i'm single, good looking and succesful. But i can't bring myself to tell anyone i have this.
i guess i'm done with sex. i wouldn't want to infect anyone, especially someone i love.
Who in their right mind that doesn't have it would want to sleep with me if they knew?
2007-08-23 03:48:26 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
MILLIONS of people have genital herpes, you are NOT the only one out there with this virus!
There are A LOT of women and men that are VERY open to dating and committing to a relationship with someone who has genital herpes.
ALL of the men I have dated have been extremely nice and very supportive of me having the virus. They cared and loved me for me, not the virus I have. My fiance and I have a great relationship and a great sex life. We don't let me having genital herpes affect our life together.
Don't beat yourself up over it. There are plenty of women out there!
2007-08-23 12:16:22 · answer #1 · answered by Alli 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
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2016-09-01 23:48:57 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
15 years ago, my college boyfriend gave me herpes. He denied having it -- we dated 2 years -- and I got it about a year into the relationship. It was upsetting for me to think that he may have cheated on me and worse that I felt that I was contaminated.
I didn't date any men for more than 3 years. Finally, I joined a support group and put a personal ad in the paper. Today is a lot easier with the Internet.
Through my personal ads, I met a number of men (always at public places like coffee houses). Some I connected with, others I didn't. I met dated a few of the men -- then I found my current husband.
He is everything that I wanted in a man -- I didn't settle! We have similar backgrounds, families, education... We have been married since 2001.
When I think of the way that I felt about myself for a few years, it makes me sad. But -- perhaps the only way that I could have met my soul mate was through this condition. Ironically, it was thread that brought us together.
Good Luck -- There are a lot of options out there. Find support groups, websites, post a personal ad... Get out there. There is someone for you.
2007-08-24 11:25:06 · answer #3 · answered by beenthere 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you meet someone who cares about you and likes/loves you for who you are, they probably will accept your condition. The best policy is always to be straightforward and honest. There are anti-viral medications available that help keep the virus contained (and keep it from spreading to your partner), You sex life is NOT over...believe it or not, it's not the end of the world. One in four sexually active people have herpes, 80% of whom don't even know they have it.
2007-08-23 05:03:51 · answer #4 · answered by Smooth Criminal 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you could do is educate yourself. Find out everything you possibly can about the disease, it is much easier for a person to accept that you have it if you can give them statistics. You will learn how to manage it and when you can and can not have sex. You will learn when it's safe and when the risk is high, just give it time. You have to get over your fear, you have to be honest with the people your close to. My advice is if you meet someone get to know them first, kinda feel out the situation. If you think that you want to move into a sexual relationship and that person makes you comfortable, sit down and tell him/her. If you don't think that person can handle it, don't sleep with them and then they don't have to know. Good luck and god bless.
2007-08-26 17:35:53 · answer #5 · answered by RPrincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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my genital herpes = the end of my sex life?
i'm single, good looking and succesful. But i can't bring myself to tell anyone i have this.
i guess i'm done with sex. i wouldn't want to infect anyone, especially someone i love.
Who in their right mind that doesn't have it would want to sleep with me if they knew?
2015-08-18 21:53:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt the same way, but the answer is plenty of people. Most people don't really seem that bothered when you tell them. After all, it isn't like it is a big deal. It is very common and benign its not like it's going to do you any harm like chlamydia or syphilis or something.
2007-08-24 06:55:17 · answer #7 · answered by mayflower25 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes someone would.
I had my first herpes outbreak three years ago. (none since) and there was a realy nice guy who i began to mess around with. I wouldnt let him go near my pants. Finally I had to tell him and he still wanted to have sex with me. Protected obviously.
SO- you can still have sex and as long as you are safe you will be fine!
2007-08-23 07:25:22 · answer #8 · answered by maybe 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
http://www.positivesingles.com/ this website is for people that also have other stds, most of them hav herpes, and no it's not the end, trust me i know, i have a boyfreind and a happy ife, and he knows. good luck and don't be down on yourself, it's not that bad, just be happy you don't have hiv! thats what i always tell myself!
2007-08-23 04:17:05 · answer #9 · answered by I Love my Baby Girl 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
well, you should have thought about a monogamous relationship. There are groups that deal with different incurable diseases, and beleive it or not, dating rules with people of the same diseases. (but your're right, now that you have it, you really can't pass it along to another person).
2007-08-23 04:04:46 · answer #10 · answered by 98765 3 · 1⤊ 7⤋