2007-09-08 14:22:55 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It's a sincere question. I'm just trying to decide whether I want kids or not right now.
2007-09-08 14:29:11 · update #1
Thank you all for your wonderful answers. I'm 27, and haven't gone to school yet. I think I'm going to wait until I get a career, and I can feed my child. Thank you for the perspective. :o)
2007-09-08 15:19:34 · update #2
I did wait, and I'm really glad I did in some ways, since I got my youthful irresponsibility out of my system. For the most part! I found that having kids at an older age helped me to focus on them, and wound up with us having a closer relationship than I did with my parents.
There are drawbacks ... I'm old enough to be my youngest son's grandmother. It hurts my shoulder when we go out and throw a football around. I have trouble getting up off the floor when we're playing board games. Stuff like that.
You'll be fine if you wait until your thirties to start having kids. I had two in my thirties. But don't do as I did and have the last one at the age of 44. I feel like I'll be pretty much useless by the time my grandchildren come around, and that makes me sad.
2007-09-08 14:53:45 · answer #1 · answered by Bad Kitty! 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My mom waited til she was 26 to have me. She said she was glad she waited til she was older. I always said I would wait til I was around 25 to have kids, and here I sit 28 without any. Children are a blessing. I guess she just wanted to be more stable, and I find myself doing the same thing. I have been married for 9 years, and I'm stable, but I still don't have that motherly instinct. I have friends who had children when they were really young, and things have worked out fine. I say you'll know in your heart when you're ready. Everyone is different.
2007-09-08 21:34:18 · answer #2 · answered by Y U 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My parents don't regret me or my brother, but they do regret the timing in which they had us.
My mom was 20 and my dad was 21, giving them no real time to live their own lives, because they had to get married and take care of us, while all their friends were out exploring the world, going to college, and do all sorts of things.
But they definitely do love us...they just wish they had been a bit older when they had us.
That's why they tell my brother and I all the time, family and kids are great, but go out and do everything else you wanna do with your life first, get an education, travel the world, find yourself, and then come back and start that, because it'll be really hard to get a second chance to later on.
2007-09-08 21:53:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly ? no disrespect to my 5 beautiful children who now I couldnt imagine living without , yes I wish I'd waited , I wish I'd stayed in school , gone on to bigger and better things so I could properly support them financially instead of doing gutter jobs to keep a roof over their head's and food on the table and clothes on their backs.
Life just happens and you deal with what come's on a daily basis and you survive , my kids give me reason's everyday to be greatful for my choices.
2007-09-08 21:49:21 · answer #4 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't wish I'd waited. I had one daughter, and later developed health issues which prevented me from having more children.
If I'd waited, I wouldn't have the wonderful daughter that I have. But only you can decide if you're ready for children at this point in your life.
2007-09-08 21:57:38 · answer #5 · answered by Curry 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents do... my dad was 13, and mum 15. By the time she turned 17 my mum had 4 kids and my dad 5. Now at 37 my mum has 9 kids and my dad 12. And seriously my parents should of waited... I'm glad they didn't, b/c I love my older siblings, but they missed out their entire childhood...
2007-09-08 21:45:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
its is good to wait until you're stable enough to have children (in theory) but if yoiu are waiting until you feel stable "enough" that day will never come... as humans we always expect more from ourselves.... children are a blessing..... and i believe god sends them to you at the right time..... and we as humans have no control over that.... (of course there are many forms of birth control) but they can fail and if you were meant to have a child it will happen.... do the best at getting your life on track with where you want it to be. and if you are religious ... pray on it....
2007-09-08 21:49:35 · answer #7 · answered by chrysteena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it happened the way it did for a reason. so i wouldnt want to change it
2007-09-08 22:18:07 · answer #8 · answered by falon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what kind of mother would regret having their kids? wow.
2007-09-08 21:28:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
read the email i sent you. ur a jurk, u really r.
2007-09-08 21:29:56 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋