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My son is 8 years old and has never spent any time away from home without his sister who is a year older. He has had trouble with bully's in his class and i am worried because i can't just ring and check if all is OK (there are no phones). Should I write a note of comfort? Or will that make him feel worse while away? He is so excited yet I am so worried.

2007-09-08 03:30:04 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting Grade-Schooler

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I love camp,its very relaxing.His bully won't be there(i hope)and he will meet new people.You could send a note that said"i hope you have a good time,love mom aand dad"but dont metion how its going at home,it can worry him!

2007-09-08 03:59:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I am not exactly a parent, but I am a student that has spent a lot of time away from home. Just this year I went to a foreign country (Germany) on a student exchange. The first time it can be exciting or scary. All you can really do is to make sure he has everything that he needs. Toothbrush, paste, you get the picture. A comforting note can be placed somewhere where they can find it before they leave so that if it embarrasses them, they can leave it at home after reading it, but the point is they got the note and appreciate it. When they are older, a note is something that people will share with each other to share what their friends parents have to say. I know that everyone on the trip to Germany got a note from their parents, and we shared them with each other. I say if he is excited, he is ready.

2007-09-08 12:01:16 · answer #2 · answered by bubba_tyrone_92 2 · 0 0

When i went to camp for the first time, I think it was about 11 or so. Ever since I was little I had always gotten home sick and I hated spending the night away from my parents. I went to a camp just for a few days, I think it was 3. It really helped me that my mom put in a photo album with pictures of the whole family, pets and the house. It made me feel like it was okay. Plus she stuck little notes in my bag to read for each day I was gone.

In 6th grade we went to camp for a week (and i was DREADING it), and she did the same thing. I remember with this camp though every letter you got from home they would make you stand up in front of everyone and sing a stupid song. Really embarassed the heck out of me. But it was still nice to hear about what was going on back home even if i wasn't there.

Good luck. hopefully it'll go quickly for him and he'll feel more independent and a little better about himself after knowing he could be okay without you guys for a few days. :)

2007-09-08 13:26:35 · answer #3 · answered by Soon2BMrsB 4 · 0 0

You can so easily place your own fears and inhibitions on him. He has no fear of going at this point, he is excited. Let him go with that. He knows you love him, and will be there for him at the end of camp.

You want to, but you cannot protect and comfort him in all things. At some point he has to learn to look to himself. This is an excellent place to start.

I was the kid everyone beat up and made fun of. Camp for me was a retreat. I loved it.

He'll be fine.

2007-09-08 10:38:47 · answer #4 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0 0

Your kid is going to camp during school season?!?!?!
I'd love to know what community allows this!

Why didn't you arrange for a day camp?
(oh, wait . . . it's called "school"; never mind!)

Regardless, if you are going to be a "mother hen" to your kid,
then he'll never learn to fend for himself.
He'll be tied to your apron (or shop) strings forever.

I've been picked on by many a bully, and have survived.
I doubt that it's as bad as you say it is,
otherwise, the teachers would have stepped in.

If you truly believe he needs help defending himself,
then an after-school martial arts class would be far better
than a day camp, as it would build confidence,
as well as the ability to defend himself.

And, finally, if he is "so excited" about "camp",
then, "bravo" for him!

I'd say this is YOUR problem, not his!

2007-09-08 11:16:31 · answer #5 · answered by skaizun 6 · 0 0

A note of comfort will be nice. He can keep it with him should he start to miss home tell him to read it. It will be a great source of comfort for him. I don't think it will make him feel worse at all!

2007-09-08 21:09:03 · answer #6 · answered by Wonder Woman 3 · 0 0

No. Just let him go and have a great time. Try not to worry, he will be having the time of his life.
( Connie Mom of 4 and 5th. grade teacher )

2007-09-08 11:53:06 · answer #7 · answered by connie 5 · 0 0

You can't, just tell him all the plusses of going to camp & maybe invite a friend to go with him.

2007-09-08 12:57:28 · answer #8 · answered by Chels 3 · 0 0

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