Vegetarian's?

Question

My brother-in -law is a veggie!

Why is it when his family visit,we have to prepare seperate veggie meals for his family?But when we go there,all we are offered is some tasteless quorn of other yuk!

Causing problems for me,am I alone?

Answer 1

Fair's fair - don't do anything special the next time they come - and if anything is said, say well, you never make a fuss for us so.......

Answer 2

Hopefully the most important aspect of getting together with family is *getting together with family*.
As several ppl here have noted, you can eat vegetables without any moral or ethical qualms. However, there are so many wonderful vegetarian foods, you shouldn't have to settle for anything that you consider 'tasteless...yuk'. If you don't care for Quorn (I've never tasted it myself), you might want to discuss this honestly & politely with the veggie branch of your family tree before your next visit.

Answer 3

It's really quite simple.You can eat vegetarian food-it doesn't offend you morally or in any other way.

He can't eat meat because he feels it is wrong.He,like many other vegetarians and vegans including me,probably also feels buying meat is wrong as it helps fund the cruelty of the meat industry.That's why he won't serve you meat.

And quorn should not be tasteless-it can be made into all kinds of nice dishes.

Answer 4

Have you asked them if they would allow you to bring a meat dish next time? I'm betting not. However, I bet that it was made clear that they did not eat meat before they came for dinner, and arrangements were made to accommodate the problem in a civil manner. Whereas in your circumstance, you have made no effort to make your fellings or inquiries known for fear of repercussions. I would like to take the time now to express how important communication can be in understanding others because you clearly do not have a grasp on the concept for the lack of communication on your part. Why are you here asking this instead of your own family? Do you think it could in part be because you do not know how to properly aproach those who are different from you about their differences without being confrontational? Try communication, It works wonders.
Good luck.

Answer 5

LOL. That's pretty true!

I have been on both sides of the scale-am currently not vegetarian (mostly because of anemia). When I became vegetarian, I developed an aversion to touching raw meat...now that I'm not, I still don't like to touch it, so I rarely cook it.

However, just cause they're vegetarian doesn't mean the food has to be yucky. If they were able to cook at all, they would be able to make a meatless dish that was scrumptious.

Answer 6

If he was lactose intolerant would you have a problem with cooking him dairy-free meals? Well it's the same thing... his conscious or reasoning won't allow him to eat meat so you should respect that and cook meals with meat if you want, but make sure he can easily eat it without the meat. His morals may be different from yours but you need to make more of an effort to understand them...

If you had a cannibal friend I'm sure you wouldn't want to cook human flesh for them even if they cooked you non-human dishes when you go to their house for dinner. I'm not saying that eating humans is the same as eating animals but if he believes eating animals is wrong then you should accept that.

'Causing problems for me'... well that just sounds a bit selfish to me. Your reasons are just because it's a bit of a hassle or because you don't enjoy eating their meals. If you really can't be bothered or you care that much about your tastebuds then either ask him if you can take your own meat and/or stop inviting him over for dinner.

Answer 7

Maybe there just trying to open your mind to vegetarian meals. If someone was vegetarian for religious purposes, would you expect them to create a dinner with meat in it specifically for you? If someone can't have gluten, would you expect a meal with gluten in it?

It's the nice thing to do to cater to your dinner guests needs, but you certainly don't have to. If you think it's unfair, ask them to bring their own food next time and you bring something you'd like when you visit them.

Answer 8

some vegetarian can't cook meat for you, they don't want blood on their hands, or in kitchen and so on .

there is a thousand fastfood resturants you can eat in, if you don't like quron, then eat french fries and a cheeseburger dine in the fast food place, so you don't have to see vegetarians stuff their face with vegetables.

Answer 9

It might be helpful if you thought about why he was veggie.

Its normally a moral issue.

So cooking meat would be morally objectionable to him

Surely he's allowed to make that choice in his own home ?

Just as you would be free to only offer him meat. He'd likely not turn up and your "problems" would be over

Answer 10

You don't HAVE to prepare vegetarian food for him, it's just the polite thing to do. You also don't HAVE to eat Quorn (that stuff sucks) when you visit him.

Answer 11

Typical in laws! or should I say outlaws?
I have the same problem. I usually took them out to eat and I ordered what I wanted, and they ordered salad or baked potatoes. When I went to there home I didn't eat much because I don't like "fake" meat. I only ate fruit. You would think they would get the hint. but No. My advise.. take some energy bars, cookies, fruit to get you through.