The heart wants what it wants....?

Question

So said Oscar Wilde. Agree or disagree?

Is such a supposition, in your opinion, a good thing? Is it no more than an excuse for someone's behaviour?

Can we control our hearts, or are we at the control of our hearts?

Answer 1

I know what my heart wants and often that's a problem .... the trouble is that I know that should I respond thoughtlessly, people I care about will get hurt. The reality of it Jack is that in limited circumstances, I'd rather be the one to suffer. Some friends, my love, I just would rather die broken hearted than hurt. Unfortunately, what I would rather and sometimes what happens are separated.

Oscar Wilde is exactly right. It is written in my heart that to truly love is to suffer rather than cause pain. If you also accept this logic for protecting the emotions of your loved, it's prolly a good thing if you are indifferent to pain.

Now it should be obvious to you that it is unfortunate that I am also quite insensitive to pain that my loved are feeling, otherwise I am sure I would be a better person. I am trying to work on this aspect of my personality.

Of course, having established this self sacrifice.. the next question is, can I get away with following my heart without being discovered!

I am now inspired to learn more of Oscar Wilde. Suggested reading?

Answer 2

I happen to like Oscar Wilde's material.

In regards to the "heart", perhaps its merely attraction...physical, chemical and spiritual, or whatever you'd like to call it...a chemistry we "feel" with another. And maybe it isn't necessarily controllable (at least not initially), for the connection already exists, but CHOICE is what either lunges you (developing that attraction into attachment) or holds you back from culminating outwardly what is inwardly taking place, or vice versa.

I'm careful about assuming in the matters of the "heart", since there are so many ways one can see it, could be anything, all we really know is what we think and "feel".
I certainly don't have a defined explanation as to the "heart" and if it simply wants what it wants...but do think that attraction to certain people is inevitable, and at the same time, one chooses to pursue it, or not.

Hope that was understandable. :-)

Answer 3

Thank you Jack, so much for asking this q. right now, I give you a star. Yes the heart wants what it wants. I don't think that's a bad thing in and of itself. No matter how you sometimes try to rationalize a situation, in the end, the heart wins. We all want love, respect, acceptance from others, and when we actually find it, it can at times be overwhelming. I recently found this out. And even if you can control the actions of it, it still wants what it wants.

Answer 4

Well, it is a tautology, and not very useful in an argument. We all need to learn that there is a distinct difference between wanting something and needing it, and between a desire and a rational decision. Oscar Wilde, who went to prison for what he wanted and got, must of all people recognize that it is a rational decision whether or not you will give your heart what it wants. And accept the consequences.

Answer 5

I think it depends on the person. I tend to be more like a machine when it comes to mind vs. heart decisions. Unless, it's with my daughter. For the most part, logic wins over emotion. It's more of a survival mechanism. If an individual can find a balance between the two...I think that person would be a close to perfect specimen.

Answer 6

how many times have you heart betray you or deceived you. so how can the heart wants? the heart of man is deceitful.therefore when ever you want something the bible say : . all changes begins with the mind or we change with the transformation of our minds. not the heart!!! therefore the heart does not know,there is no rationality in it.God is not the author of confusion. but he is the author of logic. thus there is truth that ppll cannot understand .because they are narrow minded and they can believed in nothing that is supernatural .because their mind can't conceived all the greater things we can be able to do. therefore whatever your mind is set to do your heart will follow. and changes in your life will start to manifest .if money is what you are lacking then it will come to you . if health you are lacking health ,oh!! perfect health will manifest. whatever the heart desires as long as in in one accord with reason and harmony with your mind.

Answer 7

I agree. The mind plays tricks on us by reasoning everything, it stands on the way. What the heart wants is what we really want. You watch a scary movie you get scared because your brain tells you it's scary so you jump but then you laugh because you know it isn't real. That's your heart laughing at your brain.

Answer 8

I agree with it. The heart loves whom the heart loves. The result of that can be good or bad depending on whom you love. If it's someone who leaves you pregnant and does not pay child support, then it's bad. If it's someone you love and cherish for 40 years, it's good.

I know what it's like to have others disapprove of whom you love. I say true love is not easy to find. When you find it, grab it and go with it!

Answer 9

Yes, the heart wants what it wants. But what it wants is often not good for the body or the soul. Fortunately, we have intellect to mitigate the influence of the heart on our actions. Some are better at that mitigation than others. Personally, I suck at it.

Answer 10

I do agree. BUT you have to have self control. I feel like we wouldn't have a brain that does so much reasoning and logic if our heart could do that part. You know?