FELLOW MUSLIMS: Is Allah really merciful and just?

Question

Just wondering, are we toys in his little game? You know, just keep putting every obsticle on earth in front of a person, expect them to be Patient, and be thankful while you're crying tears of blood... and every second you pray to him things just get worst?

I was just wondering if anyone can explain to me the concept of.. he tests people he loves. So, he must "love" me a lot. I am done with praying, done with asking for forgiveness. I have lost everything and have been patient through everything, this was the last straw. Does someone who is just punish you for no reason? Does he make promises of hell just b/c you lose patience in his own cruel test?... Why the hell give us emotions and a heart? Make us F'n robots.

I am seriously considering leaving Islam, leaving religion and leaving this world.

I am DONE

yea star this-- i want to see the same old ayahs about patience and sh!t. Nothing works

Answer 1

Sister Moonlit, I know exactly how you feel. I have just gone through hell and back. We need to see that everything happens for a reason. The man I've known my entire life was just taken from me. The funeral home couldn't get its act together and didn't hold the service until yesterday. My mother, sister, brother, and I buried him yesterday. I was going through hell. He had his heart attack early in the morning. He seemed fine. They thought he'd be coming home. Instead, the next day he went into cardiac arrest. I spent this week crying, not eating, in a depression, in pain, just not able to get up. I was suicidal. Through prayer and through rememberance, and because of all of the love I received both online and off, all of the encouragement, I have managed to get a bit better. I know it's not easy now. I went through that too. I was questioning my faith. Then something happened today and tonight. I was shopping. There was this 1 1/2 month old baby. She had been left with the mother's brother in law while the mother went shopping. That baby could not breathe and the man (typical man, aye! *smacks forehead) didn't know what to do so he just stood there staring at her. My kids are with my mom right now, because they give her so much joy and keep her mind off of her pain until my brother gets back from his friend's house. So I was free and could concentrate. This baby could not breathe, it was literally fighting for air and making motions as if it was swallowing oxygen. It was also constipated and crying from that. I held that little baby for an hour, just standing there in the electronics area, looking for the mother to get back to the baby. The man did not speak english. I kept repeating "ER, Hospital, St Lukes, St Francis, Emergency Room" hoping he would understand. The baby, after being on my shoulder and vomiting on my new abaya, was finally able to breathe after about 5 minutes of resting on my shoulder. I had walked up to the man and motioned for the baby since he didn't know what to do. I held the baby for an hour, and it finally fell asleep in peace swaddled in a blanket. My mother swears I was meant to be that baby's angel at that time. Actually, my husband told her and friends of what happened, and they all believe that God had made me want to go to the store that late at night. I didn't buy anything. I just wanted to go to that store at that time and look around for literally nothing in particular.

This helped to restore my faith in Allah. I also remembered my son. As you know, my son had been born with Infantile Spasms aka West's Syndrome. 80% of babies born with this are mentally disabled by the time they are 1 year, another 10% are developmentally challenged, and the last 10% completely outgrow it and are normal. I would say Surah Al Fateha over my son multiple times a day and when he would have the seizures. They never found a cause for the seizures and said it was just something he was born with, that nothing I could have done or not done could have stopped it. By the time he was 7 months he was discharged from their "Zero to Three" Program because he no longer needed help. They said he had outgrown it, and his seizures were happening only when he had a fever. Now, it's not even then, because they've stopped completely. My prayers, my nursing him, and saying this helped him.

Sister, I know it is SO hard right now. You want to scream, you want to cry, you want to just give up and stop altogether. But please don't! I know you are aware of how hard I've had it this week. But keeping faith and having my husband read the Quran to me as well as comforting me and seeing the love of all of my friends has helped me so much. I really can't describe how much you all have helped me to deal with this. Please don't give up. Fight. Those against us and against good want you to give up to validate them. Don't give that to them.

Answer 2

As you know, my son had been born with Infantile Spasms aka West's Syndrome. 80% of babies born with this are mentally disabled by the time they are 1 year, another 10% are developmentally challenged, and the last 10% completely outgrow it and are normal. I would say Surah Al Fateha over my son multiple times a day and when he would have the seizures. They never found a cause for the seizures and said it was just something he was born with, that nothing I could have done or not done could have stopped it. By the time he was 7 months he was discharged from their "Zero to Three" Program because he no longer needed help. They said he had outgrown it, and his seizures were happening only when he had a fever. Now, it's not even then, because they've stopped completely.

Answer 3

asalmo alikom sister

i was deeply sad when i read ur words but i know that this is not u who is talking ,the religion is not responsible to thought that u lost every thing , u r just getting some troubles and be sure that allah will never leave u alone just be patient and u will see.
u even say(leaving the world) i think u r really in major depression just try some psycological help hand in hand with spiritual one and all these obstacles will pass safely as others passed , dont think that u lose every thing but think that u gain alot of thing in this life and there are still alot in the after life ,dont be depressed its just the dunia and try sharing ur problems with us in order to help u , i will say the ayat again b/c our sisters and brothers have made good effort gazahom allah khyran,and remember ramadan is on the gates , dont let it pass from ur hands , all the great tests that muslims passed and the great victories was in ramadan and i hope and wish and iam sure that u will fight and win against thse frustrations,,

and remember when u feel that there is no hope then the great news are on the gates

may god be with u sister

Answer 4

A friend told me a few weeks ago... to say "Ya ra'oufo Ya Rahim" all the time... specially if I feel weak...

If you don't get the things u want... it doesn't mean he's punishing u or testing u... it also can mean... its for the best... maybe u would have been worse off if u got those things...

Remember He knows what's best for us...

Answer 5

All you have to do is read your question your self and realize that you have let a difficult stretch in life get to you. As for religion, I will be blunt: you're seeking of it that which it does not promise. In Islam, God never promises to answer each and every prayer so the most important trait is forbearance. I will not persuade you not to quit Islam but I simply ask you to read your question and tell me this: are these the ravings of a frustrated individual or the failure of religion?
You're having a tough patch, we all do. Some people never get enough to eat their whole lives and other never know what the pleasure is of having a roof over your head. I am sure your difficulties are not any worse than that.
As for religion, a difficult life is not its failure for religion does not promote easing you out of every difficult time. So this is not a failure of Islam or any other religion, but the raving of a mind tired of being strong.
Religion is your personal choice but life is not. If you have been strong so far, you will manage a few more years/weeks. If nothing else, try and watch a documentary on the famine in Africa, you will realize that your life does not really stink.

Answer 6

Common sister, be steadfast on the path of Allah. I don’t expect Moon lit Muslima to be this way. You are so good and have firm faith. You increased our faiths through your beautiful answers. I really don’t understand what’s the problem. A believer never loses hope in the Mercy of Allah. Take things easy. When Allah created the Universe, the first thing He declared was 'His Mercy overcomes His wrath'. We should believe in Him this way. Do whatever is possible of good deeds. Get rid off what is forbidden. Where are you to go beyond Islam. Is there a place outside the domain of the Most Merciful. It will be a great loss in this world and the next to think of running away from the way of Abraham (PBUH) and about leaving this world. All will be of utter regret. The moment we close our eyes, opened before us is the eternal eye. While then will the wrong doers beg for another chance. Allah is not in need of us but we are in need of Him. We all have to return unto him one day or the other. Life of this world is only a test. Everyone will be tested according to his ability. You have more faith. So don't loose if one day something bad happened to you. Faith is a secret between you and God Almighty. Men around you never knows the faith and sincerity of you, but God knows the secrets of your hearts. Think of the poor population of this world. Thousands, millions, who are starving and are tortured due to calamities and war, poverty etc. etc. Yours and my position are far better if we look at them. Let’s praise the blessings of our Lord than looking things the other way. Allah indeed is Most Merciful. What we must learn is taking things the right way. May Allah give steadfastness to all of us and all Muslims. Lucky is the one who died as a Muslim in submission to Allah and who got paradise as his eternal abode. So, to attain something that is esteem, we will have to sacrifice something that is much dearer to us. I earnestly pray for you to be firm and no harm shall come to you.

Answer 7

Your God is my God, Krishna, Allah, Jehovah, Vishnu, Rama, etc. One Supreme God with Many Names. Yes He is just, we just don't see the big picture of all of our past lives or our future- He does. Karma is the main reason for our suffering though good and bad reactions are coming from our past and present life we just have to take shelter of Allah and eventually it Will pass. This life is temporary and full of miserable conditions but we just take shelter and we Willl be protected (at least our soul wil be) Always remember Allah never forget Allah. He is all merciful and good. It is only due to karma all ar suffering (reactions to their actions) this is not our real home it is Maya (illusion) but if we are Allah Conscious then we can transcend all this misery. Give up mundane sectarian religion and follow Universal Truth. That will give one real peace. As long as we have bodily identification, thinking i am this body, this religion this nationality this mind this job ect then we will be on the bodily platform of life and miserable. We are only spirit souls, part and parcel of the Supreme Soul named above. Hallelujah, Hare Krishna, Allah Akbar, God is one. World Peace

Answer 8

This world is a testing place, you are tested every second not only once a week, nor once a year.Our biggest and worst enemy is the devil, his job is to mislead us in every path of life. God is going to take your parents away from you, then his going to take your child and then He is going to take you,all this is a part of His test, and only he will win who stays firm through out.This world is like an example of a running water over ones head, and all you have to do is stand still.
I don't know if you are a Muslim or not, but I do know that if you Loved your creator with a true heart you would have never written this.
peace.

Answer 9

hi there.im not like other people that tell u leave islam but dont leave life,cause islam is our way to god,and if u work on it u see islam is full of hope and absolutly balance in ur life that the thing u need it.then about god we have a hadis that god says:i was a hidden treshure and creat to come and find it.so the god will gets test to show who really want that tresher.so dont give up go after islam and see what it realy says.do the simple thing that it says and have more benefit for urself.at last i suggest u to think after the die.wha do u have then???

Answer 10

Yes Allah is the Most High and the Most Merciful!! Its Not doubt that he will surely forgive your sins! I will pray 4 u bro! May Allah Forgive You and Bless You ~Ameen~

Answer 11

Dear Sister... As we don’t have any influence over your decisions and it seems that you have already decided what you have to do and you are just informing us about that. As everyone has one own justifications either one is doing good or bad to satisfy oneself. You must have too and there is no use to discuss them. But I just want tell you some simple questions to ask yourself.

Just imagine that by leaving this world would it do any good to anyone including yourself, your family, your relatives, your friends and other people who are directly or indirectly attached with you or you are just thinking about yourself and your miseries?

And do you think that your life would be completely change by leaving any religion?

Do you think that those who don’t have any religion don’t have any miseries and sufferings?

Is there anybody who is forcing you to be patient, if you don’t be patient then what could you do?

What is your authority and what is your control over things? Are you the first one who is facing all this?

What might have other done when they were in same situation?

And finally, are you really selfish enough to think only about only your self, your life, your pleasures, your miseries, your sufferings and you really don’t care about other people who loves you, have faith in you, trusts you, likes you and inspired by you?