Today I was at the park with my 20 month old and 2 month old daughters and my 13 year old niece. My 13 year old was taking my 20 month old to the slide and when they got there, my daughter slipped down and fell on her knees, skinned them both and was crying histerically. I picked her up, put some band-aids on them and cradled her. We then left and when we got home I would let my 20 month old out of my sight. She either had to be being carried by me or be holding my hand or be directly infront of me or on a harness. Then when she went to bed I stayed by her crib. Is this over-protective or am I just a worried parent. It's been bothering me for hours.
2007-09-08 13:37:51 · 16 answers · asked by Jasmine 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I think the reason I felt like she needed me is because she's never fallen before and she was sick for a week, but at that point I gave her a lot of care, but she's also adopted and I'm trying to give her a better life.
2007-09-08 13:54:00 · update #1
i am a very very overprotective mother so i know how you feel. My son is 8 and by the time he was two i had to go on Paxil(anti-anxiety meds) because i was freaking out so much about him. i would have done the same thing except for the staying by the crib thing. i mean check on her, but staying in there is alittle much. i don't believe that you are over-protective. you just love your daughter so much you just can't stand to think of something happening to her and you would do anything to save her from harm. thats a good thing i think. sometimes it will take over your life though so be care full.... i'm not a paxil advocate or anything but if you need to ask more questions just e-mail me.....
2007-09-08 13:47:46 · answer #1 · answered by anne d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is already 20 months old and these skinned knees are her first "major" injury than you should consider yourself (or your daughter) to be pretty lucky.
I think it is a little over the top to be so worried about a couple skinned knees. It is okay to be a little upset or worried right after the injury occurs, not for the rest of the day. Kids feed of their parents reactions, if you get all bent out of shape about a couple skinned knees, your child is going to throw an equally proportionate tantrum. So it is time for you to learn the "silent cringe", assess the damage and act according to the injury.
2007-09-08 20:56:22 · answer #2 · answered by Somebody's Sister 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is overreacting. Life is full of skinned knees and bumps and an emotionally healthy child learns to take them in stride. If you continue what you are doing you will be teaching her that the world is a scary place and that she is incapable of taking care of herself. She will miss out on many opportunities to see herself as competent. Next time, pick her up, give her a hug, take care of the injury and send her on her way.
2007-09-08 23:18:46 · answer #3 · answered by EC Expert 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that is going a little overboard. Kids get skinned knees, bumps on the head, bruises, etc. Unless they are bleeding from their head, mouth or nose profusely, or have a broken bone I don't get too worked up. My son's nickname is Bruiser because from the age of 1-2 1/2 he could not go more than a week without a bruise on his forehead.
2007-09-08 20:44:48 · answer #4 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why were you so attached to her? Was it something that she needed for comfort, or was it something you felt you had to do? I would say it's a bit over protective if it wasn't something she was needing, and even if it was...she's going to have to learn that it's okay to get hurt. I would say if she got hurt and calmed down, it'd be best to take her on that slide again and show her it's okay and that it won't hurt her. There's nothing wrong with loving and nurturing your child, but if you over do it, she'll never learn how to deal with things on her own. It's hard letting them grow up!
2007-09-08 20:44:54 · answer #5 · answered by clizzy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, that's a bit much. If you react like that to every scrape and cut she gets, your going to have a complete nervous breakdown and you're probably going to create unnecessary anxiety in your daughter as well. Just try and relax a little, kids get cuts and scrapes, that's part of life. Just bandage them up, give em a hug and a kiss and send them on their way.
2007-09-08 22:48:03 · answer #6 · answered by The Sh*t 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes its better to be overprotective than careless.....however kids are kids and over time you will learn that they will get hurt no matter what you do.....some of my kids worst injuries have happened when they were within arms reach of me. im glad you care, and thank you for adopting a child to give them a better life, but once the booboos are cleaned and have a bandaid on them if there is any clinging its usually mom needing it and not the kids.....the bounce back and i promise you she will have plenty more of these accidents no matter how careful you are so let her go play
2007-09-08 22:02:17 · answer #7 · answered by CRmac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better get used to the bumps & bruises. There are only more to come as your child explores the world!
Sounds like you are being a bit overprotective. It is good you consoled your child, but she needs to learn that a few scrapes are not a big deal.
2007-09-08 20:45:27 · answer #8 · answered by sharkyincanada 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She just bumped her knees. If she didn't hit her head I am sure she is okay. Yes, we all love our children and I am as guilty as the next person for being overprotective. But I think this is a little extreem. Boo boos will happen!!! Good Luck!
2007-09-08 20:54:22 · answer #9 · answered by Jessie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes is defiently overboard and protective.
I understand how a parent thinks because they so small and if they got sick or fallen you scared that they get hurt again.
But you are over protective.. they kids and of course they going to get bruised and bumps...
My goes to childcare and he gest bruise and bums all the time and at home he play by himselve while I do things around the house and if he is hurt he will tell me now... but before he do not know I get scared but still let him try it...
They kids let them be kids.
2007-09-08 20:57:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋