whats a reasonable amount to charge to attend a bachlorette party where everything is being supplied?

Question

i'm the maid of honor and i'm giving my best friend the pary, what are proper dishes to serve, and is it wrong to ask for a 20.00 donation to attend. i am supplying the food, drinks, suite, and special entertainment. please help i'm running out of time

Answer 1

Nope that is perfectly acceptable, even 25.00 is ok. Mens bachelor parties never go for less then that.

Answer 2

Did the bride ask you to supply everything for the Bachelorette party? Those things can get expensive! However, guests might be upset if they find out at the last minute that they are expected to pay a fee. If possibly, see if the other bridesmaids can help you out either by donating stuff or with a financial contribution. If you are inviting guests that are not a part of the wedding party, then let them know way in advance that there will be a financial obligation for them to attend. And don't be surprised if some opt out. So, you are having this shindig in a suite. You didn't mention what drinks or entertainment you are considering, but here are some thoughts:

1. Mojitos, Cosmos, Wine
2. Vege platter with ranch dip
3. Antipasti platter with cured meats and cheeses
4. Assorted olives and pickled veges
5. Artichoke and Spinach dip with bread and crackers
6. Cheese platter with a selection that might include Manchenga, Brie, Irish cheddar, Fontina, and Cambozola, along with crisp green grapes and fresh peaches.
7. Baklava, mini brownies, cookie bites, and mini cupcakes

Answer 3

I would never ask someone to pay $20.00 to attend a party. You're not giving a fundraiser, you're giving a party. It seems a little bit late to be discussing the cost of things if you hadn't consulted the other bridesmaids about giving the party with you. If you can't afford to buy everything, then divide up the list of food for the other bridesmaids to bring, to share the cost and to also share the responsibility and hostess duties.

If it was your intent on leaving everyone out of the planning and doing everthing yourself, that includes the cost, because you made yourself the only hostess. If that is the case, it will make you look very bad to ask for money to participate in the party, unless all of the bridesmaids said that they would pay you to plan everything and share the cost. If that was the agreement, then you need to divide up the cost fairly between all who agreed to help give the party, but not the guests...only those who wanted to have a hand in giving the party.

Answer 4

well I don't think you should charge then you aren't really supplying nothing but your organization. When you give someone a party for what ever reason yes you supply the things that are going to be used for that party. Send out invasions R.S.V.P. find out who is coming and who is not.Then now you know how much food to buy etc.. It isYOUR choice to have special entrainment ,suite,etc.down size it .Rent a hall for the night have a cash bar, get a DJ. The 20.00 that you are charging will go for paying for the special things YOU want for the party. And 2nd If I were to attend a party and had to pay 20.00 to get in there would be a gift from me.So tell me what is coming out of your pocket for the party??? Bottom line is if your giving someone a party pay for it yourself or don't take the responsibly to have one.

Answer 5

Definitely ask for a donation. If you're putting your own money out there and providing anything, they should atleast help out monetarily. If anything they will be grateful to just give you the money than be in charge of any of the planning, because weddings are such a hassle with the bridal shower especially. If you're concerned that they will be hesitant to give you the money since they didn't have a say in anything, let them be incharge of something then that way they don't feel like they are being left out. That way no one's feelings get hurt, no one is offended and you don't put yourself in debt over the bachelorette party.

As far as proper dishes, the dirtier the better. For example, I'm having penne vodka at my sister's bachelorette party. I'm having the restaurant just make me the sauce, because i went to the "dirty" store and got pasta that's shaped like...well..you know. For cocktails i'm whipping up x-rated cocktails like sex on the beach and other ones of the like. Get creative. Shape the bread into...things... or get naughty serving dishes, etc..The more cheesetastic and dirtier the better. It'll make for a memorable night.

Answer 6

I don't mean to be rude, but I've never heard of someone charging to attend the bachelorette party. I've known most friends to offer of their own will to help cover the cost, but I've never heard of being asked. Now, that being said, if you ARE going to ask, I'd recommend you tally up your cost of covering everything, figure out how many people you KNOW will be there, and calculate it accordingly. If it costs you (for instance) $200 for everything, you're having at least 20 people, charge them 10 each. If more people show up, then extra should go to the bride and groom as a gift.

Answer 7

no, it is perfectly acceptable to ask everyone (except the bride) to pay their own way at a bachelorette party. you are not a hostess, just an organizer. it's not like a shower where people are bringing gifts.

i've only been to bachelorette parties that have been out at the bars, and everyone just buy a round of drinks for everyone. works out pretty well.

i can't help with with "proper" dishes to serve, why not ask the bride what she likes?

Answer 8

Did you make it clear to invitees that they would be paying a fee? If so, it is fine to charge. Just ask for enough money from each to cover the costs....20 bucks seems reasonable. Proper dishes would be appetizers/finger foods. Deli meat/cheeses tray, etc.

Answer 9

im not sure about bachlorette parties, but i through a bachelor party about a year ago and everyone pitched in 100, so i think 20 or 25 is pretty cheap

Answer 10

i've never heard of charging unless the only people invited are also in the wedding party.