Is it wrong that I find myself want to spank other peoples children?

Question

I have a 6 year old daughter, who is very very well behaved, I have only had to spank her maybe 10 times in her entire short life. When I was growing up, I am 26 now, if one of my neighbors caught me or any of the other kids in the neighborhood acting out we would get spanked by them, then they would march us home, tell our parents what we did, we would have to apologize to them and then our parents would let us have it! It was not just my family that was like this it was the WHOLE neighborhood, if I got in trouble at my house, my neighbors would lecture me as well. What ever happened to it takes a village? Today kids are so bad and disrespectful that I just want to walk up to them and let them have it! Then to make matters worse I want to yell at the parents for raising little snots. Is this normal?

I am not just talking about my neighbors kids I am talking about the random kids I see at the mall, cursing, running around, throwing temper-tantrums. The other day I went to the mall with my 6 year old daughter we were at the food court, I over heard a group of what had to be 12 year olds talking about sex in very graphic details, when I walked over to them and asked them to either change the subject or move and they giggled and said what am I going to do if they didn't it took all my strength not to smack them! Oh and their parents had dropped them off! I would have hung around till the parents showed up and talked to the parents but we had tickets for Underdog!

I would never do it, it is just a thought I have had!

To all of the people who are saying that spanking is wrong! You are what is wrong with kids today! I got spanked (a spanking is much different than a beating). What is that saying oh yea Spare the rod spoil the child! I am sure we would have less gangs, less violence, less basic human scum, if parents were to spank their children! And the ones who are saying spanking is wrong I am sure you children are monsters, and the reason I want to spank other peoples children! It takes a village damn it! Todays children are disrespectful little bastards! It is because of your "oh he is just a child" attitude that they have no fear in talking back to adults! SPANK THAT CHILD!

And if you don't spank your children and they are good then congratulations you are a rare exception! Good for you!

Answer 1

I feel the same way. Instead of the parents taking control of there children the children take control of the parent. I blame it on all of the books out there on parenting. I found it best to do as my parents and grandparents. From them disciplining me as should be done whether spanking me or getting in my face and yelling I turned out to be a good kid. All the children today are rude and made to grow up to fast. My children are well behaved kids and that's because they do have consequences for all there actions.

Answer 2

It's not wrong for wanting to but you obviously know you couldn't or shouldn't it is the parents position. But yea I agree. I want to spank kids all the time. I agree with you about the parents who don't spank or at least use a discipline that works. I'm tired of these little short brats bossing people around. Yea, ok so children are people I agree. But they are not adults and it is our responsibility to raise them to act like good adults. I say more spanking less brats.

Answer 3

I totally get what you are saying, i grew up getting spanked. But that didnt really work for me, spankings was okay give me another but no kisses night and ooo i was hurt. I got both.... My dad focused on teaching me and my sisters respect and none of us were ever that bad. And i feel the same way with alot of kids, its not just spankings its like the parents are too lazy or afraid do be a PARENT!! lol They want to be their friend. my dad was my friend but i also respected him and still do to this day.
There are some situations where you shold let a kid be a kid, like there gunna want to run and play but you have to be able to let them exercise that out by playin out side or at a park or joining a team.
But there are some parents that just spank all the time. gets to the point where the kids like w.e or they are jsut scared to death of the parent , my hubs side of the family, the kids are so scared they are scared to tell the truth they just say what you want them too, even when you already saw the whole thing lol. In there case spankings only make them lie... not good when your own kid dont trust you. I plan to spank my kids but not for every last thing, But they will be punished righly for what they do

Answer 4

Funny :-) No, you are not wrong, since you do emphasise you stop at wanting to do so, and do not actually spank anyone!!!

That being said, I too get this strong urge to spank kids who just seem to need it. But, even more than that, I feel like spanking parents who are present when kids misbehave, and do nothing, or think it is a case 'kids will be kids'.

And, I do acknowlege that there are times when parents just cannot do much to handle their misbehaving kids. It is the times when there is obviously what a responsible parent should be doing, but they don't, that really get to me.

Like, someon'e child hitting against my cart repeatedly at checkout, or trying to pull the zipper on my backpack, or running around me in circles (it has happened, and in my culture that should only happen when I am ahem...an obituary).

Answer 5

Well, you are entitled to think and have all the expectations that you want for your child, but we are not all the same. If you were to act on what you think, I believe you may be charged with child abuse. Do your best to raise the child the way you want, and I think it's a good way, but what you are talking about is old school and nobody even barely touches some one else's child these days because of all the pervs and abusers who are out there. Forget about changing how other kids behave. You are only looking for trouble. If someone is rough with your child, then you have every right to speak up.

Answer 6

I understand about wanting to discipline others for their bad behaviour, however, many parents do not believe in spanking. I am one of those who do not and have not ever spanked my children. They are also very well behaved, and understand that there are consequences to their actions. Hitting is NEVER ok in our house and I would be on the phone with the police in a heartbeat if someone walked over to one of my children and spanked them. If you don't like what you see or hear, just take a deep breath and realize that you are raising your daughter the best way YOU know how, and that it is not your place to punish other peoples children.

Answer 7

Although I disagree with spanking, I wonder more and more where the "it takes a village" went to, especially when I see that so many home school, and if they have the ability to be home with a couple children, why they arent out in the schools volunteering instead and helping more.

Answer 8

i hear ya. i feel the same way. i have found myself in the same situations. i would love to say something because maybe they don't realize how bad their child is acting. i have three kids and if any of them acted like that in public they would never get away with it. i think a lot of it has to do with people being afraid of having child protective services called on them if they so discipline them in public. so in some ways your damned if you do and damned if you don't. if you spank them you get the look and if you do nothing you get the look.

Answer 9

So I guess if someone doesn't like the way you behave they can walk up and smack you? You have anger issues if you can't control situations without violence.

Answer 10

What's bad and disrespectful here is the idea of walking up to another person (yes, children ARE people) and hitting them because they aren't behaving the way you would like. Physically assaulting someone, whether your child, another person's child, or an adult, is not the way to get them to respect you.