My friend is a lier.. help!!!!?

Question

Ok my best friend is a compulsive lier. She lies about EVERYTHING. She met these two people online and now she's telling all these lies to them about them being in a gang and it's insane. I've known her since she was born and I'm with her every single day of my life. She also lies to me and her family and her friends. Well.....I read her emails and they are all lies. Should I confront her and tell her I read her emails? What should I do? Please help! Thank you!!

Answer 1

If this is your friend that you spend so much time with and her lies are interfering with your friendship, then you must talk to her about it. Of course it is possible she will deny everything so you have to be careful how you say it to her. Think carefully about how you will tell her. Think about this. How would you say it in a way that would get her to agree with you and not go on the defensive. There is a way to do it. Write it down and perfect it before approaching her. If you truly care and want to help her this is the way to do it. Best of luck to you.

Answer 2

I came across some people who were like that too. And to be honest, I avoid them compeletely all together. Someone who isn't honest to me about anything isn't worth my time or friendship.

If you really care about your friend, and have too much of a bond too let go, confront her about it. If she's that excessive about lying, then it should be an issue beyong emails, so you wouldn't have to really tell her you're reading her emails. But, confront her. I personally feel people who lie compulsively have mental issues, and it could be very well your friend has these issues. So, confront her.

Answer 3

how sad...no, don't tell her you were reading her emails.. you have known her for a long time, and you love her dearly I bet...I would start trying to kind of break my friendship slowly though, before she gets you into a lot of trouble...and stand your ground,...when people ask you if she is lying, tell them, you are not sure, but you cant validate her stories...and about the gang? tell them that she isn't in one, that you know of...and if she gets mad at you? tell her it is the truth, and you are not going to lie any more, even if she is...sadly she will lose a great friend, and you will be better off...or, you can tell her the truth, and tell her that you are going to call her on her lies, everytime you hear one...thankx God Blesss

Answer 4

well i once had a friend like that i started off by being sarcastic to him on several occasions every time he lies to me i lie back with something worst to make him aware of how retarded his lies are getting after 2 weeks into it i confronted him .. =D it actually worked oh and no don't tell her you read her emails just keep a low profile about it ..

Good luck

Answer 5

If you really value this friendship you really need to talk to her..don't do it in an accusing way do it in a conversation like way. Even though you're quite upset you have to be smart about this in a way that your not going to offend her or lose the friendship. Maybe she thinks her life is boring and she spices it up for every one she meets..who knows, but be a friend to her and have a talk..Good Luck..

Answer 6

I think your friend, if any, should be the one who would be asking for help, not you. It's her problem. Either you deal with it, and you still keep being friends, or maybe you should re-think if she is such a good friend.
I believe is almost impossible to improve others around in such basic things such as lying. You can certainly work on yourself, and someday she might do it also.
:o) Best of luck!

Answer 7

tell her you read e-mail that you know about her lie and ask her please to stop those lies before you guys lose friendship