My boyfriend and i have been together for almost 3 years. I'm 17 and hes 18. We have a close relationship and trust each other completely. I myself love making friends. I met this guy online through myspace and we've been talking. He knows i have a boyfriend and respect that. We just have good conversation. Should i feel guilty about talking to him? With having a boyfriend and all? He has no interest in me and i have no interest in him. We are just talking as friends. Thats perfectly fine.. right?
2007-09-08 03:47:25 · 15 answers · asked by This is me. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i feel guilty because my boyfriend is soo jelous and he would be so mad at me. So i'm gonna stop talking to him i guess. Cause i just thought about how mad at me he would get. lol
2007-09-08 03:53:41 · update #1
of course i would let him see our convos. Its mainly about our favorite food, what we did that weekend, favorite classes
2007-09-08 03:55:48 · update #2
is ur boyfriend okay with it? Did u tell ur boyfriend? as him if its okay cause he might feel weird. I know how guys are cause i felt the same way about my girlfriend
2007-09-08 03:51:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm. Well, asking the question means that YOU have a question. I can't get in your head or in his head but it's sometimes not a good idea to put temptation right in front of your face.
Answer this for yourself - would you allow your boyfriend to watch your conversations with this guy over your shoulder? Would it change what you say to him? Make you feel funny? If so, I'd say you're flirting. If you can honestly say not, and your boyfriend KNOWS you're talking to him AND doesn't mind, then sure, why not? We all need friends. But the mere fact that you are so desperate to hear someone tell you it's OK, concerns me just a little and maybe it should concern you too.
gentle thoughts.
2007-09-08 03:54:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't let the guy on line fool you into thinking he has no interest. You shouldn't feel guilty because your not doing this to meet another person.
I'm sure your boyfriend wouldn't like it, so why chat on line with another guy?
Its perfectly fine as long as your interested in some conflict between you and your boyfriend..
I could be wrong, but hey, I have never met a guy that isn't gay that chats with a girl and has no interest in her.
2007-09-08 03:53:55 · answer #3 · answered by nelppik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are asking yourself wether you should feel guilty then you are in the wrong this means that you are starting to get an attatchment to the other young man. How would you feel if your bf were feeling guilty about him talking to another girl. In a relationship everthing is about thinking how the other partner would feel. Actuallly that would be good if everyone thought that way for everyone but even more for closer relationships.
2007-09-08 03:55:54 · answer #4 · answered by Venuz D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is not interested in being your friend. He is just trying to get someone to notice him. If you love your boyfriend then stop it. Your asking the question if you should stop so you feel guilty about it and if your feeling guilty than you are probably doing something you shouldn't
2007-09-08 03:53:02 · answer #5 · answered by carpdog 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask your boyfriend. If both of you are comfortable with you talking to another guy, then it is OK. My guess, is that you already feel guilty talking to this guy.
I know as a married guy, that I don't dare get into online chatting with a women. My wife would string me up by my ....
2007-09-08 03:54:18 · answer #6 · answered by T B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.... would your boyfriend feel hurt? would YOU feel hurt to find out that he was doing the same thing in reverse? You're not married to eachother, but, you still owe him SOME loyalty... maybe you should talk with him about this. If you wouldn't "share" it with your boyfriend then I'd suggest either stopping what you're doing, or, getting a new boyfriend. If it's truly innocent, why not share your new friend?
2007-09-08 03:56:05 · answer #7 · answered by Scott P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all good as long as your friends, girl, dont let it get out of hand. It's fun to have a variety of friends, of all ages. Does your boyfriend know? U should tell him before someone else does and makes it more than it is. Have fun
2007-09-08 03:53:37 · answer #8 · answered by Ivan and Marko's momma 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as you do not start flirting and you both are aware that you are happily taken...and...you have told your bf about it and have included him so that he does not feel threatened then there is nothing to worry about. Friends are great to have whether they are male or female. Just don't hide this from your bf or he will be concerned as to what is really going on.
2007-09-08 03:54:30 · answer #9 · answered by firemouse23 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask the question, then no, it's not perfectly fine.
If you have to ask whether you can have a "guy friend" then he really isn't a friend.
Quit talking to him and spend more time with your boyfriend.
2007-09-08 03:53:17 · answer #10 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋