What to do when somebody unknown to you shouts at you in public? There are such rude people who shout when something could be said in a gentle manner. What would your reaction be and how do you handle such people?
2007-09-08 03:26:39 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
One example where someone shouted at me: I was waiting for my turn to meet one doctor in a hospital and a girl came and told me she was not a patient but needed to talk to doctor for some other reason. It was clear that she was really not a patient because she was not carrying any medical registration card like other patients waiting to meet the doctor (including me) and I let her go. At this point one patient waiting thought that I had given this girl a chance to meet the doc and it would cause delay for THAT person. So he shouted-"WHAT HAPPENED? WAS THIS GIRL BEFORE YOU IN QUEUE?" I gently replied that she was not a patient and had some other reason to meet the doctor. This is generally allowed at our hospital. The person understood his mistake but still graoned--"Oh!, she is not a patient" etc. Although I behaved normally but even today I remember the incident and feel agitated that the person shouted at me for no justifiable reason.
2007-09-08 03:45:06 · update #1
After I gave the above example some of have said that it was my mistake to allow the girl go and meet the doctor. You have misunderstood the situation since you should judge the situation based on the rules which are followed at our locality, in this case at our hospital. Since the girl was not a patient, she did not deposit any card and would be treated as a special case here. Generally they are allowed; there are no written rules in this hospital to deal with such special cases. Also the reason the person shouted was that he THOUGHT, I illegally let the girl go as a PATIENT which that is incorrect and he also understood that and immediately lowered his voice. No one else there had any problem with this incident except that particular person. If I made a mistake don't you think a lot of people would have protested?
2007-09-08 05:09:40 · update #2
she still cut in ahead of you and others and caused a delay. dont you think?
she took the doctors time for another reason other than sick and we who are in line have pressing problems. so I would have cried foul also.
not shouted it,.. but gauwlll Id like to walk in and go to the head of the line and everyone be at peace wtih that. I mean everyone....hes the only one who actually said something about it.
why do you still think about it? cause he wasnt perturbed at her but at you right?
I would have been also
2007-09-08 04:41:47 · answer #1 · answered by camero 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
avoid replying to all those who shout. After all you cannot make a quarrelling or shouting man understand or realise his mistake. secondly leave the scenario if possible. lastly do not carry over the thoughts in you and forget it if you can. The carried over thoughts will haunt you of being silent or inactive in such a situation. Your mental peace cannot be risked to be lost at any cost. All the above is possible until you are not offended physically. In case you are physically offended you have no alternative but to fight.
2007-09-08 11:30:13 · answer #2 · answered by raja k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had no right to allow someone before you, what ever the reason is everyone in line want to see the doctor simple, what the reason is we dont care. if the girl asked you then the best answer is you should have told the girl to ask the line first, she is to get permission from the line and not you. who were you to decide on other people's time? you allowed the girl based on your time, not considering others, and that surely was a selfish act. YOu deserve all the shouting.......this is a funny way to end it. but i am right.
2007-09-08 11:04:43 · answer #3 · answered by thachu5 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you can avoid lowering yourself to their level...igore them and walk away. Unfortunately there are a lot of rude dangerous people out there who are so filled with hate and rage that you have to be really careful not to feed into their anger. Each situation is different but if you try to diffuse the situation and get away quickly that is probably the best bet. "I am very sorry you feel that way" works well as it makes the shouter look like more of an *** if they continue and it keeps your dignity and class intact. Good luck! Wishing people would love more and fight less!
2007-09-08 10:39:53 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depends on the situation but most of the time I calmly tell the person when they stop shouting I will be happy to speak with them. If they continue, I simply walk away.
2007-09-08 10:34:37 · answer #5 · answered by janie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If I have done any mistake, I would apologize. But if the mistake lies with the other person, I would insult him and reply that "By shouting you are not going to turn up your lies to truth" !!!!!
2007-09-08 10:42:51 · answer #6 · answered by Ganesh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.
Buddha
Smile and feel sorrow for their anger only hurts them
2007-09-08 11:57:41 · answer #7 · answered by MASTIFF MOM 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should have said sorry. You have done the mistake as you were not the owner of the queue.
2007-09-08 11:44:21 · answer #8 · answered by deepak57 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a stern and nonchalant appearance. These are mostly people with identity crisis and needs to be ignored.
2007-09-08 10:42:04 · answer #9 · answered by Subh P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Calm the first time, assertive the second, agressive the third and kick *** the fourth.
2007-09-08 10:42:03 · answer #10 · answered by Rahul S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋