all of em said NO. I'm starting to think i can't ever get a girlfriend. sh#$, i never even kissed yet.

Answer 1

ok well, im not 18, but, its happened to me...guys have liked me before, just not at the right times...someone will come along for you, just keep holding on, youll get there...=]

Answer 2

Some women's periods stop while on the pill. One month is okay. The pill info says that if you miss 2 months in a row, you need to take a pregnancy test to be sure. Pulling out is never a form of birth control. The pill is 99% effective when taken perfectly. Unless you are protecting against STD's or have not taken the pill exactly like it should be taken, there is no need to use a backup form of birth control. If 99% is not a good enough odd for you, you are not ready to be having sex. Since taking a pregnancy test every 2 months is going to be annoying and expensive, your GF should speak with her GYN about switching to a different brand of pill so she can get periods and know she is not pregnant.

Answer 3

When I was eighteen, I had been rejected by at least 10 girls that I confessed my affection toward. I know, it is rough. I was starting to think I could not get a girlfriend either. Now I am twenty-four and still single, no girlfriend, never (this may not be too encouraging, but listen up anyway). For me I discovered as I got older my priorities started to shift, and now I am not so anxious to get a woman. Right now I am better than I was at eighteen and can get a girlfriend if I really wanted one, but I don't right now. All I am saying is that this feeling will pass. Before you know it, you will be a young man that women will find attractive, then it will be up to you to decide if you want a girl or not. But as for right now, you may have to endure a little more rejection. Don't worry, it builds character. You will be a better young man for it, if you don't allow it to make you bitter. You are not alone in this.

Answer 4

O.k I know that all of these people are giving you cheesy answers like just wait and one day they'll come to you. That's not true. I thought that until I was 15 and barely any girls even talked to me. My parents always told me to be myself and I was but still nobody liked me. I was a freshman in high school and even the kids that weighed like 90 pounds and were about 5 inches shorter than me had kissed girls and had girlfriends. So I decided to try something different. I really liked one girl in my gym class and sort of set her as my target . I got to know her over the school year and became her friend, then asked her out in the summer. My strategy is definitely don't seem too eager and if you just wait and really get to know the person and just be cool to them they'll like you too. A few warnings definitely don't stay in the "friend zone" too long, and this next ones huge make sure to be nice to all of her friends! There you have it dating advice from me.

Answer 5

You're still so young to think that you can't have one!

Don't stick to that idea in your head that you're looking for a girlfriend, and that the girl you want to go out with is your target for romance.

The girls tend to get intimidated by your motives, if you show them outright that you plan to date or court them.

Relax, just go around and socialize, meet new FRIENDS, not necessarily hunting girlfriend/s. Join social or civic oriented groups, sports groups or whatever groups you like, there you will find interesting people sharing the same hobbies and adventures with you.

A good lasting relationship starts with a good friendship. Let yourselves get to know each other first as friends, a new good thing will soon bloom from there.

Answer 6

woah dude, I feel your pain man - sometimes "SOME" girls are just plain stupid and fail to see the good attributes of a good guy. (Not talking about the good ones...)

I haven't been exactly in your shoes but I can relate to the feeling seeing passed chances and opportunities. Its so ridiculous, and in top of that - I have to deal with the same girls getting hurt and used over and over again by the same very @$$holes that used to be their bfs.

And to top it off, then they come back to me after they rejected my feelings begging for me to take them back or simple ask why did I grow apart from them....

(I ask ANY person here, how can one mantain a close friendship with the very person you have once developed feelings for, while they are out there with someone who doesn't deserve them, they get hurt and then they come back to you - is it fair? hell no! they made their decision - I made mines.

No, its not like your turn your back on them, but rather keep a distance from them. That's how people get hurt, and the whole "rebound" effect comes into play.

Dude, don't give up hope - nurture a friendship with someone you like - I mean, you can't force someone to like you or simply accept to return your feelings - that's being honest so expect the same thing from others. Just respect their decision and keep it moving.

One small advice, I mean dude - I got kissed for the 1st time in my life at 22. Pathetic huh? but at least it a real kiss and not a fake High School drama.

..........small tip: start talking to older ladies, lol, you can learn a lot...

Answer 7

You got to look yourself in the mirror and answer the hard truths. Why would they not want to? Be honest with your self and make changes where they are needed. Attitude is a big thing to. If you feel like a dork and act like a dork, you will be one. Be confident.

I did not have a date until I was 21. I am 30 now, I must have dated around 60 girls and have had five long term girlfriends.

You can change for the better.

Answer 8

good things come to those who wait, remember that

I'm 17, and I've asked out somewhere around 15 girls, and so far only one has said yes, but I never gave up even after that girl broke up with me, even now when I do not even have a girl in mind I still know that some day I will have a long lasting relationship.

Answer 9

dude, you're fine. I'm 18 and haven't kissed or gone out. 7 girls is extreme but maybe you're just asking them out the wrong way. wait for a girl to ask you out or pursue you.

Answer 10

do you have a really close friend you can talk to about this? Maybe you come on too strong, or maybe just the opposite. You sound very nice on here. God bless.