i am constanley undermined and my confedence is getting worst want can i do
2007-09-08 12:02:13 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Bullying and harassment can continue unchecked because people often don't want to talk about it. Bullies come in all shapes and sizes; they can be men or women, managers, supervisors or other workers. Bullies can harass one person or a group of people.
What you should do
Identify the bully or bullies
Make sure you know exactly who is doing the bullying. Is there a ringleader? Who has the power?
Keep records
Keep a diary of bullying incidents, when and where it happened, who was responsible and how you felt
Talk about it
Discuss the problem with other workers, health and safety representatives and union officials.
Do not retaliate
Don't become a bully yourself or use physical violence - you may be seen as no better than the bullies themselves
Stay where you are
Don't resign or seek a transfer - this would be letting the bully win
Make a formal complaint
A formal complaint should be in writing and you need to keep a copy. Make sure your complaint shows a consistent pattern of mistreatment and that you use the correct procedure (get help if you are not sure).
2007-09-08 13:53:29 · answer #1 · answered by Hot Coco Puff 7 · 9⤊ 0⤋
I personally think this issue all depends on how fit and active the "older" person is. My friend is in her mid 70`s and has a very active terrier and she takes him out every morning for 90 minutes and every afternoon for an hour. She can walk for miles and leaves ME standing. She has made adequate arrangements for the dog should anything happen to her. I know loads of people in their 60`s and 70`s that have working dogs that compete in working trials and even one very elderly lady of over 80 who still competes and qualifies with her German shepherd. I am in my late 60`s and i walk my two gsd`s for 2-3 hours every day. They keep me fit and give me a reason to get out and exercise and to socialise at my training venue. As long as a person can give a dog what exercise and care it needs and makes arrangements for its welfare if they should "kick the bucket" Then I don`t think age should stop anyone from getting a dog whether its a rescue dog or not. I did watch this program with Paul O`Grady. The staff at Battersea obviously thought these people who adopted the "old" staffie and the 5 year old Malamute were capable of giving the dogs the care they needed or they would not have let them adopt. Dorothy S. German Shepherds can cope very well with being rehomed. All dogs are very adaptable and soon settle into a new home , especially if the new owner is a good "leader" and someone the dog can look up to. I have friends that have adopted gsd`s from shelters and they have a very strong bond with them. I also have had two rescue gsd`s in the past who settled in with me, no trouble. Jmo.
2016-05-19 22:29:41 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being bullied at work constitutes a "hostile work environment" and is illegal. As with any abuse you first need to document the incidents and then you need to take the issue to HR. If it's a situation of feeling like you are back in high school and you don't fit in with the popular kids you have no case but if there is actual actions being taken to intimidate or harrass you 1.document, 2.complain, and 3. if you get nowhere sue. Good luck I hope you find your answer.
2007-09-08 12:17:47 · answer #3 · answered by Wolfen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lucy, follow the advice given by your friends in yahoo. Apparently your self-esteem is low for you not to take a stand.
Unfortunately, people detect this and take advantage of people like you. Do not be in fear of taking a stand, sometimes it takes determination and courage, and no matter what the outcomes is your well-being as a human being is priceless.
2007-09-08 12:26:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are being bullied becouse you are allowing yourself to be a victum, and that is true of all people who are bullied, but if you are finding it hard dealing with this go somewhere quiet take a few deep breaths to calm down and confront the bully if they continue tell HR they will sort it out immediatly. but if you want to leave find another job as you can't put your self into an uncomfortable sittuation all the time and stay confident I hope your situation improves
2007-09-08 13:45:39 · answer #5 · answered by manapaformetta 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Why don't you try something very daring - like starting your own business. It may sound crazy but with a little bit of determination and luck, you will succeed.
2007-09-12 08:47:13 · answer #6 · answered by Optimist E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to human resourses and let them know what's going on at work, whom you're being bullied by etc.*
you can't allow others to mistreat you no matter who they are. As for finding another job...it's hard for alot of ppl, just keep trying...go to your local community centre and ask for help with your resume, etc* GoodLucK*
2007-09-08 12:23:38 · answer #7 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was under the impression that your employer had a duty of care regards this. If it is a fellow employee then advise them that you will report them if it does not stop. if it is your employer then you can advise them that if it does not stop then you will have to sue them for constructive dismissal.
2007-09-08 12:12:15 · answer #8 · answered by john m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the right of working in normal circunstances.
Get legal advice.
Good luck!!!
2007-09-10 18:09:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to your supervisor or HR person and file a complaint.
2007-09-08 12:09:42 · answer #10 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋