My life feels like I ran off the curve and got stuck in the ditch! Could someone help?

Question

I really don't know where to start! I have a good job but it's getting old and it's not very satisfing. I'm in a fairly new relationship and not liking it much. However, I jumped the gun and got a place with this woman and her two teenage boys a couple months ago and now I feel responibe for them... I don't think I can just leave them. I'm not completely sure if I want to. I don't really know what I want. Somedays I want a brand new life, new town, country, job (if any), girlfriend, bills or rather lack of, and look. My life feels so un-important and boring that I don't like to think about it, but that's all I do all day long! I just can't keep going like this! At one time I had thought about killing myself but changed my mind when I had a close brush with death... not by my own means. So I want to live but really just to see the end of the world. I must be the most screwed up person in the world! I don't know what's wrong but it feels like a big chunk of me is missing.

Answer 1

Take control of things, if you are wild about this woman then make her happiness your passion, if not, then do her and yourself a huge favor and get out of there. Do something crazy, move to the Florida Keys and work in a hotel or go teach english in China. You only have one life to live, guy.

Answer 2

Don't feel alone. Lot of people feel that way. It seems that sometimes everyday is a rut. You go to work, You come home. You do what you have to do at home, and then you sleep, and start it all over again tomorrow. It's you who has to change things. LIfe isn't so bad. It's what you make of it. as far as your girlfriend goes. If you really aren't happy, you need to leave , otherwise you will only be hurting yourself. Funny me saying this to you when I am in the same situation. I should probably take my own advise. You sound like a Really good person. you are sacrificing your own happiness for someone else. As sweet as it is, It won't help anyone, just make you more bitter. Change your life, you only have one of them. BE HAPPY.

Answer 3

You are suffering from depression, my friend ,straight up. I drove right in that same ditch and just felt like sittin' there...forever! I didn't want my tow truck of friends and family to pull me out. I felt uncomfortably numb, but at least it was a feeling. You can't expect to enjoy your girlfriend and job and even the simple pleasure of picking your nose in rush hour traffic if your'e depressed. I thought I wanted to just run away too..from my awesome hubby, the kids, grandkids, my job...But I realized I was trying to run away from me. I even considered kicking my own bucket. Your'e not screwed, your overly bummed out! Could be a simple seratonin problem. A chemical imbalance that keeps you restless, yet fatigued. My depression caused me anxiety or maybe the egg before the chicken, not really sure. I take a Paxil everyday and my life's sooooo much better, let me tell ya. I waited till my forties to even see a doctor about my "mood disorder". ...Your life is important. You are important. Go see a doc. Just a regular practitioner. And when you start feelin' back in the "pink", look at your world again and make the necessary changes.

Answer 4

You're not screwed up - you're more normal than you think.
What you have reached is a plateau of life - not going up, not going down, and unfortunately not moving at all. You seem to be dragging your feet.

To get going again, first I'd tell you to get checked up by your doctor. He may have suggestions for you to change your diet, your exercise, your weight, to reach wellness. If you aren't at your best physically, you can't be mentally.

Next, I would recommend that you need to step out of your life for a little while each week and forget yourself. This will bring a whole new outlook on your life and bring new value to what you do and who you are. I like to volunteer for a cause where I am needed, where there is a need, and find that when I do, I feel whole as a person.

Answer 5

you can't think like that you have to have a positive view on the world. I don't really know what your situation is but, i do know is you need to find happiness in your life search as hard as you can for it. I, not to long ago thought that their wasn't a point to life that i should end it but i took a good look at myself and realized that i am the only person that can make me feel happy,angry, or anything else. And i was letting other people destroy who i really was a good person. I was miserable and thought i was worthless b/c i was letting other people affect the Way i thought of myself. Life is to precious to end. Your question is do i enjoy life and my answer is life can have it's ups and downs but it is worth living. I hope i helped you out .

Answer 6

Start off by making small changes. If you leave this woman and her children she will survive she has until she was with you. Maybe you all should try counseling first.
If you don't like your job keep it but search for a new one.
Maybe try taking a vacation and relaxing and think everything through. Write everything down what you don't like and see what you can do to change it. Write down the pros and cons.
Leaving and just starting over sounds easy enough but running away from problems will not solve them and they will just come up again eventually.

Answer 7

I'm going to GUESS two things. Depression or Mid life crisis. I would see about making an appointment with the mental heath Dept at a clinic and talk to someone. I'm sure they know a lot more them we A $ $ H O L E S!!!!

Answer 8

a big chunk of you isn't missing, you are just not connecting with it.

http://www.geocities.com/the_inner_search

helped me.

Answer 9

Don't waste your time with such frivolous thoughts! Come! Join me and defeat the mighty and fearsome dragon!

Answer 10

sounds normal to me