When you meet someone thats seems like youcould be with them and they say all thesethings to you and later on you realize there messed up in thehead and you want to stay with them and keepthem but they just keep screwing you over cause there problems. Sometimes I wonder if my girl never did cocaine or drank so much if she'd still be this way.. I want to help but in this situation I think that she permantely screwed eversince she quit she just seems different. I don't want to leave herbut I kinda feel like I haveto now.
2007-08-22 19:40:16 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to move on. Remember that you can't save her and it is not your job to do so. You have to think of yourself and you deserve better.
2007-08-22 19:43:04 · answer #1 · answered by baby166_99 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
By your spelling and structure, I wonder if it isn't you that has a problem. "youcould" and "thesethings" are two words. "there" should be "they are"; "thehead" are two words, as are "keepthem". "my girl" indicates possession and you do not own that person. "Eversince" is not a word, however "since" is. "Herbut" is not a word and neither is "haveto". You also state that "my girl" never did cocaine or drank so much if she'd still be this way. You have admitted that she never did those things, although I think you meant to state that she did.
Sir, when posting a question to millions of people, you should be precise and correct in both your spelling and telling of your story. You have presented yourself as a victim, however in your description it appears that you are either drunk or on drugs yourself. I have never seen so many misspellings and combined words in any posting. There is a spell check on this board and apparently you disregarded that.
Having said this, if you think you need to leave this person, then you should do so. Do not take my criticism of your writing into your decision making process. You know what is best for you and you should do as you feel necessary.
It is quite possible that your intent is genuine and true. While I have been hard on you regarding your grammar, I understand the intent of your posting. I am not insensitive to your situation, but I would have better accepted your position if you had been more precise in your narrative.
For each beginning, there is an end. For each end there is a new beginning. I wish you happiness and hope that you will make the right decision.
2007-08-23 03:13:53 · answer #2 · answered by Boomer 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is very nice to give a sacrifice to someone in way to help out of trouble but it is her life and you are not a savior to do so. Imagine having done that and what would continue?....I guess she'd just move on and keep living her life without you and you would be sad then as you might had thought she would have become your gf whatever. She would come back again when she needed help just to gain the help and that's all. It feels like a leaving syndrome but I think the best way is to head another direction. Let it go.
2007-08-23 02:48:55 · answer #3 · answered by Focus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if she's willing to get some help. Best thing to do is help her find someone neutral she can talk to. Find a therapist, call a help line, speak to one of her relatives (one that is willing to help, mind you). Anyone who can positively support her. Over time and with enough support, she can change for the better. Are you willing to help her through this? Because it's going to be difficult, and she needs someone strong enough to support her through it all. If you're honestly not comfortable sticking around, then at least try to leave on a good note. Maybe it will be then that she'll realize she needs help, or risk losing everyone close to her. Good luck!
2007-08-23 02:52:21 · answer #4 · answered by xerxia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know that no one really wants to do this, but maybe she should try gettin some kind of psychiatrist or suttin...she's prob havin withdrawls still..it does take a while..or she misses the feeling of when she was high/drunk/etc... maybe try to find things that could give her suttin of the sort in a natural way... make her feel loved...that is the biggest natural high..not too many ppl feel it, because not too many ppl show all of thier compassion for one another... maybe that could help, if not... if you mean it that you really want to be with her, and don't know how to stay because of the situation, then try talkin to her about it...maybe even break it off for a week or two...it could knock some sense into her, that you were uncomfortable in the relationship, and that she needs to change her ways..
2007-08-23 02:52:02 · answer #5 · answered by hOt wAx aNd stApleS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just the fact that you are questioning whether you want to be there is enough reason for you to go. She is probably what is referred to as a dry drunk or drug addict. She has to hit bottom. You will only cause yourself pain and heartache trying to save her from herself. Something you could never do. Give her some space and just see if she gets it together or falls completely down on her own. You shouldn't be unhappy just trying to make her happy. That isn't fair to you. Good luck.
2007-08-23 02:54:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i felt like that i mean different screw ups but still i didnt brake up with him and now thinks are ok i mean u could try to help her as much as u can but if u see there is no way then brake up
2007-08-23 02:46:24 · answer #7 · answered by Ak 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to be with someone who abuses drugs and alcohol. She needs to want to help herself and you can't save her, she has to hit rock bottom for her to want something better for herself, so I say just leave her alone. Work on you.
2007-08-23 02:49:18 · answer #8 · answered by rashida_16 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are way to stressed over a girl
*beep* wrong thing to do !
you deserve some1 better than this
go 4 a massage every week take out the tension
+ break up with her !!!!!!!
2007-08-23 02:50:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal
2007-08-23 02:44:08 · answer #10 · answered by Goldman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋