I did not recieve a Thank you card for my wedding gift??

Question

I did not receive a Thank you card for my wedding gift? Should I dump these " friends " ? What should I do ?

Answer 1

If your friendship is so tenuous that you're entertaining the thought of dropping them over a card, drop them.

Answer 2

Perhaps they didn't receive it , unless you gave it to them at the wedding. And even then , there have been theives at weddings lately stealing the cash gifts.

So I'd make a phone call to either the bride or the bride's mother and say I haven't heard from you or your daughter and was wondering if my wedding gift arrived and if it was suitable. You'll either get the embarassed oh I haven't sent out my thank yous yet or if it 's her mother she'll tell you if it got there.

I wouldn't dump them , but I probably would re-evaluate what I looked for in friends and see why I thought they were friends in the first place.

I think after the phone call you'll probably get a note , but then again maybe not.

I 've never been thanked for a baby shower gift I gave someone , everyone else has and the child is going on two, so I'm assuming she didn't like the gift. It'll be the last gift I give her and she is not on my good friends list anymore either.

Answer 3

Well, it depends. Are they good friends? If so, and it's been more than a couple of months since the wedding, just ask them if they received it. Lots of things happen to wedding gifts, ok? They get delivered to the wrong house, they get the cards mixed up with other gifts, they get put in the back of a car and get lost for months, they end up in a closet unopened for a year . . . things happen.

If they say "No", then go back to the store and file a claim. if they say, "Oh, yeah! Thanks, that was really nice of you.", then that might be all you get.

Now, at least, you'll know that you have friends who are probably nice enough, but not totally up on etiquette. Either you'll make allowance for them and not expect too much, or you can figure that they aren't worth the trouble and ditch 'em. If a non-thank-you-note is enough to make you ditch 'em, though, they probably weren't very good friends to begin with.

Answer 4

You have to be kidding me. This is your big complaint?! You are thinking of dumping someone's friendship because after there wedding which took lots of planning (no matter how small they still take lot of planning) and attention, then they are busy settling into a new situation and trying to take time to enjoy this wonderful part of THEIR lives. You are going to throw away a friendship because you did not get one little thank you card for your gift? If you are going to take it this far then you are the selfish one. There are better ways to deal with this kind of situation then pettyness. You should not expect people to remember every detail after such an important and time consuming event. Just because the wedding is over for you, does not mean that they are still not dealing with their lives.
Try calling them up like a "friend" would do and ASK them how they are liking the gift.

Answer 5

How long ago was the wedding? Technically they have a year to send thank you cards. Of course, I feel it's rude if they take any longer than three months, but that's just me.

However, not everyone was raised to say thank you and send thank you cards. Sure, it's etiquette, but not everyone thinks about stuff like that, unfortunately. (I've been waiting 10 months for a thank you card for my cousin's wedding.)

I wouldn't say anything to them. But, if the wedding was recently and you maybe mailed the gift or had them pick it up at the store, then you could always just say you wanted to make sure they got it. That might be a subtle hint.

Answer 6

YOu know, give them more time. Sometimes with the wedding and honeymoon over, a couple just want to relax and spend time adjusting to married life.
Sometimes they wait a little longer because late gifts are still dribbling in and they want to wait until all gift giving is over.
Give it time.
Unfortunately tho, not all people have enough manners to send thank you's. It is a shame and a sad sign of the times. While i would not consider not getting a thank you card, serious enough to end a friendship, it might make me view the couple in a slightly different light.
Obviously you have been bought up appreciating good manners. Good luck to you.

Answer 7

It depends on how long it's been. If it's been over 3 or 4 months then I would ask them if they even got it. A friend of mine never cashed the check I gave her and when I asked her about it I learned she never got it. It had been stolen, along with about 10 other cards and gifts, from people who worked at the reception hall. It happens at every wedding. Make sure they received it before you get mad.

Answer 8

How long ago was the wedding? They just might not have gotten to them yet. Send them an email and ask them if they received your gift. Sometimes cards get separated from the gifts and they don't know who gave what.

Answer 9

We've discussed this a LOT lately in this forum. There are a lot of things to consider. How long has it been since the wedding? Maybe they are busy with honeymooning, moving, and doing other stuff to get to thank you notes.

Lately, people have just stopped sending thank you notes for weddings. its sad, rude, but true. i dont think you should drop your friends just cuz they didnt send you a little card. They may be inconserate, selfish people... but thats not enough to lose such a valuable friend as yourself.

If it really bothers you, call your friend and say something along the lines "its not that important to me, but i'm sure some other people might be offended if you didnt send thank you notes out"

Answer 10

I wouldn't say dumping them as friends, but it is quite tacky that they didn't send a thank you note. I had a friend from high school who never sent a note for the gifts I brought to her wedding, but we're still good friends and I got over it. I ended up having to ask her a few months later how they liked it because I was going to get it for someone else, and she said they loved it but never even said thank you at that point! Some people are just oblivious to things like that. Just rest assured that you would never be quite that...rude.

Answer 11

Well, I believe you're supposed to send the note within a month of the wedding.

That being said, it is possible that they did not receive your gift, that your name was not attached to said gift or that their not got lost in the mail. I don't think lack of etiquette is a reason to dump your friends but the fact that you're considering it means that they aren't really that close to you and that you didn't give the gift from your heart.