Am i crazy or is this how im suppose to feel??? please answer!!! i need help!?

Question

yesterday was my 2nd day of highschool and im a freshman..I HATE IT!!! i dont know any1, i have no freinds and i cant do my homework becuz i cant open my locker!!! i cried myself to sleep all last night..and i cried SOOOO MUCH today..i dunno maybe im just not use to highschool becuz way to many classes and lots of hw and im always getting lost. luckily i made atleast 2 freinds but im not happy!! PLEASE HELP ME!!!! =[

Answer 1

High School for the 1st year is always an awkward one - give yourself a pep talk tommorow & believe me the next day will get easier - The good news is that you can never have another bad first day again... Meeting people will come, just have a positive attitude & people will gravitate to it...

Answer 2

darling, you are more than normal. At least you're admitting what all of us feel during moments of personal growth - you're uncomfortable, and you'd like things not to change! Good for you - you got up on time, you made some new friends, and you made it through the first week. Don't even THINK about giving in to the feelings of helplessness. I bet everyone around you feels the same way - my daughter is also a freshman and one of her friends didn't even get a locker, and no one would share with her (which seemed mean)....in the end, the real story was that the people that wouldn't share a locker couldn't OPEN their lockers but didn't want to admit it!!

Advice: Go to the best teacher you have so far, and ask for some support - just tell her/him you're nervous, and ask if there is something they recommend to help (my son did this a few years ago as a freshman and the math teacher had him help in the morning with projects like xeroxing so he had something to do until he made friends and felt comfortable.

If possible, get to school early and figure out that dang locker. It's like the darn grocery carts - some of them are harder than others...yours (if it's old) may be sticky. If you suspect this, take some WD-40 spray to fix it, or ask for the janitor's help.

Take gum or lifesavers to school if they're allowed - passing around something makes you feel in charge, calmer (Giving is a calming activity, and can help create bonds).

Join something - anything. Create a study group for a hard class, join Spanish club or chess club or community service club. I GUARANTEE you that someone smart and sensitive like you will soon find your way if you start with small groups, gain some sense of controol over your surroundings, and ask a few grown ups (or upper classmen you trust, like neighbors) for help. And try not to phrase it as though you're petrified - other people are afraid of "fear". Just explain - as you do, I'm sure, very well - that you want to make the most of the years of high school ahead and you want any advice that will help you excell.

Good luck, and please let us all know if it's better next week. We're rooting for you!!!

Answer 3

You may already have determined this to be a scary place and formed negative thoughts before havinga an expereince. If you have already made 2 friends in two days I think that is saying alot. Give yourself some time and really try to expect less or see what kind of things you would like to get involved in. High school has many oppertunities depending on the size of your school. This is a way to stay busy, meet new people and can help you later on when applying towards college or even work. Be sure to go by the office and ask for help on getting your locker open- it could be broken. As far as classes and homework it is overwhelming but if you could do 7th grade, ninth is not nearly as hard and it does get easier with every grade. Get some friends who are in the same classes and become study buddies.

Answer 4

First things first. You have to quit crying. Not only does that not solve anything but it doesn't even make you feel any better. Go to the bathroom and wash your face in cool water. While you're in there do some calming breathing. To the count of four inhale deeply through your nose, hold in the air to the count of four then slowly, exhale through your mouth to the count of four, Repeat a few times till you feel yourself calm enough to think clearly.

Now, let's start with the easiest one first. . .opening your locker. Ask one of your teachers or the Principal/Assistant Principal what the procedure is when someone (lost their locker key/forgot the combination/ etc., etc) and can't get in their locker. I promise, you are not the only person this has ever happened to and there will be a remedy. Be prepared though because you may have to buy a new lock, pay for a key etc.

Also, you are, without doubt, not the only one in your class/school who is new. Don't expect to be class favorite right away, just take your time, be open and friendly but don't be pushy. Don't try to be anything you're not and you'll find people will respond to you. What may also help (it always worked for me -- back in the Bronze Age when I was a Freshman in High school -- ) is to look around and see if you see someone else in your class who looks as lost and lonely as you feel and strike up a conversation.

A good honest opening line might be, "Are you new here too? It's really rough starting a school where you don't know anyone isn't it?"

You really can be as happy as you allow yourself to be. I encourage you to talk to your parents (calmly please) about what you're feeling and see what they suggest that you do and/or think of the approach you want to take. If for some reason you don't feel you can talk to your parents, find a teacher you feel a rapport with or the school counselor and discuss it with him/her. If you're as open with them as you've been here I'm sure you'll find a support system.

Answer 5

I can't speak for us all, but for a lot of people, transferring from middle to high school is hard, specifically the first few days or weeks. I'll try and cover the basics of your issues.

Being a freshman will get easier as you go. It'll take a bit to adjust to your new surroundings and having a lot of new people there as opposed to the same kids you grew up with. My best advice to give you on this is to stick with your friends until everything evens out, it's what I did last year and it helped me a LOT.

About your locker, this usually is an easy problem to solve, you shouldn't have to worry much. Your school should have a list of what lockers in the school have what combinations, so get your locker number and then go to the office. They should be able to tell you what your combination is.

For homework, I would again suggest you ask your friends, especially if you're in any classes together, for help in completing it. Not only will you get it done faster if you focus, but you'll have fun at the same time. Think it sounds cheesey? Try it.

I can't say much for getting lost, the best thing to do is to find where your classes are, and learn how to get to them from one specific point in your school, and how to get to that point. I'd suggest a commons area, or an atrium if your school has one, and then go there and to your class every day. Until you start to learn more of the lay of the school, I'd suggest not lingering around with friends as often.

Or...

Alternatively, if you don't have as many friends to rely on (as I didn't) just focus on your studies until things even out. Ask your parents for help with your work if you think they can. And if not, ask anyway, they may know something without you knowing about it. If you still can't find your way around, have your parents take you up to the school after hours so you can walk around for a bit. Most schools (especially larger ones) have to stay open at night for when the janitors clean the place up.

And don't worry. Take things one day at a time and everything will eventually get smoother.

Answer 6

You're not crazy. High school can be stressful at first because so many things are happening all at once. I had trouble opening my locker at first, too. It just takes practice. Make sure you do it fast enough, but also make sure the numbers are accurate enough, too. About getting lost, see if the office has maps of the school. You could also walk around the school before or after classes to get to know where everything is. As for making friends, try to find people you have things in common with. Good luck!

Answer 7

Give it a chance. It is all new to you. Can someone else get your locker open and if it is that you aren't sure how to open it, could one of the two friends you made show you how to do it. Pretty soon you will be getting around the high school with no problem. Perhaps you could go on the weekend just to check it out and find out where things are. It's just a big change from Junior High or Middle School.

Answer 8

Trust me, everyone feels this way on their first day of high school! I'm guessing that you have just some from a middle school and high school is new to you, right? Don't worry! It may look big and scary, but once you get used to everything, it will be ok, and will actually start to be fun! As far as making friends, just be nice to people and ask them what lunch they have or something. I used to be really shy and this year, I was like, "screw it, I'm sick of not having a lot of people to talk to," so I just started talking to new people and actually made some friends! It will be ok...I promise! Oh, and just ask a teacher or someone to help you get your locker open! Don't worry about looking stupid! You could also ask a cute guy to help you get it open too! That's also a good way to start a conversation! ;)

Hope this helps and good luck! ♥

P.S. We're not crazy...we're just teenagers! LOL! ☺

Answer 9

Oh my, that's really sad that you're so overwhelmed by the change from grade school to high-school! No, you're not crazy -- have you been assigned a guidance counselor at your new school? If you have, you should try to get an appointment to see him or her as soon as possible. I suspect you could go to the main office of your school and ask to see someone for help. I'm positive that if you let a student adviser or guidance counselor in on the fact that you are having a rough time adjusting and finding your way, they will be more than happy to help you in any way they can. No one wants your transition to be a difficult one! You are not crazy and you are going to be fine. Don't be afraid to ask your parents for help too, if you feel that they would be understanding and supportive to you. Not everyone responds the same to change and transitions in their life and that's okay! Try to relax and don't be afraid or timid about asking for help -- this is all going to be okay...I promise!

Answer 10

No. first of all you need to calm down, and stay calm. You have to realise that High school is the last four years of academic learning that's going to determine what kind of adult you will be. High school can be so much fun... Every kind of person is sectioned off into groups, like the rich, poor, Roadies, Geeks, snobbs, Cool~People, and so on. Just take your time and observe people and choose the ones who have similar intrest as you do. Or feel free to open up to the ones who open up to you, instead of being bashful, these kind of freind will help you remember the combination to your locker too!!! Peace boo!! and good luck!!!LOL.....