please help me... i am a freshmen students who wants to ba a cool guy but i am acting like a nerd.... please help me... everyone in our school hates me, nobody wants to talk to me and they are just avoiding me.. i just want to hang out with the cool guys in our school and be pupular or famous..
2007-09-08 11:24:41 · 12 answers · asked by Dev!L~AcE 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know just your type. Well, first of all, if you try too hard to be cool, then you'll just get annoying to some people and that may be why they hate you. When trying to get attention, make sure you aren't getting negative attention. I don't know you, so I don't really know what to say. Some boys your age just can't graduate from their middle school or even elem. school years and hold on to childish things which make them nerdy. Just try to act natural around people, and don't TRY to fit in, just DO fit in. See what other cool guys are wearing, how they talk, etc. and try to be like them, but don't copy them, whatever you do. Maybe join some sport team, or get active and make friends. Start out with making some other nerdy friends, then try hanging out with the normies, then, and only when you are absolutley positive that you can hang out with the popular guys, go for it, and don't be shy, but don't be overly outgoing. If you have a long history of being nerdy or the weird kid, this will be very hard for you, but don't give up!
2007-09-08 11:34:51 · answer #1 · answered by KOOLKAT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If everyone hates you then you are doing something wrong. Maybe you're not the most pleasant of personalities and you can change that. Even the most successful people that have others that envy them have people that say they are either pleasant or unpleasant. What you need to do is find the book, 'How to win friends and influence others', by Dell Carnegie. It may help you to pin point exactly what you are doing that turns others off to you. Hanging out with cool guys is the least of your problems if you can't relate to anyone. Besides that, being a nerd isn't necessarily a bad thing, since nerds tend to be very successful and attract a lot of people. There's more here than meets the eye with you and that's what's at the root of your problems. Find out what it is and work on it.
2007-09-08 11:38:20 · answer #2 · answered by sustasue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try so hard, who cares what other people think, just be yourself.
Number on thing, don't be over-eager and don't try too hard to fit in, just try to be yourself.
Also, charisma is a natural attribute that some people have more of than others. Don't let it get you down though if u just don't have it, it's not the end of the world if you aren't the most popular guy in HS. There's always college and then real life where people don't judge you as much.
2007-09-08 12:19:02 · answer #3 · answered by MisterO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm muslim too and that i basically wanna say i be attentive to precisely the place you're coming from even even with the undeniable fact that i don't positioned on hijab. I even have been interior the comparable concern. All i will say is basically be mushy with who you're as a substitute of being so harsh with your self like somebody else stated!! If its changing your visual appeal which will enable that, then so be it yet i'm particular your appealing the type you're, do not could desire to alter your character! lol The greater you improve up and mature the greater advantageous you grow to be and comprehend you dont could desire to alter the exterior :) desire i helped!!! Goodluck :D
2016-10-18 08:54:32 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
form your own group of friends, not just because they're cool but because they share the same interest. since you are a nerd, you have an advantage others don't.. intelligence. this will take a while but... learn mental-ism, hypnosis, speech, debating, how to listen, and how to read body languages. this is the beginning of becoming a con artist. the thing is, you'll have the knowledge in a few years, it will slowly help in high school, but it will help you out the rest of your life once you know them all. know what to say and know what not to say... that's the end of my advice.
2007-09-08 11:35:30 · answer #5 · answered by sukebe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste your time trying to fit in with the cool guys, just find some friends and hang out with them and don't worry about if any of you are cool.
2007-09-08 11:30:02 · answer #6 · answered by xg6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NERDS are cool I prefer hanging out with the nerds over the "cool" kids..dont try to be something your not then your fake...be yourself people will come around and start liking you..
2007-09-08 11:28:45 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't suck up to anyone, try sports, do positive things like hold the door open for girls you don't even know. act laid back. think about every single thing you say before it comes out your mouth and ask yourself it is what a cool person would respond.
2007-09-08 11:30:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all you should be who you were born to be. Your expectations might not lead up to being a born leader or popular but if they don't like you then it's their loss. Find people who are like you, and except yourself for who you are. Don't change just so others like you. Always be yourself. You were born to be YOU not to be THEM.
GoodLuck♥
2007-09-08 11:30:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
relax..you dont have to be the most popular guy in order to be happy..being popular is quite superficial anyway..
its better if you find people that u truly connect with, and make friends that you will enjoy their company and laugh with, and share your feelings, than trying to be with the popular people..
If you still are desperate to be with them, you can find a way to get into their 'entourage', but I would say, dont even bother..
2007-09-08 11:28:49 · answer #10 · answered by Girl About Town 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋