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Question

Last year on April 6 my cat had kittens. When they were 5 weeks old I shut one of them in the door his name was Mouth. It paralized him from waist down and all the vets said he'd never make it but I refused to let them put him to sleep. I nursed him back to health and it was so cute because he wore a newborn diaper and could only use his front paws. Mouth was my baby other than my 3 kids. He was part of the family. Mouth died on July 22 2006 he was 15 weeks old. I took this very hard and my husband says that he was just a cat and I should forget it. What do you think? Please don't be mean.

Answer 1

well if it was a accident then fair enought we all have our accidents, but like the vet said the kitty is going to die the vets are always right, maybe the cat was in pain and thats why it went, it was probably for the best for the kitty.dont forget it but you need to get on with your life. maybe have a small headstone in the back garden for it or something but dont stop your life over a kitty. xx

Answer 2

I see a couple of serious problems here. When "Mouth" was shut in the door and the vet said he "probably wouldn't make it", plus the fact that the had no control over his bowels and could not use his back legs, didn't anyone question whether his kitten was suffering? Maybe you thought it was cute, but it was really pitiful. You were deluding your self to think this cat could have any sort of normal, comfortable life. His life was doomed to be a short one due to his injuries. Of course, the longer you had him, the more attached you became to him. Had you considered whether this kitten might be in pain, or were you feeling guilty because you had shut him in the door? Accidents happen. I think it was unrealistic to think this kitten would live, no matter how much you wanted it to happen. I believe your husband thinks you've overreacted, which is why he phrased it the way he did. You need to move on, try to get over your guilt and make better decisions next time. In retrospect, can you see that this decision was not good for the cat and not good for you and your kids? Be mindful of the example you're setting for your children. Life is full of difficult decisions and sometimes we need to think beyond our own needs to address the realtiy of the situation.

Answer 3

It was an accident, one that you feel so terrible for. It wasn't your fault and tried everything you could to make him comfortable and happy. It is perfectly normal to have those feelings of guilt and sadness too. There is nothing wrong with the way you are feeling. In time, you will slowly get over this ordeal and will remember Mouth as being that cute little baby in the diaper. So please, don't let others tell you that you were wrong for trying to save him and don't let them tell you that you should forget either. It was a sad thing to go threw, I know, but, you will never forget either.

Take care, I really do hope this helps.

Answer 4

I agree with Linda C.

If this kitten was unable to move its legs, control its bowels and had injuries a vet said were that bad it would have been better to put that kitten to sleep. There is no reason to keep a cat because you had to feed it under those circumstances and thought of it as "cute".

Those injuries would have made the kitten suffer, getting worse as it got older. If you had that cat for years, would you have been able to be there to feed it whenever it needed food?

I understand trying to help a cat, but I would have listened to the professional's evaluation and suggestions. It would have been much better all around.

That said, I'm sorry for your loss.

Answer 5

Its very sweet of you. I bet you felt terrible...but it was a mistake and as mother nature intended....new life is vulnerable and delicate....which is precisely why cats have SO many kitten. All are not expected to survive. Things happen as the greater universe expects them to. I don't know what you believe in....but what matters most is that the body of this kitty is gone. learn what you can from it. Praise the happiness you got from him. Don't waist the joy of being alive today on feeling sad about the happy kitty from yesterday. Your kids wil always remind you. Even they are much older. Just know it was "life" and an accident. People die in "accidents" that no one intended. Always be thankful it was just a kitty in a door and not something much more impacting in your life. You are truely Lucky! ou were given that little angel to teach you to take this into perspective.

Answer 6

A person can develop an emotional attachment to any animal that they have long enough. Sometimes that length of time can be very short, just like you might have for another person. Don't forget Mouth, but don't let his memory keep you from enjoying life either. Or stop you from getting another cat if you so desire.
Hope this helps.
L

Answer 7

I'm the same way. Don't let anyone make you feel bad about being tender hearted. You loved your baby and you are grieving.I have a cat right now that has diabetes and is in pretty bad shape. I randomly break out in tears over her. It's just part of having a big heart. God bless!!

Answer 8

I don't think you should forget about Mouth, he obviously meant something to you. However, time has passed (over a year) and as hard as it may seem, you should start to move on from grieving and just live with the happy memories of the cat you saved.

Answer 9

You definitely shouldn't forget it. There is no thing as he was just a cat. Cats are people too and have feelings so for you to feel this way is perfectly fine. It's as if Mouth was another child of yours and as if you lost a child. Its nothing to worry about you feeling this way. I'm sorry for your loss.

Answer 10

u shouldnt be hard on yourself it was an accident. u did the right thing by trying to nurse him back to health. lossing any pet is always hard if u really cared for it and it sounds like u did. when i lost my cat i felt so bad and cried. then i dicided to bury her and then on her grave i planeted some flowers to rember her. maybe u should do that and c if it helps u 2 feel better.