just reliezed that the father of my baby makes me misrable and he thinks that he will be a good father on his own with out making a effort in our relationship. Ive done everything up til last night when i feel like the both of us went completlly crazy on eachother and it was so bad for my baby. Im so scared because im due in 6 weeks and i have no support from him. he drinks, and smokes all the time and is extremly selfish. I will not call him anymore or return his calls because it hurts me.. but i cant decide whether to involve him in my pregnancy. I know he will change and be a good father but he hates me and i feel so alone. Its hard looking at other pregnant women with there husbands enjoying this precious time. How can i let go of my strong feelings for him? How do i show him he cant walk all over me if he wants a part in my daughters life? How can help myself from calling him or letting down my guard at all when im around him?
2007-09-08 12:43:40 · 7 answers · asked by Cerina L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Ideally he would stop the drinking and smoking and walk the straight and narrow so that you can be a happy little family of three. However, realistically, that probably will not happen. So, what you need to do is concentrate on yourself and your child and keep him at arm's length. Don't prevent him from being part of your daughter's life (unless he would be harmful to her in some way) and just focus on the two of you. A period of separation would allow him to see what he could be a part of. Babies usually bring about positive changes in people. Just give it time.
2007-09-08 12:52:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not alone this happen to alot of people. You don't have to let your guard down just because your relationship is not at its best. What matters is that your about to be a mommy and you need to try your best at loving it and providing what you can. Even if you and the father doesn't get along doesn't mean he wont be a good father. If he's not just give as much love and effort as you can to be a wonderful parent. You can do it, stop worrying so much. Take a deep breath and turn over a new leaf.
2007-09-08 20:50:16 · answer #2 · answered by TLHGSS6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first hewouldnt be a good father .hes not gentle and loving to u so how do u expect him to be loving to ur son or daughter and do leave him forever no games just dump him ,that will rock his world and second make sure he gives you money for the child it will be hard on u if u dont and most of all when u feel like talking to him call or email a fiend that will remind u of all the reason u are not together.
2007-09-08 20:04:33 · answer #3 · answered by orlando d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know this is so hard...i was pregnant last year and had a very rough year. my son makes it worth it though. you have to remember this...you are a mom now, and you need to love that little girl more than anyone or anything. you will when she is born, i promise. but RIGHT NOW you need to take care of the baby and yourself and get away from him. anyone who is smoking, drinking, and HURTING YOU is not going to be a positive influence for your sweet little girl. you need to surround yourself with positive people and feelings right now. as hard is it is to do, you have to make yourself do it. if you can get past this hump, you will fall in love with your daughter and it will be so much easier to do the right thing by her. surround yourself with friends, family, ANYONE who will support you and be with you throughout the next few months. If he is bveing like this now, he will be in the future. Put yourself and your precious girl first and get away now. Best of luck to you- I know there are happy times ahead!
2007-09-08 20:14:29 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the guy is like that than the better for u to do it alone ..do u have close family ....they are the best ...Its tough at first but than you will see how much better it will be you wont have to worry about him and put all your attetion on your baby..all he will do is stress you out and a baby does that enough..lol...
2007-09-09 00:09:38 · answer #5 · answered by shine11 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with all the hormones in you right now, you arent making good decisions, i wish he was
you'll need help in labor, remember what he was like when you loved him? maybe he can help... i hope the birth of his child will help him grow up... good luck
2007-09-08 19:48:52 · answer #6 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your seeing early what your up against later...you know what you gotta do!
2007-09-08 19:59:25 · answer #7 · answered by tanjie_092557 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋