My boss is flirting with me at work, and I am granted special favors because of it. Granted, these "favors" make my life easier in some ways, but I don't like the reason for which they are given. Also, my co-workers are whispering in the background, and I can tell they're unhappy about these favors and his attention to me. He's maybe 3 years older than I am, and pretty attractive, but I am not attracted to him at all. How do I stop him without getting him angry and possibly firing me?
2007-09-08 12:15:37 · 16 answers · asked by captainjacksparrow12_12 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry, I forgot to mention this earlier, but this man is the head of the company I work at, so he doesn't really have a boss. He hasn't actually touched me yet, and his favors aren't really the kind I can turn down. Several of my co-workers are my best friends, and they are the one's telling me about the whispering and gossip.
2007-09-08 12:38:49 · update #1
I think that working relationships always get really close. Are you sure that he fancies you, and the favours aren't just because he respects the amount of work you get done and you're his most efficient employee?
If he really does, whatever you do, he won't fire you for going complaining. Sexual harrassment cases are much too expensive for them to risk.
I think you first need to try fairly heavy hints, although maybe you've already tried that as you're writing here. But if he gets close, back off, i can understand that often it'll be at your desk, but move away! If ever he offers you favours, turn them down. If he makes flirtatious comments, point out that he's your boss in a friendly way.
If you can't deal with it amicably, I'm pretty sure that his boss will be able to help you out. At my last job, there was a guy who started following me home and stalking me most of the time. I didn't really know what to do, after trying to make my non interest clear, and after 8 months, i told my boss, who dealt with it very quickly and successfully. As this guy is your boss, it makes it a bit harder, but if you go to his superior, explain the steps you have taken to correct his behaviour. Give examples of the inappropriate things he has done (keep a log of texts/emails/comments). I am pretty sur ethat his boss will be understanding. Maybe suggest a horizontal move within the company?
You'll be fine. You might make him a little angry in the short term,. but he'll get over it, and you def wont get fired.
Good luck dealing with it, it's a tough one.
xx
2007-09-08 12:30:03 · answer #1 · answered by Lucy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop letting him do these favors for you. If he offers to have someone else do some of your work, tell him you can handle it on your own. If the other workers see that you are not taking his flirting seriously, they will back off on the gossip. If you keep letting him pay the attention to you, he will think you are interested and maybe try for more. If you are really uncomfortable with it, ask him to stop. If he fires you because of it, make him put it in writing that the only reason he fired you is because you asked him to stop flirting with him. It is illegal and you can sue the pants off the company.
2007-09-08 12:22:50 · answer #2 · answered by harleychic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is classic sexual harassment so go to a higher up and inform them, but you better have som damn good evidence of this happening or you could be in alot of trouble. Now if your boss touches you in any way you can file criminal charges against him. If he does this with no one around you can always tell him youve contacted a lawyer about sexualharassment and what hes doing falls under it so if he doesnt leave you alone. Now you maybe able t find another female employee that he has harassed and is in the same boat looking for help too. You dont need to take this if you like your job. Contact a local womans help group for more help. Good luck
2007-09-08 12:27:46 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let him treat you special and stay professional.
Don't go out with him.
Accidentally let slip a rumor that you have a BF now.
Ur boss is a dipshlt, I would never date anyone who worked for me, no matter how attractive.
2007-09-08 12:38:32 · answer #4 · answered by MisterO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time he tries to flirt with you tell him that don't appreciate the way he's treating you and demand that he stops it. If he doesn't listen go to the higher up (if there is one) and complain.
2007-09-08 12:22:00 · answer #5 · answered by huhyftcgbjhu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
appears like sexual harassment to me, that stated are not getting entangled with him, the place of work gossips will or are having a field day with this. additionally, regrettably, many situations in this way of problem the boss in no way finally ends up searching for yet another activity however the objective of his affection does. Have a delightful chat with him and tell him suitable to returned off.
2016-10-10 05:27:14 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i got an idea bring your ''boyfriend'' to work one day and start making out with him right in front of your boss
or do it where you know your boss will see ya both
that will probably get him off your back
2007-09-08 12:52:33 · answer #7 · answered by kara :D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
:( sounds like a bad situation..
which do you value more? your co workers and possibly friends or keeping your job?
If i were you, i'd quit :(
2007-09-08 12:21:16 · answer #8 · answered by marshmellows 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Simple, talk to him nicely about it and if he fires you then you can take this into a lawyers office and get some more information about it, and maybe sue him.
2007-09-08 12:27:22 · answer #9 · answered by blackbelt1123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confront him about it and ask him if he can act like a professional because he settin a bad example for the other co workers because they are talkin about u
2007-09-08 12:22:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋