Abusive childhood and parents constant voices ?

Question

I have been thru an abusive childhood , now i am in a process of reprogramming every fuc#ing neuron network my parents have programmed in my brain ( chemistry ) .
it's tiring , but i am not gona give up .
I just wanted to say that i still hear my parents voice saying i am not worth anything and w on't have anyone even if i get to be anything . I am trying to fight this for the past few weeks and destroy this f##ing INCORRECT message . But i can't . The more i try harder . It feels like it's getting stronger.
i know , eventually i will crack the message and reprogram it.

But if you could give me some help , i would hugely appreciate it .

Answer 1

Goodness...Good for you! I LOVE your attitude! You have helped me immensely with your approach. I too had a horrible childhood/early adulthood that was so terrible I am surprised that I lived through it! I am mending now too. It is hard work but I am worth it and so are you.

You are a positive force in the world now and you are unstoppable. Remember that you have between your ears the greatest creation known in the universe! Rely on your great sense of logic and don't forget how great love is.

Love,
MaryJane

Answer 2

IT's all about battling the NEGATIVE voice. You must counter tose negative messages with POSITIVE ones. and keep doing it, do NOT give up, eventually the positive messages will win out.
No matter how believable the negative message may be to your mind, use the logic to counter it.
EXAMPLE:
You are a failure and wont acheive your goals.
COUNTER:
I am not a failure, I have learned from my past mistakes and I WILL achieve all I set out to do.

I know that negative voice is strong. It is a tough thing to change when it has been the norm for so long in your life.
but I just have to say I am proud of you for not giving up.
I had a nightmarish childhood complete with abuse on all front (verbal, physical, sexual) and for me, I think I carried that nagativity into my adult life, and for 30 years, I listened to and believed that voice. A little at a time I have proving that voice wrong. (I was always told I was stupid, everything I did was stupid....well then how in the world did I acheive a 4.0 GPA in college??)

Good luck, and stay strong, the negative voice is wrong!!

Answer 3

you were "programmed" from day 1, and even through your schooling. The more you fight with it the more you'll lose. The anger has to go, you are letting every one win that way. Sit down take a breath. Relax What is IMPORTANT is that YOU know what ever you put your mind to, you can make it happen. Everything that has ever been said to you, is on those people, Not YOU. Before you start a project, think about it throughly, get the complete lay out. Then SEE yourself finishing the task, or project. You will be able to do it, but it has to be WITHOUT the ANGER.

Answer 4

I noted in previous answers the suggestions to seek revenge, change from negative thinking to positive thinking,etc and was not impressed. As long as you dwell on your parents bad behavior in bringing you up, keep them constantly in your thoughts and seek revenge for your abuse you will not be able to get beyond them. What you need to do is to sincerely forgive them both face to face and in your heart and mind; don't just think about it- DO IT! When you do this you will feel a great weight lift off your psyche and you will be able to really forget them. You will have achieved closure on a tragic episode in your life.

Good luck, good health, peace and love!

Answer 5

Now you're fighting those voices inside your head....It's been really hard to you, i know....There is no best way to do it than re-build your self-esteem by fighting...So continue it and if you can confront your parents, you'd need to do sth. about it...Also seek help with your psychiatrist or psychologist....You might need some medications if you felt depressed or anxious to some extents...But your source of anxiety and depression comes from your parents....So you need to face it along with your inner struggle...It might be easier for you to directly encounter with your parents, the source of the anxiety...Good luck...

Answer 6

It seems like you have alot of anger that has been built up inside of you for the past years,
I suggest you go for help, Sometimes things like this could account for something bad

Answer 7

Know that it wasn't ever your fault only you live with you and only you know what you are capable of doing and being.....the voices are only words the words only sounds.

the best revenge, the only revenge, is living and living well...

Good luck

and i hope you have someone in your real life you trust to talk too.