So this may be a little difficult to verbalize but here goes. Me and my significant other are great together, I get him...he gets me we're madly in love. We're amazing together. He talks about getting married in 2 years and at first that didn't even phase me. But I've realized there are a few things we don't see eye to eye on. Well, alot of things but a few major ones. I don't know what to do. And yes we talk about it, but every time he starts getting snappy and I stand my ground too. I end up crying, he apologizes and we drop it...They're things that I know I can't compromise on if we are to have a future together but to him they're little things that shouldn't be a big deal. I don't know what to do!! I know I can pressure him into compliance but I don't want that haging over my head the rest of my life...what do i do?!
2007-09-08 16:53:49 · 5 answers · asked by Sugar 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to work out the major issues now. If you care enough about each other ,nothing should be such a problem that you can't solve. If you can't,don't waste each other's time. Further on down the road ,you will end up apart. Don't get married if you have such issues. Time will not change them. Decide what is most important. Marriage is commitment, sharing , and a whole lot of giving. If neither want to give in, it's not a contest, are you mature enough to consider marriage?
2007-09-16 16:53:09 · answer #1 · answered by Morningstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly in some relationships love isn't enough... sometimes its like that...it sucks...but if you know that you will neva be able to compromise and he wont either then save all the drama and end your relationship and try to be friends...its better to end it now being friends and understanding that you truly love each other but it just wont work out due to differences..then to end up down the road not talking at all...and if you want to try to work around the issues whatever those maybe then good luck ...and it honestly may take a long time and even couple therapy...but in the end it comes down to...if you two will make it as a married couple who has differences that you both can live with...you may force him to comply to what ever the issues maybe but you also run the risk of on down the road one day ...that he starts feeling resentful and trapped because you forced his hand at what you wanted and it may change how he views and feels for you... A relationship takes compromise on both sides at different times ...not only love...good luck at whatever becomes .....
2007-09-17 00:02:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are really serious about this guy, sit down with him and a neutral third party and explain why these things are important to you and why you can't compromise on them. If you still can't see eye to eye on the matter, then you know that he is not the guy for you, no matter how you feel about each other.
If the two of you cannot come to some sort of concord, then these sensitive issues won't change after you marry, they will continue to be something that you fight over and you will come to resent and disrespect each other down the road.
Good Luck
2007-09-09 00:45:24 · answer #3 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you truly are thinking about getting marry, then the things that
really bother you, regardless if they are small or not. you have
to deal with it, because it will not get better down the road only
worst. sometime people that love each other cant live with
each other and marriage is a llife time.
2007-09-09 00:02:02 · answer #4 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to leave him alone. sweetie. never lower your standard in hopes that he will change or you can beat him into changing. if this are major points and you feel that strong about them and dont believe he will change than why stay. leave him alone before you both become statistics. divorced, single parents, low income. think its your life and you have to live with the decision you make today til you die. GodBless
2007-09-16 22:30:20 · answer #5 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋