Christians Only: Have you ever really prayed hard about something...then things went terribly wrong?

Question

I really prayed ernestly for God to bring me together with the right husband. I prayed my whole life since a small child and prayed alot into my 20s. Then I met and married a man I met at church - he too prayed alot about us getting married...then we got a divorce 9 yrs later...I prayed and prayed for us not to divorce but he kept persuing it and we did divorce. Now a few years have gone by and I still feel very uncomfortable when it comes to praying about my life. I feel like God really let me down when I prayed for direction in my life and prayed for God to help me choose to marry the right person. I had a very strong sence I was marrying the right person at the time - but time showed that it was all a very huge mistake.

I just wonder has this kind of thing happened to you - are you left with a bitter feeling about praying? How do you deal with it?

Answer 1

I also prayed about the death of a unborn child that was dying and I wanted her to live but she didn't. I prayed and cried and believed to all that was within me and the nurse came to the room and said, "You must come now!" so we went to where the new born baby laid and when I saw her my heart broke in two. The tears were falling and when the time came for the nurse to place this precious child in my hands as soon as i held the baby close to me, the heart moniture stopped and she died right in my arms..Did God fail me? I too had prayed but God knew of a place where she was going that one day I would see her again and instead of being bitter at God, God showed me a part of Him I never knew before, He too lost a Son who was killed and crucified on a cross for something he was never guilty of but loving others. God gave me a great peace that had passed all understanding and now when Someone I come into contact who also has experienced losing a loved one, I can sense their hurt and minister the love of God to them and even though God may not answer our prayers the way we see fit, His answers are always the best. And you know In divorce, God's heart has also experienced this when Israell His firstborn whom He loves dearly has divorced Him and now are serving someone other than Him and He can relate to you in this and you can turn it around and instead of being bitter be better at helping others who are going through divorce or who has already. God can turn your situation around but if not, He has better and greater plans for you so don't let the devil rob you of your joy..In His Love, MK

Answer 2

Sunshine,

I am so glad you asked this question. I was planning on posting a similar question, when yours popped up. Yes - I have had this happen. I am going through it now. My husband and I both have been laid off from our jobs and our situation is getting desperate and a bit bleak. It has almost been 6 months for me and still nothing. I live in Michigan and the economy is just awful here. Jobs are scarce and it is difficult. Sometimes I forget that it isn't all about me. I look for God's grace in every lesson. There is a reason we are here and he has a perfect plan for us. Reading scripture also helps. I did have a specific situation a few weeks back where I went through 3 interviews with one company and they chose someone else. I was so depressed and so angry with God. I had prayed until I was practically exhausted. It was all I could think about. God knows what we feel before we even tell him. I talked to him about it. I told him I was confused and angry. I felt like he was punishing me. He understands. But there is a always a reason. Search within yourself and continue to talk with Him - He will lead you where you need to be and will never forsake you. It isn't for us to understand God's will. We are his children, and He is our Father. As far as your marriage, don't stop trusting God or your instincts. He may have been the right husband for you at that exact moment; however, we have Free Will. God will not control us. Things can change overtime. Maybe He has another man in mind already who is perfect for you in every way. Good luck!

Answer 3

Friend, do not be discouraged, God has not let go and you do not walk alone. We do not always understand why some things happen the way they do, but don't trust your way, trust the Lord that He takes all things and works it out for your good. He will take this and bring it all to a better point for you, but you must trust Him and believe Him, do not waiver with doubt, let it only be about yourself. It is hard to say that God was guiding the direction of the marriage, and the divorce, if the husband pursued and you done all you could to make it work, but he still insisted for the divorce, it is not on you. Talk to the Lord, openly and give all you feel to Him, let Him give you peace that passes all understanding, and you will be okay. Be blessed, a healing awaits....

Answer 4

Oh goodness! A question i can relate too!! Yes,i have a very hard time with praying right now,as i have for 6 months.You see,my dad was in the hospital,icu,and i prayed harder than ever for him to recover,i got on my knees and earnestly prayed night and day,to no avail,he passed 2 weeks later and i am still going through my grief,anger,questions,etc.I am wondering still to this day,why we pray if God already knows the outcome of everything.My faith is still rather "shaky",BUT,i never want to know what it's like to live without the Lord so i am digging in,trying to become more knowledgable in the Word.

Answer 5

You may have an allergy to look into there, and if he's throwing cans of coke around it doesn't sound like he's a great guy himself. If the talking was pretty awkward though, probably a sign that you're not all that compatible. You can try going out one more time though in a more natural setting - just relax more. He's probably more nervous than you are.

Answer 6

Sorry to hear of your misfortune. God never approves of divorce. But He is not Burger King. He is the King of kings. So we can;t always have things "our ways."

You must keep praying always - no matter what. And always pray for HIS will and not your own.

According to clear Scripture, you may not remarry now that you have divorced - or at least not unitl your husband dies. You are still married to him in Father God's eyes. Try a reconciliation if at all possible. In the meantime, devote your life to God.

You BOTH broke a clear commandment of His. How can you say that you were doing His will when you divorced? I feel sorry for the children. You set a bad example for them. Divorce runs in families for this very reason.
1Cr 7:10 ¶ And unto the married I command, [yet] not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from [her] husband:


1Cr 7:11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to [her] husband: and let not the husband put away [his] wife.

Answer 7

There is more to this issue than prayer and answers to prayer. Read 1 Corinthians Chapter 7. Your part will be to accept the choice that another person made that still impacts your life. I feel for you.
Take care; continue to make the best choices you can to build up your life. God bless you!

Answer 8

From this, and I'm not judging, cuz ma'am, I am FAR from perfect...It sounds like your focus is a little fuzzy. Remember the "Set your mind on things above..." scripture? No, we don't like to be alone, but JESUS is the lover of your soul. Make yourself comfortable in HIM, KNOW who you are in HIM, make HIM your soul Satisfier...And everything else will fall into place. Was it REALLY a mistake, if it will make you FULLY rely on God again? Was it REALLY a mistake if you learn to LOVE Him and trust HIM?
Don't set your mind on the circumstance. Set it on the END result.(This was actually the sermon in church two weeks ago, and then it was confirmed when I watched Creflo Dollar on TV last week, so OBVIOUSLY God is trying to teach ME something similar!)
It is very difficult to let go and let God, when we feel we have no control. We have to TRUST Him to be the PERFECT Father and trust that He KNOWS what He's doing for His kids.
All the best of blessings to you.
~MamiZ~

Answer 9

Perhaps you should engage yourself in your own life other than looking for an anwser from somewhere else. How do you exactly expect God to anwser you. Perhaps He has and you've over looked it. Pray to God for a good life and lead a more Godly life and you will find your path. Look inside instead of above...for God is within you....

Answer 10

I have lost my job due to the housing market down turn, I have had cancer, I have been homeless, been jailed because I looked like someone they where looking for, I have been shot, cut, thrown from a moving truck into the river, I have been beat more times than I can count, I have watched loved ones die. I have been lied on, cheated, talked about, forgotten, thrown away, forsaken, robbed and I am poor. But bitter no way, he is my hope it fact he is my blessed hope.