for those of you who are atheist dont even bother to answer becuase i wont pay attention to your answer
im having a problem, im a single female 21, and i have accepted the fact that i will be single for the rest of my life, now considering sex, i dont really think about it much, but since im single is it still a sin to be fantasising about it, like lets say i just MAKE up a man in my head, he doesnt exist in real life okay, but i imagining him having sex, is that wrong?
2007-09-08 05:32:46 · 29 answers · asked by A Decade Ago 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
come on guys i dont need rude comments this is serious, yes i am saved but, i've never been with a guy beofre, i have had guys come up to me but they are no where near my type. but its not just about sex,
2007-09-08 05:47:37 · update #1
Yes, that's a sin. Jesus said in Matthew 5:27-28 says, "You have heard that it was said, "You shall not commit adultery." But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart." In your case, the roles are reversed, and you are looking at a man -- in your mind.
That said, there is hope for you in this: You do NOT have the gift of singleness. I DO have the gift of singleness, and I've not committed that sin. I've looked at a guy and said, "Oh, he's cute." but not thought of sex. I've heard it said that if one cringes at having the gift of singleness, then one does not have the gift of singleness.
God may want you single now to accomplish some purpose for Him, or you may just love God so much that this is something you want to do as a sacrifice. But, I believe that God can and will bring somebody into your life who can share your incredible love for Him, and you can encourage each other in Christ.
What I would do is read Psalm 37:4: "Delight yourself in God and He will give you the desires of your heart." Delight in Him. Confess that you'd like a life partner to share your love for God with, but that you want only the one God wants for you, and you want him in God's own time and way. Ask what He wants you to do right now while you are waiting, and follow what He says.
Just a suggestion.
2007-09-08 05:47:04 · answer #1 · answered by Rhonda F 2 · 4⤊ 3⤋
Yes, it is a sin. I hear people say that open nudity is natural, sexual lust is natural, tobacco is natural; on the contrary, God wants us to be His spiritual friend, not natural. The Christian life is a spiritual life. It is God's Spirit that dwells in our earthly tabernacle and guides us along life's way. To be spiritual means that we seek the Holy Spirit's guidance and that we yield to His commands. The unsaved person does not know God's Spirit. We receive God's Holy Spirit the very moment we trust Christ as our Savior.
Realize that when you give yourself to lustful thoughts , you are committing adultery (Matthew 5:27,28).
Grasp the serious nature of your sin. Jesus said that it would be better for you to be blind and go to heaven, than for your eye to cause you to sin and end up in hell (Matthew 5:29).
Read Psalm 51 and make it your own prayer.
Memorize James 1:14,15 and 1 Corinthians 10:13. Follow Jesus’ example (Matthew 4:3–11) and quote the Word of God when you are tempted (see Ephesians 6:12–20).
Guard your heart with all diligence (Proverbs 4:23). Don’t let the demonic realm have access to your thought-life. The Bible commands you to get control of your thoughts; read what Romans 13:14 says, "But clothe yourself with the Lord Jesus Christ (the Messiah), and make no provision for [indulging] the flesh [put a stop to thinking about the evil cravings of your physical nature] to [gratify its] desires (lusts)" (The Amplified Bible - bold added for emphasis). If you give yourself to it, you will become its slave (Romans 6:16). Read the Bible daily, without fail. As you submit to God, the devil will flee (James 4:7,8).
The next time temptation comes, do fifty push-ups, or go out for a jog. If you are still burning, repeat the process (see 1 Corinthians 9:27, and 1 Corinthians 7:9). This is not just a random "get your mind off it" exercise. This produces a physical reaction that is the equivalent of what is often called a "cold shower." After two weeks abstaining from impure-thoughts , one really hasn't reached optimal functioning or escaped the grasp of the addiction yet.
Plus, you don't seem like the type of person to believe that the level of difficulty of a given path has any impact on its morality or righteousness. Don't be afraid or discouraged! As they say, Rome wasn't built in a day.
2007-09-08 16:13:33 · answer #2 · answered by Evolution - of - the - gaps 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear...you're a healthy, normal 21 year old, and it's the most natural thing in the world to think about sex. If we didn't, there certainly wouldn't be as many people! It's not a sin. I'm not knocking your religion, but it's kind of just an old way to keep you responsible about it. I can't imagine why you'd be single for the rest of your life. Love takes time, and never comes when you're looking so hard. You're going to fine. Sex is quite normal...and a lot of fun, with the right person. Yes - it's all right for you to dream of your happy future.
2007-09-08 12:43:44 · answer #3 · answered by Blue Oyster Kel 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The Bible says thinking about sex outside of marriage is wrong. But pray for God to send you the man you are to have. You have many years yet to live, so don't give up on the fact of marriage. I know of a lady that is 50 and is believing for a husband, and she has never been married.
2007-09-08 13:28:21 · answer #4 · answered by RB 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am not an atheist but nor am I strictly involved with any of the major religions. I do not think fantasising is a sin in any respect but a perfectly normal line of thinking we all do from time to time. Just because you are 21 yrs old do not dismiss the possibility of relationships for the rest of your life - because you have a very long way to go yet.
2007-09-08 12:43:34 · answer #5 · answered by alex s 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
At 21 I don't see how you can believe you will remain single, why give up so soon. Life really does not begin until 30 and lots of people are waiting that long to get married now days. As for the fantasy... well sounds normal to me. I think it is kinda healthy really, you figure out the kind of man you want and how he will be. Talk to God tell him what you want, ask him to bring the man he has chosen for you, you will be pleasantly surprised I bet.
2007-09-08 12:41:37 · answer #6 · answered by Connie D 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I am a practising Catholic and a doctor. If God didn't want us to be sexual beings that he wouldn't have made it feel so good. I feel the bible is misinterpreted, being that is was written thousands of years ago as a way to encourage people to live righteously based of fear and lack of intelligent
thought. But sex is sacred and keep it that way, but don't feel guilt or shame for wanting to have sex or for masturbating, or for having sex outside of marriage. Just make sure that it is something special, not something that even a non-believer would feel shame about. I have 3 kids, have been with my husband for 20 years and we have never been married. We have had sex outside of marriage 1000's and 1000's of times and nobody is going to tell us that we are sinners, or that we will be punished. God is not a punisher or a judge.
2007-09-08 12:48:01 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is natural human nature to fantasize about that sort of thing however it is against God, it is considered sexual immorality. Though you are not actually doing anything but fantasizing you still are thinking it which according to the bible i forget which verse(s) though the thought is just as bad as the action. Oh and don't start thinking you will be single for the rest of your life. God has someone for everyone you just have to be patient.
2007-09-08 12:41:49 · answer #8 · answered by Drifter8604 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
=not really the sin is fornication not fantasy you know. some religion teach that the followers should fast to curp their sexual desire. while others perform extra prayers or whatever they do for worship you know.
= i really don't even see a problem because you are not acting on or acting out your fantasies.
= besides 21 is too young to give up on that part of life. i believe that when His time is right He will introduce you to the man that he wants you to marry. wait until then it's better for you.
2007-09-08 12:49:46 · answer #9 · answered by vanessa 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes. Even thinking these thoughts is a sin against God. Jesus says that even if you look at another to lust after that person, you have already committed adultery with that person in your heart. Jesus not only sees what you do. He knows your thoughts and your intentions.
First of all make sure you are born again in accordance to John 3:3. If the Holy Spirit lives in you, you have a helper with you to overcome theses lustful thoughts. Secondly, take every THOUGHT captive to the obedience of Christ. That includes lustful thoughts. Jesus doesn't want you to be a slave to lust. Jesus came to give you life more abundantly.
Peace.
2007-09-08 12:41:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋