What do you wear/bring to a funeral service?

Question

The funeral service will be at a chapel with a reception to follow.

Answer 1

The coffin and a hankie.

Answer 2

Attending the funeral and thereby showing your support for your friends/family members is more important than anything else. I wear something conservative in style and color when I attend funerals. It's not necessary to bring anything to the service, although I've seen Mass Cards or Sympathy cards, sometimes with a gift of cash enclosed given then. An offer ahead of time of food or help with the reception would be appreciated and appropriate if you feel close to the bereaved family. Gifts of food are often sent or delivered to the family after the death and before the funeral. Flowers may be sent to the family or to the funeral chapel ahead of time.

Answer 3

Oh wow! I'm a soon to be mommy and I am shocked to see this attitude from another woman! I know my grandmother told me all about how breastfeeding was well loved before bottles were invented, and formula, and then how after bottles became popular all the ladies thought only the poor couldn't afford to bottle feed, and if you were caught breastfeeding back in the early 60's people would shun you as not being 'up with the times' but how absolutely ridiculous is that! Now that pediatricians are again teaching how breastfeeding is the best alternative and trying to get mothers away from bottles, in a day and age when we are growing spiritually in acceptance of each other I cannot believe there are still women out there who have issues with other women breastfeeding. Talk about the dark ages! When my baby is born I will not feel the need to hide my breastfeeding activities in a bathroom or closet or anywhere! Not in a church, not at a baptism, not at a funeral, not out to dinner, not in a park, not anywhere. I'm not ashamed to be a female, I know what my body parts were made for. Whoever posted this, you should be ashamed of yourself for such an ugly, negative and horrible attitude towards breastfeeding. There's nothing disrespectful about it, nor is it disrespectful for a mother to take her baby to a funeral. For gods sake it's a religious ceremony, and god loves babies and mothers who care for them! And to think you sat there the whole time being all ticked off about her breastfeeding. How immature is that!

Answer 4

Your outfit should be simple and tasteful - other than that there are really no rules. Years ago wearing black was the proper thing to do, but now it is not expected. The only thing I can suggest you bring to the chapel would be a sympathy card - there is usually a box or a basket to leave them in.

Answer 5

Wear something black or dark. And conservative. This isn't the time for that little black dress with spaghetti straps and stilettos.

Some cultures probably have very specific funeral customs, so you might want to check on that. For example, it isn't appropriate to bring flowers to a Jewish funeral. But it can be appreciated at Catholic funerals, although some people prefer charitable donations.

Answer 6

You should wear something slightly formal, but conservative, such as a business-type skirt or slacks in a muted color. As for something to bring, usually flowers are brought/sent to the funeral home beforehand, but you can also bring them to the cemetary, and money is often brought to the repast to help out the family, but it isn't necessary.

Answer 7

I usually wear something less attention getting than normal day wear. (bright colors etc)
Bring? If you are referring to food or something for the family...try something a little different. Paper products. During this time the family has many visitors and paper products (plates, towel and even toilet paper) are needed. The little things are sometimes overlooked.

Answer 8

Well the funeral i went to i wore a colorful outfit buti guess it depends on what kind of church the service is because you don't want to wear black if it is like a mormon church and i don't think you should wear corlorful cloths to like a catholic church or somehing...i don't know

Answer 9

wear a black skirt of pant suit of a dark colored one brown, grey, and navy blue are acceptable choices. And a pair of comfortable shoes to match. You do not have to bring anything but if you choose, send flowers to the family home and a card.

Answer 10

Depends on the type of funeral...If it was a tragic loss like a young friend or relative, I'd go dark....not necessarily black; If it was someone who loved life and lived it long and true, then I'd dress according to how they would want me to dress...I've been to many funerals and they're all different....at my brother's (he died at 37 unexpectedly) we were all shocked but knew he'd be angry if we were all moaning and crying, so, in his favorite jeans, shirt and cowboy boots he was "laid out" and we had his favorite Rock and Roll and Country music playing....Lord, I miss him....

Answer 11

You wear something conservative (doesn't have to be black). You don't bring anything, unless you were specifically asked by the family to bring a dish for the wake.