i am talking to my ex again cos she is single again but her past bf is coming back from travelling and says he still loves her, i so want her back and she says she wants us to work, i cant stop her seeing him but we have such a lot of history and she only knows this past boyfriend 6 months and he pushing her too hard for committment we have always been cool and i know she still has lots of feelings for me - what the heck do i do to convince her that i am the one
2007-08-22 20:51:11 · 15 answers · asked by johnny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you need to convince her you are the one,then you are not the one,if its meant to be it will be dont push love or you will end up pushing for something that will break later down the line!
2007-08-22 20:55:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey mate, you can never convince anyone your the one only they can decide that, what i would suggest is being yourself if that's what she likes about you and try listening to her as often as possible and most of all show her a real good time before this other bloke gets back that will probably help with getting rid of him.
Also avoid what ever made you separate the first time lol
if you are both meant to be it will happen and if she is backing off this other guy because of commitment issues i wouldn't push you being the one to much for now let it just happen by itself.
2007-08-22 20:59:00 · answer #2 · answered by mik_se7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant. Dont get in the middle of this---I think she is a girl who enjoys guys fighting over her and does a lot to create this situations. You have to realize that she is not a faithful person ---and the 6mo bf will have the same problem. Tell her you have helped her make up her mind---you are out of the picture.
Be good to yourself, walk away from her and look for someone who doesnt give you so much anguish.
In my dating years, looking back, I wish I could have walked away a LOT sooner.
2007-08-22 21:00:57 · answer #3 · answered by skyward 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can only tell her how you feel about her,if it's you she wants,you'll soon find out.
Trying to convince her too much might push her in the opposite direction,she has a choice,sit back and let her make that choice.
2007-08-25 23:43:31 · answer #4 · answered by tinyfeet64 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that is a hard situation buddy. Maybe you should talk to her where in both you can inter act with each other. tell what you really feel for her and do something that can convince her like doing what she likes since you said you knew her for you have history together..
2007-08-22 20:59:18 · answer #5 · answered by nhyce 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her how much you love her, how much you want her to be back, and that you're gonna do evrything to make your relationship work.
that you're gonna take care of her for the rest of your life and that you don't intend to hurt her in any way, and that you would understand if ever she chooses the "other guy".
sensible girls know what they want and what they don't. sensible girls can make decisions. you don't need to do anything spectacular for her to choose you, because, if she really likes you, loves you, she will definitely choose you.
let her know your true feeelings, and wait from there. live your life. love all you want. but never ever make her your life. if you're meant to be with each other, you really are. it might not be for NOW.
NOTE: watch out for girls who likes to use men to their advantage. believe me, a lot of girls can do that
2007-08-22 21:04:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if she is playing games or starting a competition get rid of her life is to short nobody should talk to their ex unless their is a child involved. If she still hangs around with him you have a girl who is keeping other options open and not focusing on you.
2007-08-22 21:19:41 · answer #7 · answered by ron p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only she can decide whether or not you are the one. Stop mooning after this woman and get out there and meet new people, it would be good for you to enjoy relationships that do not include emotional torture (including the self-inflicted kind!).
2007-08-22 21:13:01 · answer #8 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe no1 can convince her but herself?if hes pressurising her then maybe hell do the work for you, and put her off. all you can really do is let her know how you feel and what you want, (if shes the kind of girl who likes romantic gestures then make 1). she will do what she wants in the end.
2007-08-22 20:59:21 · answer #9 · answered by twinkly_toes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont have to convince her.
Its upto her to make up her mind and noone can force her.
Leave her alone and find someone else or give her your commitment and let her decide.
2007-08-22 21:00:45 · answer #10 · answered by **tomtom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋