Okay, so I'm asking this question on behalf of my brother. He is a freshman in college and has been there for a week now. He has two roomates - one of whom he has been friends with for a long time and one who he first met when he moved in. Since they are in a triple, they are living in very close quarters. They will soon be offered the oppertunity for one roommate to move out and "de-triple," if you will. You would assume that the guy who my brother and his friend just met would move out, but he is refusing to. It is not possible that he has already become so close to his roommates that he doesn't want to leave. If they say no to this offer now, they will be stuck for the rest of the year. It just isn't right to live in such tight quarters when they don't have to. How can my brother and the other roommate convince him to move out?
2007-09-08 18:14:33 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
All they can do is ask.....if the guy wants to move he will. If not I think it would be very rude for 'the two' to ask him to leave. Personally, if I were the third wheel I wouldn't have to be asked twice. I would not stay where I wasn't welcome. I have been in that position before, pick up the hint, and scooted before people knew what hit them.
It is not cool to make this guy feel unwanted. That sucks so hard.
They should all three sit down and talk this out. Discuss the pros and cons of him leaving or staying. If they are really serious about wanting him to leave....they should offer him something in compensation for his trouble of having to move all his stuff from one place to another. By this, I mean money. And........they should offer to help him move his stuff out.
They should emphasize that this is only a matter of space...not of personal feelings....and that they will all still keep in touch once the move happens. That just because they dont live in the same room doesnt mean that they cant still be friends.
Then they should have a party very soon and make SURE to invite this guy to the party.
2007-09-08 18:26:42 · answer #1 · answered by pink 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow...thats a toughy. I'm guessing that the "new" guy doesn't have many friends & likes the thought of being with these guys regularly. However, if I were in that situation I would probably just stick it out. I mean if the new dude is refusing to leave then I certainly wouldn't leave my friend of many years just so I could have a little more space. I would give it a shot & see if another strong friendship could be formed. :)
2007-09-09 01:24:43 · answer #2 · answered by lovemy2babies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the situation. If the other guy isn't terrible to get along with they should stick it out. I will help them later on in life for realtionships. If they really think it will be a problem then they should go to the dean of housing. If they can move the guy to another room with just 2 people in it and it makes things even within they really might. But your brother AND his friend should talk to the Dean together. Explain thier concerns and be calm and rational about it. They Dean CAN do something if he wants to. He may feel they should stick it out.
2007-09-09 01:28:05 · answer #3 · answered by redboomkat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Show him comparable quarters elsewhere and make it seem so much better then where they all are, a lot of times the reverse psychology method works wonders. Make it seem that the lucky son of a gun that gets that place will have all the greatest perks of bachelor life (on campus anyway) and well simply put..."in a cramped triple its just not possible to have alone time with a lady". Just a thought. Hope it works.
2007-09-09 01:25:16 · answer #4 · answered by SoAZ Gal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have them find another person who can move in with, Let the two of them talk and maybe that will convince the unwanted roommate to leave.
2007-09-09 04:00:39 · answer #5 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 other sisters are probably asking a similar question, keep an eye out for them.
2007-09-09 04:21:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if the guy doesn't want to move out I think he won't unless they kill him so better ask your brother and his friend to move out and leave the guy.
2007-09-09 01:24:36 · answer #7 · answered by Erase Program Read Only Memory 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋