My Boyriend and i are going to be moving in together after we get engaged, my parents are VERY against it, but what is the best way of telling them with them hating us totally? We will be getting married 10 months after moving in together.
2007-09-08 18:16:03 · 4 answers · asked by sjmblondie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
We have figured that financially we can afford to live together pay cell phones, car insurance, internet, food, etc. all those bill. Would it be wise to have all of that layed out? (how much we both make and how much would be left over each month?) I'm 18 and he is 21. Oh. My parents are the very religous type. My mother already has told me in the past that they would be very upset with us for awhile. The people i babysit won't approve either (how do i tell them?) My grandparents?
2007-09-08 18:33:45 · update #1
i find honesty is the best poilicy. in this day and age it is very common for people to live together before they get married many live together and never get married at all. just let them know your plan and be sensitive to there feelings. if they really love you (and im sure they do) they will get over it. i feel it is important to live with your partner be fore you marry them to make sure your living habits are similar you dont want to marry someone and then find out that they are a complete slob or something else you cant live with. also with divorce rates as high as they are today, completely understanding your mate is very important.
congrats on the wedding
2007-09-08 18:28:25 · answer #1 · answered by sab20052005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moving in together, in my opinion, is for only after you get engaged and have a wedding date set and plans are being made. Basically, you are gradually setting up housekeeping. You should not "live together" without marriage for more than a couple of months.
There are numerous reasons for not living together... it is downright stupid... it removes his impetus to really marry you because he is already getting the benefits of marriage, while you wind up with all of the responsibilities and liabilities. It is not a fair trade. The common law wife has virtually no rights.
Fact is, a couple of months in a trial marriage is a good way to really get to know whether this guy is really "the one" and whether he is a slob or if he is trainable. You can still move out and send his little fanny back home to his mama if he isn't grown up enough.
2007-09-08 18:57:51 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They won't hate you forever, especially when it comes time to plan the wedding. Mom won't be able to stand not being in on the planning. As for the people you babysit for, why is your living arrangement any of their business? Why do you feel the need to tell them? You are there to babysit. It's none of their business.
2007-09-08 20:01:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell everyone involved that you are capable of making such decisions on your own as you are mature enough and to back off.
2007-09-08 19:39:07 · answer #4 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋