here is the deal, we were both virgins. i was his first everything pretty much. before him, i've had a long term relationship (1 1/2), but it wasn't that physical (only making out and such). after i ended that relationship, we startedgoing out since the end of senior year in high school, and it's our second year in college now. we've always messed around, did everything except sex and last week, we both had sex..he's 19, i'm 18 now. but he doesn't want to risk having sex anymore because of having a baby...i completely understand and i am not pressuring him or anything, but is it wrong for me to want it? am i just being selfish or is sex not really necessary if you truly love the person?
also, we know about birthcontrol, condoms and all that stuff.
our first time was surprisingly good...he lasted pretty long too.
it's strictly...about the slight chance of having a kid.
any advice?
2007-09-08 18:12:06 · 8 answers · asked by luckystar21 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just don't do it. Not until you're married.
MARRIAGE FIRST
2007-09-08 18:43:27 · answer #1 · answered by Thao Kun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong for you to want sex after having had it in the relationship already. It is wrong for you to pressure him to have it, if he doesn't want to (just like it would be wrong for him to pressure you into it).
As to the question of is sex important in a relationship? It all depends on you. For some people, sex is not important and for some it is very important. Only you can answer that question for yourself.
Continue enjoying each other without the intercourse and if the situation is still intolerable to you, then he's no longer the guy for you and it's time to go your separate ways.
2007-09-08 18:24:29 · answer #2 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the young man does not want to have sex then you will have to respect his wishes. We as females have the right to say no well so does he-- if he is that afraid of creating a child then don't push him. Now if he wants to fool around and thats all you have to decide if that is enough for you. You see the problem with sex is once you cross over that line you can't go back--It is like opening Pandora's box
2007-09-08 18:24:16 · answer #3 · answered by searching 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't really need that in a relationship but if its something you feel like you want, then i would consider getting on the pill and using condoms to be extra careful. ask him what he thinks and just try to talk it out. if he's not ready then dont risk the relationship for that. give it some time and it will work out. and really, now that you've already done that..it'll be a lot harder for him to resist if you openly show you want it. haha..
2007-09-08 18:20:00 · answer #4 · answered by missfaye87 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
worrying about that slight chance is like worrying about getting hit by lightening. of course it isn't wrong to want your bf to make you feel good. but, you gotta talk to him and get to what the issue really is. because it isn't a pregnancy.
2007-09-08 18:19:29 · answer #5 · answered by grouch2111 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice would be to go on birth control and use condoms with him!
2007-09-08 18:32:40 · answer #6 · answered by Melanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
use all of them if sex is so important to you.
-- condom.
-- birth control.
-- the day after pill.
-- female condom.
ect.
2007-09-08 18:23:00 · answer #7 · answered by E. [= 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to do it, use protection, protection, and more protection...
2007-09-08 18:17:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋