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me and my boyfriend have been arguing all day and he can be a little mean sometimes today he said that im stupid and that he doesnt want to get our home we have recently rented! then this afternoon he had a little trouble and snapped at me again he over reacts to every thing and i wind up crying cause he hurts my feelings we'v talked about it and he says hes sorry and i ask him not to do it again but he does, what shall i do im in love with him we r engaged and i cant seem to get it through to him that he can be hurtful at times,, help!!!!!!!!!!!!

2007-09-08 08:23:49 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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Couples hav the littlest arguements that make then doubt whether they were even meant to be together. Every couple goes through it but you love each other. Don't let petty arguments and exchanged words be the ending result of your relationship.

2007-09-08 08:28:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

Sounds like you need some time apart to step back and consider if this is really the person you want to marry. You dont say how long you've together? R how old you are but marraige at this point does not look like something you should be rushing into.
Its possible he's just reacting to having his freedom curbed by you living together and the whole for the rest of your life thing looming in the background...
Sounds like he could be a stressed out! Keep talking its the only way to get to the bottom of whats going on with him!

2007-09-08 08:37:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Don't marry that man.

He does not truly love you. If he did, he would treat you like the princess you are. He would NEVER call you stupid.

Leave him. I know it's hard but you deserve better. :) You are obviously a very sweet, forgiving and understanding lady. I think maybe you're being a little too sweet, forgiving and understanding, and this guy doesn't deserve such compassion.

Your husband should treat you like you're the best thing he could ever imagine, and even when you're rowing you should know he cares for you and respects you. This man doesn't respect you.

Good luck sweetie, I hope you find the right man soon. :)

2007-09-08 10:32:42 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0 0

Well if you are engaged, and you decide to marry him Get Used to it! Because he will not change and it will only get worst. He will get away with whatever you will let him get away with. He may see a mean thing today, apologize about it... then you say its okay. Two weeks he may hit you then say " I'm sorry"... And the pattern will keep going on. Even if it isn't physical abuse, emotional abuse can be far more painful and you keep it inside, and it makes you a depressed person. My advice is get out of the abusive relationship now.

2007-09-08 08:32:24 · answer #4 · answered by April 4 · 1 0

"The only man who is worth your tears wont make you cry"

This is such a difficult situation, but chances are he wont change unless he gets help. Anger management, counciling or something along those lines. If he is not willing to do something like that and make the effort to better himself for you then I would end this relationship. :-(

His temper will continue or escalte.
This is not a good situation to put yourself in it makes me worry for you b/c sometimes the ppl you would least expect can turn and be abusive.
Im not saying he is or will be, but if he does not get his issues under control he can become incresingly violent towards you, and thats no way to live hun.....

Hopefully I was able to help you come and I hope everything works out b/c you love him but if he doesnt do something to change please leave him b/c you dont want this for the REST of your life. and the longer you wait the harder it will become to get away.

good luck, with everthing!

2007-09-08 08:39:40 · answer #5 · answered by ellie may 3 · 0 0

What about this man are you attracted to. He obviously doesn't respect you. It would help if you defined the "trouble" you talk about.

Know this - men generally don't change because YOU want them to. Don't marry him if you already have some issues with him - what happens when all the new issues that happen after marriage come up - how will you deal with it.

Only stupid love is blind or deaf - open your eyes and listen to what your heart is REALLY telling you "Beware"

2007-09-08 08:27:54 · answer #6 · answered by wigginsray 7 · 2 0

Im not sure really what to say but this seems to be the same thing that happened with my mum and dad before they split up... (but they were married already) I think that as he herts your feelings he really isnt worth the engament nore the renting of a flat!
When your in a realtionship your ment to trust and love the person your with, can i ask: "do you love him as much as you did when you first met him?"

so i cant exactly answer this question, mainly because im only 14 but ive seen it happen to two people before and its not nice to watch... (my parents)

hope the advice helped, not sure if it did but i tried... xx

2007-09-08 08:33:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Picture this, after 2 years you are recalling this fight with your ex-bf (your current one) and still can't figure out how come you've stick to such a mental abuser for so long. And at your side, is the man who makes you the happiest in the whole world...There goes the song:
A Whole New World.....
And you go 'phew! Luckily I broke up with him!'

2007-09-08 08:37:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

1. Break off the engagement
2. Seek counseling together (if this matters to "BOTH" of you) - if only one
willing to get counseling - go back to my #1 suggestion
3. A person who name calls another person, especially a fiance does NOT
care about or love that person

I strongely recommend you break it off, heal, and move on.

Best of luck to you.

2007-09-08 08:27:23 · answer #9 · answered by 'Barn 6 · 2 0

This is not a healthy relationship.....narcissistic pattern showing here. You are worth so much more tahn emotional abuse and trust me these things only escalate.

2007-09-08 09:11:41 · answer #10 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 1 0

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