God i dont know what the hell to do, she has serious bi polar and walked out on me saying she would never come back and never wants me again.. and packed up all her **** and left.. but now that she finds out im going to PA to hang out with my friends, she doesnt want me to go shes saying im leaving her all alone and ditching her... and that if i went then she'd definately never come back, i love her but i also want to go, and im also kind of sick of these games shes playing with me.. i dont know what the hell to do please help me.
2007-09-08 11:46:45 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we were together on and off three years and she was calling me crazy and horrible hours ago when i treated her like gold, just read all my old questions
2007-09-08 11:56:42 · update #1
You can't fix her. You know that. If you feel like you're going to be better off without the drama, then you need to cut the ties. There's no reason why you shouldn't go away on a weekend trip with friends. SHE left YOU, remember?
2007-09-08 11:51:13 · answer #1 · answered by Mel 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have to say I agree with you. You're like a yo-yo to her...she wants you, she doesn't, she does....you get the drift.
If you are sure you've had enough, then don't let her false accusations stop you from living your life and moving on...and not just literally.
You're right. She's trying to control you, using the oldest trick in the book: guilt.
I can understand you love her. I can understand she's manic-depressive (that's what is was called before it was "politically corrected" to "bi-polar"). I can't understand why she won't get help, if she knows she's losing the best thing that ever happened to her through her chemical imbalance (and that's what manic-depressive usually winds up being diagnosed as: a chemical imbalance that can be controlled with prescription medication).
Good luck to you. You deserve better.
2007-09-08 18:55:39 · answer #2 · answered by bitadkins 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"she has serious bi polar and walked out on me saying she would never come back and never wants me again"
So she admits to not wanting you again, yet she sees you as ditching her. How's that work, when SHE was the one that ditched YOU. Tell her to take a hike. Even if you stick with her, seems like she'd try her hardest to keep you from hanging out with your friends in favor of her (which I see as BS).
2007-09-08 18:55:05 · answer #3 · answered by J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is she diagnosed with this bi-polar disorder and the best i can say to you is don't let that bhatch try to run your life she left you she let you go so take advantage of this sitution and tell her that if you think i am ditching you why did you leave me and why do i need to be at your bec and call find somebody else i am going out with my friends and if you think she might try stalking you get the one order that the 5-0 give you when obessive people start folling you around okies
good luck
2007-09-08 18:58:01 · answer #4 · answered by i like people 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to get lost!! She left you, And now she's playing games with your head! She HAD her chance! Tell her exactly that. You can't make her think she can just take you back whatever mood she's in. A Relationship is mutual. You don't need someone playing head games. Don't go back to her.
2007-09-08 18:53:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a pretty simple answer to this complex question. If you love her and want to work things through, you need to take care of your business.
However, if you have a reasonable doubt that this isn't right and/or you don't know if it's not right, you need to explore other options. As someone who went through a breakup(s), its always smart to surround yourself with friends. If you aren't sure where things are headed, you need to give yourself the space to be with friends.
2007-09-08 18:56:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she left you, she has no business telling you what you should be doing with your time. If she wanted to be with you, she should have stayed and worked it out. You need to spell it out to her that she doesn't get to mess with you, that threats or ulitimatums don't work for you. (AKA, games) And let her know she messed up. If she wanted you to be with her, she shouldn't have taken off. And tell her when you get back, if she wants to be real with you, maybe you'll consider talking to her again. She will try messing with you as long as you let her. So, don't let her. Go, have fun. She will either prove she'll back down when you stand up for yourself, or prove herself more mentally ill. Either way, you'll have a better idea what you need to do next.
2007-09-08 18:55:11 · answer #7 · answered by Gorgeous 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to PA. Explain if she asks or get pissy.. You left.. chose it all on your own.. she left all rights to ask you to do anything when she walked out the door..
Let her know she doesnt get to choose if she comes back.. you do.. you may love her.. but its something you have to think about cause she cant act adult.
2007-09-08 18:54:08 · answer #8 · answered by jeselynn_81 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bi polar. Put a restaining order out on her.
2007-09-08 18:50:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pack your sshhiitt and get, granted I have had some psycho bangs and they are great, no doubt, you just have to know when to get the hell away from them. Just make sure that she has no way to get into your place while you are away.
2007-09-08 18:52:00 · answer #10 · answered by psycho magnet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋