my boyfriends and i went out about 4 monthes and we recently broke up.he was an idiot, he rarely calledand we didn't kiss and we weren't that close. ( i know it was a bad relationship) would it be wrong to kiss and flirt with this other guy? do i need to give the breakup some time or can i go after someone else. would i be looked down on?
2007-09-08 06:27:10 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
umm. he was my boyfriend. he asked me if i would be his girlfriend.
2007-09-08 06:33:52 · update #1
i think ur good if ur broke up then your free to do wat you please
2007-09-08 06:33:22 · answer #1 · answered by liz 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Touchy Situation I'd Say.
See if you werent tooo involved with the ex, then its only natural to develop feelings quickly for someone else. this is normal and isnt' looked down on, However if you go into a relationship or make the new guy PUBLIC too fast, then it will look like you could have been cheating on the ex, or that you were using him. You have to make the decisions, but remember that the people around you dont always know everything you know. 4 month relationships are usually pretty deep and jumping straight into a full blown relationship with someone else could cause ppl to think your "easy". While there is absolutely nothing wrong with following ur feelings.... just remember that it doesnt hurt to take ur time. Saves face and keeps you out of the shadows.
-Will
2007-09-08 06:36:26 · answer #2 · answered by William 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really didnt have a connection w/the idiot, I cant see why you cant just date someone else. If the break up was not heart wrenching, go out, flirt, have a good time. Why would you be looked down on? Maybe he'll see what a fool he was for letting you get away????
2007-09-08 06:35:58 · answer #3 · answered by barbra s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you don't need the letter s, if you have one bf.
Second, if you really broke up the the one bf, no, what you are asking isn't wrong. But keep in mind, he'll become your bf. Girl, no matter what people do, there will almost always be someone who looks down at them. But there is a fine, but perhaps invisible line between wrong and disagreed with.
2007-09-08 06:34:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People say that its' wrong to find someone immediately after a relationship, but how many people actually follow that rule, you know? If it were a serious relationship, and you thought you were in love, then a good bit of wait-time is beneficial. If it is just a short one, however, and there weren't too many feelings attached, such as this seems to be, then go ahead. You deserve to keep looking,and to be happy. Good luck...
2007-09-08 06:32:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No way. You don't have to wait, sheesh, you are already broken up and there wasn't much of a relationship with your ex to begin with. The question you need to ask yourself, and only yourself, is whether you are OVER your ex and ready to give another relationship your full attention.
Your feelings on whether to date again right now are all that matters, what other people would think is irrelevant!
2007-09-08 06:33:50 · answer #6 · answered by ala pb&j sandwiches 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At your age, you should be dating many boys to see what kind of boys you like. You should be encouraged to go out with other boys as soon as possible. This whole idea of time needed is absurd as there is no proof that time heals all wounds as the cliche states. If others look down on you, then that is their issue not yours. Go, have some fun.
2007-09-08 06:33:11 · answer #7 · answered by SuziChi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are kissing and flirting with the other guy when your ex boyfriend is around, then yes, I think it would be considered wrong. It would be rude. Just because he was an idiot to you and didn't treat you well doesn't mean that you have to be rude to him. But if you want to kiss and flirt with the other guy when your ex boyfriend isn't around and you're not just doing this to get revenge on your ex, then I think that it's fine.
2007-09-08 06:32:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The only time i person really need to give it time is when there hurting. if this relationship ment well only im guessing than its not ur fault for wanting to go out and have fun and try and find the right guy. so go a head and flurt all you want girl!!
2007-09-08 06:34:00 · answer #9 · answered by Charlene S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some people might say you moved on way to fast but maybe after a month it would be the right time to flirt. but if ppl knew ur boyfriend was an idiot they would think its okay to move on fast.
2007-09-08 06:35:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not wrong to move on, just be careful since you just got out of a bad relationship.
2007-09-08 06:42:24 · answer #11 · answered by It is what it is 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋