revenge against an ex?

Question

ok this may be bad maybe pety but i dont get pist that often and im pushed over the edge now me and my ex have officially gone to war i was willing to just end it but no he had to take this to the next level and i cant let it go my reputation is at stake it has come to my attention he has devoulged certain medical information to mutual friends not stds by the way.very personal and quite humiliating when i found out what can i do i have sent him a stern email to cease and desist but i have a feeling it will be ignored is there any law against this can i sue him how much of a b#### can i be in this situation it is nesacary believe me.ive known him for over three years so i know email home and cell phone address where he works pretty much anything but ssn i need something really vendictive here to get my point across ty

Answer 1

If you go to war with him, essentially, you stay in a destructive relationship with someone you've moved on from.

I know it's tough, but someone has to be the adult in the situation.

The damage is done, you trying to get revenge just lowers you to his level. (and degrades you in the process).





Luck

Answer 2

it's not wise to disclose his personal info - an eye for eye approach.
The better way is to collect all the evidence that he disclosed your personal medical information and sue him in court. If you represent yourself you only need a nominal filing fee and you can get it back if you win. Small claim court is easier but if you lose you can't appeal. I can talk to my lawyer and find out details if you want, but it'll take several days. Telling the truth about you, no matter how the truth humiliating you, is not slandering. You need to prove he hurt you, emotionally.
In case you choose the eye for eye approach make sure don't do anything illegal. You may find a way to make the things that embarrass you humorous and make him look bad for disclosing them. (but if you prepare to sue him don't do anything at the moment.)
Someone I kow started to receive phone calls and home visists from strangers for xxx services because an ad (plain printout) was posted on university campus and other places that did not ask for ID to post. The ad provided this person's name, phone number, address, etc, and claimed to provide xxx services. This person guessed it was done by the ex but was never able to prove it. (This person would have a case against whoever posted the ad if had evidence.)
Good luck.

Answer 3

Yes, he has crossed the line. Not saying that war is the answer but if your reputation is at stake and you feel uncomfortable with this- you can sue him for something that is called "defamation of character"- which means that he defamed or said something to harm your reputation intentionally with mens rea intent (mens rea means -fully intentionally and planned)..
You have to be prepared that if you bring it to court- don't feel ashamed that the information will get out. Most people have some form of STD.. it isn't uncommon.. but you can claim it unture.. or ask your lawyer how to handle it.. He might give you an estimate as to how much you can sap out of him for damages and it, along with the percentage of people living with an STD might be convincable to get him to swallow his words. Just do not show him you are afraid of him. Tell him that you will see him in court.
You can also get a fake lawyer letter online.. and change it to match what you want to get him for and you can include a bank account number for him to start putting the monthly amount (including interest) into or the full amount.. Give a due date or see in court. This will get him to find the cash to put into your account and save you the hassle of a real lawyer. I have seen it done before. This is how I know..

Answer 4

Alright, I know how you feel! I was in the same situation! If it was personal doctor medical records (or something legal like that) I reported it to the doctor/hospital/and mayor of the city...and the police. The guy was arrested because he was giving out MY information when he was not supposed to. It's ILLEGAL to do that to anyone! So you should call whomever is part of this (that is an authority figure) and tell them what went on and then you can get him arrested or charged with theft of personal id, or have him charged with blackmail....If nothing get's done about this, you write the HEAD person in charge of whatever the place is you call - whether it be the police station ( you could call the provincial head deperatment) or the doctors.

Hope this helps!

Love Shelley <3

Answer 5

Okay so look at it this way. He's divulged something very personal and private about you. You can either let it go and soon it will all be forgotten... or you can let everyone know that your medical condition is very true & very real by snapping back at the guy.

The best revenge would be to totally ignore him, and delete the information you do have on him. He is dirt and you need to wash your hands of him. Getting rid of something as negative as a jealous ex (and that is what he is if he feels he needs to focus gossip around you) will totally make your life feel less weighted.

Best of luck to you, and hopefully you realize that revenge is not the way to pleasing the soul.

Answer 6

Revenge is bitter sweet. However, if he is slandering you to others, you possibly have a lawsuit against him. To take matters in your own hands would cause you exposure to the same issues he has put himself. Consider speaking with an attorney or possibly calling your Attorney General's office in your city and asking for advice. If you pursue a lawsuit agaisnt him, you would have to get signed affidavits from the persons he has spoken to and what was said.
Also, I would try a restraining order.

Answer 7

Becareful what you do. Acting out at this point is not recommended, you are very hurt. You need to talk to him and stop the messages and emails.

Watch out becauz u might regret the consequences for what you do. Sometimes not doing or saying anything is much worse then talking. He is expecting you to act out and it could get uglier than it already is. Take a deep breath and think, think, think about what you are going to do.

Answer 8

I know you want to get back at this person--sometimes when very close and long relationships end (and they have a lot of personal info now) the ex isnt happy until they have your last drop of blood. If you can, have a talk--say, "Look, we tried, it didnt work, this situation and fighting each other is not doing either one of us any good---I will leave you alone and you leave me alone--I will not smear you and you do not smear me."

Good luck and TRY to move on--vengence will only consume your every thought and it will make you a bitter and angry person. There's a better life down the road.

Answer 9

Ignore him, This is what he wants you to do. If you allow him to have that kind of control over you, then, he's won the battle, by ignoring him, You'll show him that you dont care
It just shows that he's STILL crying about the break up, so the ball is already in your court.

Dont stoop to his level, it's childish and if any friends have anything to say "Tell them to go F.U.C.K themselves b.c they aren't freinds at all.....

Be Cool, Calm and Collected.

Answer 10

Don't go down this path. He'll drag you down. Just accept the fact that the information is out there. Hope that your friends are cool about it. And, be the bigger person. Every time he acts up do something nice for him or your friends and he'll look like the bad guy.

Be the smooth one with grace and tons of humanity and you'll feel great in the end. And, your friends will like you more for it.

Answer 11

Hey, first of all u sound very stressed out.... relax... you could sue him on giving a bad name about you. it is a law that if you get hurt you can sue him. but i dont think its a very good idia, because you used 2 love each other in the past. i think you could talk to him, and strait things up...... and if ur friends are REAL they wont belive anything that is a lie. and if they will belive they aint true friends.... so dont be so stressed over people who aint worth it...... go chill a bit.