I'm 19 and I'm dating with 20s guys. 1 guy was bisexual and I don't want that. The other guys were all nice, but I liked them as buddies and I couldn't love them.
Every man I met said I'm so cute, nice and pretty and that they fell in love with me. I always feel so ashamed and sorry for them, because I don't love them. And they don't except me as a buddy. I'm always polite, but it still hurt their feelings.
I want a boyfriend and buddies too. How can I get male buddies?
Do you also have this problem?
The men you want you can't get and the men you don't want you can get?
What should I do?
2007-09-08 13:43:27 · 11 answers · asked by Kay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've had this problem myself lots of times, it's very frustrating. I've always found it very hard to have males just as buddies because they usually expect more out of the friendship. You might want to consider turning a buddie into a boyfriend for awhile and see how it goes, and if it dosen't work out, there will be more fish in the sea.
2007-09-09 01:14:49 · answer #1 · answered by 24Special 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate. Unfortunately men take honesty and friendship the wrong way sometimes.
I still get guys thinking that just because I am nice and friendly and joke around with them, that I am "interested".
Just don't change who you are and if you get the feeling that one of your 'buddies' is starting to like you too much - let them know. Tell them you are thankful for your friendship and that you are glad you can be friends without being misunderstood.
Just always be honest.
2007-09-08 20:51:20 · answer #2 · answered by tak 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is no reason you can't have male friends, and still find that one special guy to date, to be serious with.
I have always had male friends, and more of them than female friends.
So as long as your boyfriend knew they were only friends then it would be ok, and if you are honest with the guys that you date, then it should be ok. Don't string them along, and don't let them think you are interested when you know you are not.
2007-09-08 20:50:41 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ ♥Be Happi♥ ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a friend that you can see your self wth and work on the friend ship first then fall inlove but if you dont feel the feeling for soe one just tell them you are not ready for a relationship yet or better yet you see them as a great friend and do not want to jeperdise thier friendship good luck!
2007-09-16 20:46:04 · answer #4 · answered by scoob48413 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awww you must be a really sweet woman! â¥
well this happens a lot with me too with boiis.
I'm not quite a woman yet =]
Umm...it's very awkward for me when i'm only nice to a guy because i want to be good FRIENDS with them. but instead, that guy later on says he thinks i'm pretty & nice and that he likes me.
So at then, just say that you want to be friends with him & you don't want to feel uncomfortable around him and ruin the guyfriend relationship you have.
Yeaa, at first their feelings are hurt and all, but they will get over it ^^
i don't know if this helped you but it always works for me.
good luck pretty woman! :D
2007-09-08 20:51:24 · answer #5 · answered by Miss Green 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yea these scenarios are really hard to work out. they probably think that you're hot, and when a guy thinks you're i think it's hard for them to just see you as a friend only. and then of course you come out like the ***** for not liking them back. it seriously sucks for females!
2007-09-16 20:23:38 · answer #6 · answered by angela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and say you just want to be friends.
The ones who stay are your buddies.
The ones who leave are not worthy .
you will find a boy friend. he just hasn't met you yet.
keep it smooth and you will meet your guy.
2007-09-08 20:52:01 · answer #7 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
okay i stoped at the first paragraph. what makes you think having more than one boyfriend is okay?
2007-09-08 20:48:53 · answer #8 · answered by Sexi Lexi 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
well for starters dont be flirty at all make sure they no FRIENDSHIP is all you want!!
2007-09-15 20:01:19 · answer #9 · answered by * 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take what you can get? Be less pretty? Become a lesbian.
2007-09-08 20:50:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋