Is it only spread through intercourse?
If he's not on medication is a condom enough?
If we kiss will I get cold sores?
I'm female without herpes but I really like this guy and I'm worried...
2007-09-02 05:32:26 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
Yes, he told me. He's a really great guy in most other ways so I'd hate to eliminate him if there's a way to continue a relationship. I definitely don't want to risk my health but I need to know if there can be a future between us.
2007-09-02 10:39:54 · update #1
Even though most people say "run for it" and that they would never date someone with genital herpes, it's not NEARLY as bad as most people make it seem. 75 - 80% of the WORLD has cold sores (oral herpes) while 25% of the world has genital herpes. The herpes virus is very common!
Herpes is NOT deadly like HIV/AIDS, syphilis, or hepatitis can be. It also does NOT cause cancer like HPV. And, it does NOT cause sterility or cause a person to become infertile like untreated syphilis, gonorrhea, or chlamydia. It WON'T cause other illnesses or conditions either like PID (pelvic inflammatory disease), ectopic pregnancies or damage to the fallopian tubes. This might sound weird, but coming from a person who has genital herpes, it is not NEARLY as bad as people make it seem. If anything it is one of the better STDs out there! Sure, the outbreaks are VERY painful, but they heal! And, yes, it is life long, but it doesn't cause life long problems. People can live a completely normal life just like any person without herpes!
If a person has sex with another person who has genital herpes though, there is ALWAYS going to be a chance that the virus will spread, even if condoms are used. Condoms ONLY cover the penis and not the entire genital area. Herpes can be spread by DIRECT skin to skin contact. So, just the rubbing back and forth of the genital skin during sex is enough to spread the virus.
Condoms HELP prevent the spread of the virus, him taking antiviral medication HELPS, and not having sex or doing anything sexual while he is on an outbreak can HELP prevent spreading the virus, but nothing is truly 100% effective except for abstinence.
There are several couples out there though who have been lucky and haven't spread the virus. One partner has genital herpes and the other doesn't. I was personally in a 4 year relationship with one of my exes and he never contracted the virus from me. So, it can happen! I even dated a guy who also had genital herpes for a little while. Right now I am in a GREAT relationship with my fiance. I told him I have herpes and HPV and he didn't care! He loves me for me, viruses and all!
Genital herpes is almost always spread by sex, while cold sores (not considered a STD) are almost always spread by kissing someone who has them. Herpes can also be spread by oral sex though. If he has cold sores and gives you oral sex it could cause you to develop genital herpes. Herpes can be spread from the mouth to the genital area and vice versa.
You just have to make a decision about whether or not you can live with possibly having the virus. If you can't bare thinking about having the virus or possibly contracting it from him someday then it's best you just walk away now. But, if you really care for him and can accept possibly contracting the virus then give it a try. It's a personal decision you need to make.
Good luck!
2007-09-03 09:25:30 · answer #1 · answered by Alli 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-09 00:44:00 · answer #2 · answered by Gilbert 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-08-31 18:39:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, there isn't any. Herpes is caused by a virus. Actually, there is little cure for viruses nowadays. The only thing that you can generally do in the case of a viral infection is strengthen the immune system and hope it fights it off. Not with Herpes, the immune system can't win against it. Thus you only get to treat the symptoms. Once you're infected, it stays with you for life. So don't get infected.
Personal experience. I have had genital herpes for over 5 years.
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2016-05-14 18:38:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunely No Matter How Good The Person Is I Could Not Because No Physical Thing Could Happen Not Even Kissing. Herpes And Other Diseases Are To Easy To Catch Nowawdays.
2016-04-02 23:38:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people are unaware they have it, because they don't experience symptoms or because they attribute the symptoms to something else. During an outbreak, blisters or sores appear on or around the genital area. Some people never experience a second outbreak. You may never notice symptoms from an HSV infection. On the other hand, you might notice symptoms within a few days to a couple of weeks after the initial contact. Or you might not have an initial outbreak of symptoms until months or even years after becoming infected. When symptoms occur soon after a person is infected, they tend to be severe. They may start as small blisters that eventually break open and produce raw, painful sores that scab and heal over within a few weeks.
2015-08-01 19:41:21 · answer #6 · answered by Nitish 2 · 8⤊ 0⤋
HERPES IS SPREAD BY DIRECT CONTACT. IF YOU GET OR GIVE ORAL AND THEY HAVE AN OUTBREAK AT THE TIME YOU CAN GET IT. NO HE NEEDS TO TAKE HIS MEDS TO HELP PREVENT SPREADING THE DISEASE AND TO AVOID CONTACT WHEN HE HAS AN OUTBREAK. ITS VERY EASY FOR A WOMAN TO GET IT BECAUSE OF THE MEMBRANES IN THE VAGINAL AREA. IF HE HAS ACTIVE ORAL HERPES THEN YOU CAN GET IT FROM HIS COLD SORE. SOME PEOPLE ARE JUST IDIOTS WHO DONT KNOW ABOUT ANYTHING. HE DOESNT HAVE TO HAVE AN OUTBREAK TO SPREAD IT, HAVENT YOU GUYS SEEN THE COMMERCIAL??? ANYWAY ALOT OF PEOPLE HAVE IT AND DONT EVEN KNOW IT OR DONT TELL YOU SO YOU'D BE SURPRISED TO KNOW THAT SOME GUY'S/GIRLS THAT YOUVE DATED HAVE THE DISEASE.
2007-09-04 02:22:33 · answer #7 · answered by MiaDiva28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
highly unlikely that ull get it through kissing, (if he doesnt have any lesions at the time) but if u stick around him long enough, eventually ull be tempted to have sex with him, n theres a great risk of him passing it onto you..be very careful...n how did u know he had herpes, did he tell u?? maybe he's really interested in startin a relationship with you, but u have to be extremely careful so that u dont get it even while with him...best of luck
2007-09-02 09:47:33 · answer #8 · answered by zizi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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Women don’t want to feel as though they are completely responsible for your happiness and that is what it feels like when the other person has no outside interests. Men who are overeager or jump when the woman says jump are the ones who are more likely to end up in the friend zone. This doesn’t mean that you should play the game of not calling for a few days; it means that you should set healthy boundaries until you both naturally find a spot for the other in your lives.
2017-02-15 18:16:32 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you need to do is some online research ,I have dated my gf for six months now and im pretty sure even though ive been carefull she has got it too .I did tell her i had it right from the start and that talk is not something you want to have ..Condoms dont provide enough protection and theres a good chance you can catch it if there are no signs of infection ..in short dont do it its not worth it
2007-09-02 12:07:54 · answer #10 · answered by matalchemist 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋