My son is 31. I don't know what happened but it seems as though there is nothing I can do right. He is nit picking everything I do. I'm real hurt and don't want to answer his phone calls anymore.
2007-08-22 19:15:51 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hi, wow, now that is making me worry. My son is 23 and we always knock heads.
I have simply told my son that if he can't respect me to rather get on with his life and leave me alone. It was the hardest thing I had to do, yet lately he seems to be nicer towards me.
Best wishes for you..
Hugs....
2007-08-25 00:32:17 · answer #1 · answered by unity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son is actively being disrespectful and manipulative because he doesn't want to grow up and learn the art of respect and responsibility unless he has a CLEAR reason for being so angry at you. When someone is truly upset with another they will include the reason "why" in the conversation. Are you hearing any that or does it feel like you've stepped into a tornado when you converse with your son? If so he's trying to pull rank on you and believes you are a punching bag put a stop to it. He's behaving like he has no self-control. What is his father doing about this? He needs to know he has no other choice to behave like a adult if he wants to be called an adult by his parents. He's 31 and can't except that you are his mother? You've got to be kidding me....how childish to call your mother up and rip into her like you are starting a bar fight. He's probably high on the anti-family movement, drugs, or alcohol. You don't have to approve of that type of behavior. Offer him up positive conversation and family events ...if he wants to argue you know what to do.
Anger is only appropriate when there are clear cut reasons to be upset with someone...that goes for any relationship. If you are dealing with an angry son who is making up crazy manipulative reasons to verbally attack you ...deal with him and you are the one who rightfully has a valid reason to B sick of his behavior...not the other way around. Set clear boundaries and the first poster is being manipulative in the event that you are dealing with a disrespectful son.
2007-08-23 07:47:04 · answer #2 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is 31 doesn't he have a LIFE..My son is too busy to say anything to me..When we talk I realize he is his own man and it is none of my business what he does..So I either don't ask or keep my opinions to myself. I don't expect a lot so I don't get disappointed..Do you both life together? If not it's none of his business what you do either..He needs to mind his own business..Keep your opinions to yourself..It takes two to argue. I always say a year from now how important is this..and then I keep my mouth shut..
2007-08-23 03:21:11 · answer #3 · answered by ddcc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a son too and I demand that I be respected at all times or I would refuse to speak to him until he shows some respect. I also show respect to my son in return.
2007-08-23 08:27:29 · answer #4 · answered by jade_2011 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember, one day in the coming years you may need him to care for you when you get to an age you can't do it yourself anymore. Better to be nice now, than to end up in one of those homes where they abuse you or ignore you.
2007-08-23 02:19:42 · answer #5 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ask him to talk to u about wats on his mind instead of blaming u or just tell him that he needs to take resonsibilty 4 himself
2007-08-23 02:21:06 · answer #6 · answered by pretty black 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
evey mother in this world shall vouch the same, some less, some more.
2007-08-23 02:19:59 · answer #7 · answered by swati_chhavi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋