Not really asking a specific question, just looking for possibly some opinions about being forced to break up?

Question

Her name is Catherina, usually called katie, either way, i call her my Tic-Tac. I'm about 17, which i understand is pretty young, and she's about 16.started hanging out over summer, and it was incredible. i loved it! we played the Wii, and watched movies, talked, i helped tutor her. I decided to wait a bit to make sure the relationship was right for me. So after waiting, i finally made a move watching High School Musical 2, and it was great. so the next time we were able to hang out, i asked her out. and her brother was okay w/it, and he's super protective. her mom and dad thought i was extremely mature for my age, they talked about how great i was. so i really fell for this girl, but i can't say im in love. her dad wanted her to focus on school more, so she had to break up w/me. I cant let go though. she wants to see me happy w/sum1else but i dont want to. she said she doesnt want to move on 2 other guys either, not that shes allowed to.I want 2 wait for her, and im willing. help? =\

Well, i have discussed the situation w/her numerous times. Tic-Tac and i have decided that i will wait, however; she wants to see me not just sit alone waiting, and i likewise, because she still has many valuable lessons to learn from relationships when her dad finally does let her date other guys. In the meantime, if a girl likes me, i will go out on a "date" w/her. however, i will not be looking to make-out or cuddle or get into a relationship, because it's only to keep my social life okay. and it's what Katie asked me to do if i was going to wait. so we are both looking forward till the day that we get a second chance and until then, we're fine being verrry close friends. =] and she feels the same about all of this as i do. ** When i said i don't love her, i meant that i can't say i do, because at my age and experience, i can't truly say what love means, because that's where i'm ignorant. Hopefully i'll know what it is eventually though. =) **

Answer 1

just wait 4 her. be her friend at the time being. keep in contact. but make sure u and her are still having that chemistry

Answer 2

You sound a little bit confused.I suspect you love this girl more than you realize or are willing to admit to yourself. I don't know if you understand that you are in "love heaven".You have her parents blessing, her super-protective(your word)brother approves of you and is okay with it, she apparently loves you and wants you,does not want to date anyone else,and you made sure the relationship was right for you before you made your move. When everything went the way you wanted it to, then you say you are not sure you love her but can't let go.I can now understand why her father wanted her to focus more on school the way you are now trying to back track or to have your cake and eat it.The only help you need now is a swift kick to your******.If you no longer want your Tic-Tac(which it appears you no longer do; in spite of your words)then allow her to find a better guy than you.One day you may discover your loss at all levels.

Answer 3

If you want the girl's side of this, I may provide you with some help because I seriously went through the EXACT same thing.

I had to break up with my bf from pressure from my family and religion. We both understood that we weren't going to marry, but we still like each other so much. Breaking up with my bf was the hardest thing I've done. Yet. Now, he's asking me to get back together with him and I have to say no.

I want to see him happy as well with another girl. Like you, he can't let go. He wants me back. I don't want to have another bf either. Move on. I want my bf to and if she cares for you, she'll let you go. I want the best for him and she wants the best for you. Waiting may make you miss many other girls out there.

To make the break up easier for her, try not say that you miss her too much. It sounds harsh, and you may not like that, but it's what's best. My bf tells me that he loves, misses, and thinks of me constantly and I go to pieces. Be a friend, but keep a little bit of a distance.

I'm very sorry about your break up. This is a very hard time.

Answer 4

There's no reason to break up, unless she's being forced to move away. You should resist. Being forced to break up is immoral. But on the same token, school is important. But students can usually focus on school, and still have a good relationship. The trouble with her wanting to see you happy with someone else, is that it's not always possible to find someone else, and when someone else is found, it's not always possible to be happy with that someone else. But since she's made that desire known, and her parents who think you're mature enough for her, want her to focus more on school for now, don't even think about her.

Answer 5

You should still hang out. but for your relationship, dont get physical.

The key to a girls heart is her parents, sleep with them and you are in! (futurama)

Just kidding. :)

But seriously though, if you think you can wait for someone as good as you say she is, by all means wait. Remmember, the one thing you should ever go to hell and back for is a girl.

Bonne chance!

Answer 6

how sweet... do you think that you can just be friends with her and help her to focus more on her studies.... if you said you were cool with her family after you discuss this with her you guys should discuss it with them. but waiting on someone should be a mutual decision. good luck.

tic tac is such a cute name.

Answer 7

Give it time and see what happens,it could turn in your favor.

Answer 8

Yeah, wait for her :) For suree

Answer 9

soundz like you made up your own mind... wait for her baby

Answer 10

i wish all guys were like that.

wait for her...