I met a man on e-Harmoney for potential commitment. He takes days to return my call. Is he interested?

Question

We have been corresponding for two months. I like him. We have not met in person yet. He is "save" and so am I. He has two children( one is 17 & the other is 7). I don't have any. He is far more experience than I am. I has excuses why he doesn't call me in a timely manner.I on the otherhand find it hard to accept. Its not that I don't believe him, but it doesn't take much to pick up the phone and call a person instead of leaving them hanging. I am not sure where this is going. I am waiting for him to take the lead and get the ball rolling. I do not want him to think that I desperate, but I am 39 years old and I don't have time to waste.
For those who believe in being spiritually lead, what is your input. I am patient and am waiting for the Lord to guide me. I like his personality/character and charisma. He can be a keeper, but he is not giving me much to work on. Since its only been a few months, how much time should I give him to really know if he wants to pursue this or not?

Answer 1

let him now take initiative

Answer 2

I would be pursuing as many relationships as possible. I had many women I thought were going to work out but only the last one did. If I had only pursued one lead at a time it would have been decades before I found the right person. Online dating is speed dating, except in slow motion :)

I doubt you are the only person he is talking to. Shopping around is the nature of online dating because there are so many people to choose from. I'm 6 years younger than you so my POV might be slightly different. Did you want to have children of your own? If so, you are right, you don't have time to waste. I'm not a woman and I'm younger and I felt I didn't have time to waste either.

Answer 3

I think you just answered your own question. Why would you think that the Lord would lead you into a relationship, where it is very obvious that he may be saved.. but he hasn't repented? You haven't met him in person and you are ready to raise his children. God has been whispering to you. But you aren't listening. He will throw a brick at you soon to wake you up. I was married to a Baptist Pastor and he was called a man of God. However, he beat me nearly everyday for years. Almost killed me three times. I finally woke up. Now God is healing me. ALWAYS follow your gut instinct. It will never lead you wrong. You are asking a question that you already know the answer to. You are ONLY 39. You have plenty of time. You can spend your time better working on yourself instead of waiting for that man to call you. He can only treat you as bad as you allow him. Be blessed

Answer 4

He really doesn't sound interested. You might try meeting someone in the church of your choice rather than on the web. Believe it or not, at least 20-30% of the men that sign up for dating services are already married.

Answer 5

If you are saved then you should leave God to take control. That means ask God if he is the right candidate for you then let him avail himself don't call him and i believe God will show you something. Sometimes God is trying to pass you message about him but because you want everything Quickly don't forget God also measures our patient how long we can be patient on him and trust him that he knows best for us.

Answer 6

No, it isn't that he's not interested, it's that he is more interested in someone else he most likely met at e- Harmony. Take it from me a former dog.....woof, woof

Answer 7

If he cant even pick up the phone and call you, that shows how he's not reliable and responsible.

Answer 8

He sounds interested to me, don't go smothering him until you drive him away.
Give him some room and everything will be cool.

Answer 9

It sounds like you've already given him enough time.