We've been together for about 8 months and shes always polite to my face. But I've always felt that she didn't like me, possibly because of how I dress. I'm 16 and am very matured for my age and I like to wear clothes that I feel beautiful in like classy dresses and skirts. For about 5 months he would once in a while tell me things his mom had said about me like that she didnt "expect" me and that i dress too provacative. About a month ago his grandma came to visit and both her and his mother tried to convince him that hes better off "playing the field" and that he shouldnt be tied down to one girl. Over time she has also tried to cut the time we have together shorter and shorter. I got my license 2 weeks ago but she forbid him from being in the car with me. The other day i drove him home from school and she found out. Now hes not allowed to come to my house, and he cant get his license for 6 months (he was going to get it in 2) so we can only see each other at his house.
2007-09-08 03:57:42 · 6 answers · asked by Kashay Bo Bashy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
1. If you don't want her to hate you, don't dress like a tramp. Showing your body and being mature are not one in the same thing, you need to learn that.
2. If you continually break the rules that she sets, she will just hate you more.
3. Don't expect this boy to marry you, he will not go against his mom for long.
2007-09-08 04:04:55 · answer #1 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's right in a way. You should both be playing the field. You won't 'cause kids don't work that way, but you should.
My guess is the mother doesn't really know you. She has some first impressions based on your dress. We did the same thing with my son's girlfriend.
This is not your problem really. It's your boyfriends problem. Do what you can to help ease the situation even if it means dressing more conservatively when you are over at his house.
2007-09-08 04:05:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then meet somewhere else instead of his house. It IS in my culture that women should dress decently especially when meeting the elders. Think of your behaviour when you're at his house. Did you totally ignore/ disregard her existance, or talking/laughing out loud that may offend or annoy her in any way? These things reduce your points as a potential gf/wife for her son.
2007-09-08 04:06:25 · answer #3 · answered by Hanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't like you.
I think she still thinks of him as her little boy.
She's afraid of him having a long relationship with one girl for a long time. She's afraid he might just want to stick with you.
She probably's just afraid of loosing her little boy.
Let him spend sometime with his mother and arrange a special dinner for both of them.
That way she'll see how nice you are and that you really care about him and her.
(:
2007-09-08 04:04:55 · answer #4 · answered by yourbiggestfan:) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it sounds like she doesn't like you very much, but since he's living with her he has to follow her rules. Why don't you try talking to her saying something like you think you guys started out on the wrong foot and you would like to improve your realtionship with her.
2007-09-08 04:03:47 · answer #5 · answered by MyMichelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A mama's boy eh? Try to please the mom if that's the case.
2007-09-08 04:02:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋