Torn btw 2 guys, what do i do?

Question

they both love me and want to date me but i dont know which one to coose bec i have feelings for both of them

ive went on dates with both of them and it still hasnt helped me at all...like last nite i went to the football game with one of them and then the other showed up it was soo ackward...i have mayn things in common with the both of them

my heart still wants my ex and he still wants me but i cant go bac thorough what he put me thorugh...his lies and everything

they both have a great personality and they both know bout eac other

Answer 1

Why go backwards. I'd say you need to move on even if you still have feelings for the ex. You may just be a bit weary of the unknown, but what you know for sure is that you have problems with the ex. Move forward into unfamiliar but warmer waters with the new guy and let go of the past.

Answer 2

Do they know about each other? I hope not because then you'll always have this "guilt feeling" when you are with one or the other and that only clouds your judgment.

When 2 men or women are in competition with another, they will give more to give you and say all the right things, making them really not necessarily the true person they are because they are trying harder. Then once they know they have you, they may not treat you as nice as they are now for putting them through that.

I would tell each one of them you love being with them, stop telling them both you love them, that's going to make it harder on them and you once you decide.
but let them both know, you love being with them but you need more time before you "make it official". Of course they will come back with so, you mean we date other people? You let them know if that's what you want to do?
If you don't know by now which one you want to be with you may end loosing both. I don't like being given an ultimatum, so be careful and good luck 2 you :) I can't even find 1 decent guy hello out there, just kidding guys.

Answer 3

Well,why don't you try finding out more about them then you already know.It's ok to like both of them,just don't do anything you will regret in the end.I am saying you should get to know both of them more because,if you find you like one of them more than the other by what you found out,you may want to date that person and just be friends with the other person or you may be better off single and give yourself time to think about your choice.If you find that you are still in the same situation as this one,once you find out more,than why don't you all just try to be friends.That way,you all can stay in touch with each other and not have to worry about never speaking to each other again.Trust me,even if you know the person like the back of your hand,it may not always be good to date them,because alot of people make that mistake and end up breaking up and never speaking to that person again,however,if these people are your best friends,most say best friends=a happy marriage/relationship,but sometimes,that may not be true.It's good to date people,but sometimes,its better to stay friends forever.

Good luck,hope that helped:)

Answer 4

i have had this problem for so many years.... I have a boyfriend and we've been together so long we broke up for about 2 months one time because he cheated on me and i began dating a coworker we got really close and i had really strong feelings for both of them .... it was hard hurting them and its extremely hard now knowing that my coworker is the one that got the shity end of the deal and i know he would never do to me what my boyfriend did .... but i couldnt see myself in 5 yrs with him i couldnt see having babies with him or growing old together i could only see the present but with my boyfriend i could see everything and thats where i am i had to make a choice hurting both of them isnt fair pick one or pick niether dont drag it out it'll only get worse trust me ..... if u make he wrong decision atleast u made one and hey everything happens for a reason right!? good luck and try not to get yourself into this situation agian cause its easier to get into then out of gl agian....

Answer 5

You will have lots of boyfriends before you settle down with one. These may just be two stepping stones along the way. You would know if you had genuine feelings for one or the other. I think you are just enjoying the attention and why not. Maybe they will both scarper and take the decision out of your hands.....lol

Answer 6

Sort of a hard question to answer when your given that little advice. How would you answer that if you saw it? Personally, spend as much time as possible with each of them separately and try to work out what would be better in the long run. Trust your instincts and go with your heart.

Answer 7

Go out with both of them, get to know them more before you decide. Maybe after that you'll find that you prefer one over the other. I wouldn't say this is cheating, you deserve to test the products before you buy sometimes.

Answer 8

Follow your heart. If they start fighting for your attention, than don't choose either at that point, if later on one or the other starts being mature, than choose that one. I understand that this is a tough decision. But the one thing to remember is not to follow your mind, follow your heart.

Answer 9

If you cant decide it means you dont know what you really want or who you are. Id take time away from both of them and figure out what you want in life and what matters to you in a relationship.
After you figure that out you should have no problems choosing.

Answer 10

sounds like you went thru some tough stuff with your ex. We tend to remember the good times and push back the other stuff. focus on why he is your ex. you can still speak to your ex but let him know (if you want to ) your gonna give the new guy a try