my friends had a visitor in their home and i offered to take them all out for dinner to a good restraunt in the city, but the guest complained about the food and spent the whole time talking on the phone(as he did not have enough time during the visit )with other people after we ordererd the food on his behalf. I felt offended but did not know how to respond to this situation. i felt it was a waste of my time and money. How can I tell my friends that their guest's behavior was rather offesinve. By the way these are church folks.
2007-08-22 22:46:05 · 12 answers · asked by DAUGHTER OF ZION 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
It seems like the mistake was accepting your invitation when the person felt like he needed the time to talk to others on the phone. I agree with you that the person's behavior was not appropriate. However, I don't think that it would do any good at this point to say anything to your friends (as they are not responsible for his behavior) nor to continue worrying about it. I'd say let it go.
2007-08-23 17:30:01 · answer #1 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that your friends would be the first ones to apologize for their guest's rude behavior but if they don't, I wouldn't have a problem telling them that it's too bad their guest didn't like the food and was too busy to chat with you because of his being on the phone.
2007-08-23 06:10:19 · answer #2 · answered by cashmere 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't go out of your way to tell your friends that their friend was a rude boor; wait and see if they apologize to you for his behavior. If nothing more is said, let it drop. I'd try to stay away from Mr.X if it is convenient to do that.
If no explanation or apology ever comes from your friends, I think they and Mr. X deserve each other, and would act accordingly.
2007-08-23 05:56:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but you really can't say anything. These people probably already know his behavior was rude (and they are hopefully already embarassed enough by it). He probably not only doesn't know he was rude but most likely wouldn't care. Anything you say is going to make YOU sound like you're being rude, and that's not what you want.
If they are really your friends you won't say anything, and you will graciously accept their apology if they offer it. Oh, and you won't invite him out again!
2007-08-23 05:52:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to casually start a conversation about him. Ask how he's doing or something. If they don't apologize or act embarrassed then drop it and make sure he doesn't tag along again.
2007-08-23 12:28:14 · answer #5 · answered by princessmmmy3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to anyone else, why shouldn't you tell your friends? This person was obviously and ungrateful and obnoxious pig.
Sorry to say this but I find that a lot of church people are disrespectful of 'non-churchies)
2007-08-23 06:31:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure they realize how rude he was . Just never take the fellow out to dinner again. Shoot i would make sure i was never around I'm again at all because mean people suck=)
2007-08-23 06:52:41 · answer #7 · answered by Cassie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that their guest's behavior was inappropriate and disrespectful
2007-08-23 05:54:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let them know that you would prefer not to get together with them, if he has to tag along.
2007-08-23 09:23:49 · answer #9 · answered by Angela C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No need to tell them. They were almost certainly offended too.
2007-08-23 05:50:36 · answer #10 · answered by nickipettis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋