Depression and relationships?

Question

can you enter a relationship with someone if you are emotionally withdrawn and depressed and have anxiety disorders?. i have a enormous pressure to get over my problems cause i like someone who likes me back but i cant express myself to them because of my emotional withdrawal? shall i just been open and honest and express my feelings to that person anyway?

Answer 1

The best thing to do is to wait to enter a relationship until you feel comfortable with yourself. If you have to ask, you know the answer. Everyone has emotional baggage, so in addition to your own, you will have to be prepared for the baggage the other person will be bringing into the relationship. What matters is that you not let the past interfere with your future. It is not uncommon for us to hear someone say that they are not ready for a relationship, or waiting and needing some space. What they are doing is taking the time to sort through their emotional baggage and get their proverbial **** together before embarking on the journey of a relationship again. It is a wise thing to do. Don't just jump into a relationship to be in one. There is no time clock that you have to race against.

Answer 2

You can definitely be in a relationship with depression and anxiety. But it will affect your partner and hurt your relationship. It might even make you have to break up.

You should find a nice therapist and get treatment for it. It's OK to tell the one you like how you feel, but you need to work on your emotional problems as soon as possible. If you start getting better, it will also help you with your love life.

Don't wait, life is no fun when you let depression and anxiety run your life. I hope things work out well for you and the one you like : - )

Answer 3

i've been in a relationship with depression on both sides, it really isn't worth getting into it, you need to love yourself before you can love others. I lost my best friend and the women i love with all my heart, but depression really can effect the way you feel. It can drain people and the worst thing is the depressive person never sees what it does to their partner.

When you are depressed you are not you, i think everyone would agree. you like different things and enjoy different things, such as drinking alone, sitting in bed all day doing nothing. if you are depressed and you fall for somone, when you get better they may not be the kind of person you want any more. if you are fine and become depressed in a relationship you may start to go off the person because there not what you want at that time. As they say like attracts like, happy people don't really like being around depressed people and depressed people don't like being around happy people. you need to work on yourself and be happy with yourself. you could try and be friends, let them know the deal and see where it goes from there. my advice is don't rely on her entirely for support. depressively people need a whole team of people to help.

Answer 4

Not telling the other person of your condition only adds to your anxiety and depression. It is a tough act to conceal your depression and anxiety even though you feel motivated to get better for the other person's sake. I suggest you come clean. Present it in a way that doesn't scare them away but where they can truly understand where you're at. That person may want to be with you anyway and be a terrific support for you. Or they may not want any part of it. Either way, honesty is the best way to go in your situation.

Answer 5

I have the same problem. In the past it never worked out because my depression really ruined the relationship. But what I do know.. is to be open about your being depression and having anxiety, because just bringing it up after hiding it makes things in the relationships a ton worse, believe me. Don't try to be someone else just because you're trying to show you're okay, or trying to prove you're better when you aren't. Don't always put attention on yourself negatively because of it. Just don't lie about it. Good luck.

Answer 6

I had depression issues, serious ones, before my current boyfriend and I got together.

I had alot of problems, depression, cutting, nevousness...

He and I have both liked each other, but before we had actualy gotten together I told him.
" I like you, alot. I have some problems, though.."
And then I explained to him why.

He's agreat guy, he understood. He wanted to be with me, so he took time and helped me threw all of my problems.
That was eight months ago, and he and I are still very happy, and I love him to death.

So I say give it a try. If hes the right guy, then he'll understand, and be there for you. A real man would.

Take your time, learn to trust and lean on him.

But don't be afraid to enter a relationship with someone becuase of depression. In my case, it helped me.

Maybe it will for you?

Answer 7

Even though you maintain you have a lot of personal issues, Tavare, none of them need to prevent you from just putting it out there, in other words, just expressing yourself to others. You express yourself well to me and I have no trouble understanding you at all. The way you write, your writing style and all, are comfortable and clear. None of your anxiety shows up in your writing, only to the extent that you state that it is so for you. That is the good part about being able to write it down. You have been looking more closely into yourself than ever, and yes, you have a wide margin of possibilities with other people. In fact, some people when they see or sense you are having a time of it expressing yourself will go out of their way to put you at your ease, so you will feel comfortable talking with them. I notice you have very little difficulty writing to me, for example, which is great. I think it is because I am so straightforward when I write back to you. I simply say what I mean. And to get along with possibly that girl you have your eye on, an equal amount of just straightforward, ordinary conversation will work very nicely. You may, it is true, feel a little nervous when you first begin, but within two or three (long) minutes, you will begin to relax, and just start talking about the things that are important to you. She may well say something to you that will relax you more than you have felt in ages. People have that ability to make us calm down. You have crossed so many barriers lately in coming out from under wraps, not only from being in the house, but realising that the Chinese herbal medicine is not the answer. As foolish as that might sound, everything you find which does not work is just as important as the things which do. You are charting a new path here and the path is your life. You are exploring your feelings, your inner pain, the desire to communicate with others, you are consciously and openly acknowledging the need to connect with others, you are stating and facing your extreme loneliness, and all of this work you are doing is bringing you closer to breaking out of the old way of doing things when all you could do is just sit there and take what life would hand you. You are changing into someone who is shaping the way he lives and this may be new for you, but you definitely are doing it. Keep at it, and ask your questions, as many people here are doing their level best to answer you honestly. You are making headway here and before you know it, before too long, you will be meeting with the girl you like and that will be the beginning of a new friendship, which will be good for you, for certain. Take good care and keep writing to us. We can see you are moving forward through a lot of things that were a kind of obstacle-course for you. The last four or five days of this week have been rather amazing, the number of things you have faced and spoken of is awesome. It's like you've left no stone unturned. Keep going. You are making all kinds of progress, especially with your inner feelings about things.
Best to you from, Chris in South Portland, Maine, U.S.A.

Answer 8

First of all, I'd try to learn the cause of your actual depression and solve it if possible. If you get much anxiety because u cannot control your desire of talk to that person, simply do it. Ask h@ to have a drink and tell h@ everything!!! Your live comes to the end!!! come on!!!

Answer 9

yes just as laundry gets clean by washing it you can heal over time ., if things get in the way then the person isn't understanding enough so whatever u learn from it can be used in the next relationship...fear not enjoy love everyone is entitled unless they are an abusive- monster.

Answer 10

Please be upfront with her, she needs to know what is going on and see if she is willing to go through it with you. Depression is a life changing problem it can and will destroy you and those you love.
Maybe you should just step back and see if you want this, or if you should wait, get more help and then continued . It is a hard choice for you and for her, I pray it works out.