before i got my herpes i noticed that my husband had a small blister on his penis is that where i could have gotten it from? We had only been together for a short time when i got them and it had been close to 2 years prior to that that i had been with someone. i'd like to know if that's a possiblity of where i got them from. and can i ever have a normal sex life again, and since i got them my sexual drive is down could that be the reason?
2007-08-23 08:36:12 · 12 answers · asked by karensl47 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
Usually, if you are going to have outbreaks, you get the first one less than a week after you contract the virus. BUT, in unusual cases, you can harbor the virus in your body for years before you have an outbreak or find out you have it. That is why it is nearly impossible to know who gave it to you. No test can ever tell you how long you have had herpes. That is a myth! It probably was your husband, but it is possible it was someone before him, even if it was over two years earlier. If your husband had a small blister, that was probably herpes. If it makes you feel better, you can ask him to have a blood test to see if he has it. BUT, if he does, you still cannot be sure if you gave it to him or he gave it to you. If he doesn't have it, you can be sure you got it from someone else.
Yes, you can have a normal sex life, but it may take a while for the outbreaks and pain to feel better again. Also, if you are married to the man who gave it to you, and plan to stay married, that makes your life a whole lot easier, because you don't have to worry about telling new partners. If you and your husband both have it, you don't have to worry about abstaining between outbreaks or using protection because you cannot reinfect each other.
As for your sex drive... physically, a lowered sex drive is not one of the symptoms of herpes. BUT, most sex drive issues are psychological. Having herpes can be a traumatic experience. You are obviously thinking about it, worrying about, etc. and that is what kills the sex drive! Also, if you are having pain, that is also going to be a turn off. Once you get used to this and have the pain (physical and emotional) under control, you should be fine.
2007-08-23 08:50:31 · answer #1 · answered by Trying to do the right thing 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
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2016-04-30 16:22:40 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can have herpes and be dormant for a long time before you actually have your first outbreak. Two years is a long time, but it is possible you could've gotten it from someone else. There are tests you can take that can sometimes help you determine how long you've had herpes, but it's important to get that test early on after you find out you have herpes. When you first get herpes, it takes a while for it to show up in your blood so if you get the test early, there may be very low levels or no levels of the virus in your bloodstream. Your doctor can tell you more about it.
As for the sex life, you should be able to have a normal sex life as long as the person you're with is understanding and accepts that you have the virus if he does not have it. Also you need to make sure to use protection when possible and NEVER have sex when you're having an outbreak and even when you think you might be about to have an outbreak. Your doctor can also tell you the signs that you may be about to have an outbreak. Other than that, a normal sex life is not out of the question. Hope this helps.
2007-08-23 08:49:42 · answer #3 · answered by jareh02 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-08-31 15:20:20 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible that you got herpes from that encounter with your husband (does he know if he has it?), but you could have contracted it earlier. You say you've only had one partner, but you could have gotten it through oral or manual sex with someone else, or it could have been contracted at birth. The situation with your husband sounds much more likely.
As far as your sex drive is concerned, herpes does not cause a lowered sex drive. It is more likely that you are worried and upset about having herpes, and it is psychologically causing you to not want sex. Our minds do some strange things when we are concerned about something. This feeling should go away once you adjust to the fact that you have this condition. If it continues to be a problem, talk to your doctor. Look at what other medications you are taking, or if you have any other stresses in your life. It could be a cumulation of things.
2007-08-23 09:46:18 · answer #5 · answered by xK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have heard of couples that have been together 10 or more years, one partner has herpes and the other doesn't. Just because your partner has it doesn't mean you will get it, or not for a while a least. I have been with my fiance for 5 years now, I have herpes and he doesn't. This doesn't mean he will NEVER get it, he just hasn't so far. We have unprotected sex, but if I am on an outbreak we absolutely do not have sex. So, even if your partner says that you for sure have it, doesn't mean you do. If the test is coming back negative then obviously you don't have it. Usually people don't even know they have it until they have their initial (or primary) breakout. If you haven't had one, chances are you don't have it. Hope that helped! Good luck!
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2015-07-09 01:22:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can start having symptoms 2 to 20 days after exposure. It would be a good guess that you got them from your husband. Your sex life with your husband should be fairly normal if he has herpes too. Since you couldn't reinfect each other.
Talk with your doctor about your concerns. There are medication that you can take to keep outbreaks at a minimum. Your husband should take them too.
It is also possible to spread the virus to other parts of your body, so try not to touch the sores or if you do, besure to wash your hands well after you have touched it.
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2014-09-24 16:06:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋