I was raped back in 2002. I was 18. This is really one of the first times I've admitted it. I tried to deny it, block it out but it's been really effecting me and my life in ways I never imagined. I don't know what to do.. and I really don't want to tell anyone face to face.. or in "real life". I don't know what to do... I'm almost 24.. I should be able to handle my life and emotions right?? Is there a way I can just forget about it or help myself??
I just want to forget. I just want to be ok. I don't know what to do. I've turned very, very self destructive... I don't want to say I'm in crisis.. but maybe I am...
2007-08-22 19:03:41 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Just think that you have been wronged and you will definitely be compensated by the creator of this universe.. That's the rule of life...
NEVER EVER turn to self destruction or any other desparate measures, as you should know, that we are definitely watched by our creator, every single second... and he will definitely compensate you with something in years to come for the pains you undergone..
Just tell inside your mind loudly that "I was wronged and i will be compensated" whenever the feeling of remorse arise...
And you will get a response from the infinite almighty very soon...
May you be blessed with patience and confidence!!
2007-08-22 19:15:06 · answer #1 · answered by Moonman 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could give you a magical method to completely forget the rape, but it's not possible.
I recommend you work with a Qualified Counselor who is experienced in counseling Victims of Sexual Assault--hopefully that counselor will also be qualified to help you with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, which is a very common thing to develop after a traumatic incident like a rape.
Don't be afraid to grill the counselor about their experience in this area; it is a specialized area--and too many social workers, psychologists, counselors, etc. claim they can treat Sexual Assault Trauma because they went to a one day training or read a book!
I live in Washington State, and Crime Victims can get free counseling (I am a provider) that really helps victims cope, not only with the rape, but also help in their day to day living. Your state may offer a similar program.
Hopefully in your area, the Prosecuting Attorney's Office has a Victim's Advocate who can help direct you to the resources that will benefit you.
Don't put off seeking help!! Things can get better for you!!
And remember that the rape was not your fault. It is the Sex Offender's fault.
By coping with this and getting your life back in order so that you are living your life the way you want to live it.
Take good care; not sure what you mean by self-destructive, but call Emergency Mental Health if you are in crisis; they can help in the short term!
2007-08-23 02:29:17 · answer #2 · answered by hunter621 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my experience, NO! That you're dealing with it 5 yrs later is normal too. There are stages people go through as they cope, heal, grow and re-evaluate their lives. If possible speak w/a friend. Don't worry u didn't tell anyone or report it at the time, that's history, u can still make a report or go to a rape crisis/recovery center for help. I also was raped in 2002, did report it and the fall out has been as torturous as the rape itself only in a different way. U had the confidence to go online, now trust yourself to take the next steps. Do whatever u feel is necessary including going to er or telling someone yr having a total breakdown. They can give u sedatives short term and referrals for treatment.
2007-08-23 02:28:12 · answer #3 · answered by Tricia3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stolenvoice -
...........an apt name for your situation. Yes, you may be in crisis. Now is the time to address this in your life.
How right you are about how sexual assault will effect a person's life in ways they never imagined. And, how true that denying and blocking it out really don't work.
No, this is one of those life penetrating crimes against mind body and soul. It is beyond simply "handling my life and emotions"
To begin with, this is something you will need to grieve to address it and to move toward healing.
When the impact of rape/sexual assault invade your personhood, you will on some level believe the perpetrator, that you are the one who was wrong or dirty. To combat these false messages I really do recommend the help of a counselor. What you have to say is confidential. No one else has to know. --- If you do not address this in your life at this time, you will carry it with you into your marriage, and it can majorly interfere with your ability to participate sexually and emotionally with your husband. Then the rapist will have stolen from your husband too.
Check-out a website that has online and phone counseling/ coaching. Rape is one of the things they address. On there is recommended a book about sexual assault - and offers healing.
book: The Wounded Heart by Dr. Dan Allender
website: http://newlife.com or 1-800-NEWLIFE
2007-08-23 02:54:56 · answer #4 · answered by Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you needed someone back then and you need to catch up on that... the help i got was watching a show that a girl was raped and she had the support of many people and as they hovered around her i felt the warmth of them it was on AMC soap. Later I talked to people about it.It is no secret... thinking so is only saying that you are blaming yourself.. you should try a rape crises center on the phone and see what they say . I am not self destructive i -was- with -relationships but not otherwise. I was a victim as a kid with 3 men, raped by 2 impregnated got sick aborted it bedridden for 3 months.You have no reason to be self destructive in comparison
2007-08-23 02:20:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are support groups for this kind of thing. I was raped too, and I don't ever talk about it or anything, and I wish I could. But let me warn you, the rape hotline I called didn't know anything. I asked them about all my legal options, and if there was a support group in my area and other things, and they didn't know any answers. I felt worse than if I'd never called! So don't mess with those people, get a real counselor, or just find a friend to talk to. You might be surprised by who else this has happened to also, who would understand you.
2007-08-23 02:15:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you can't forget thing's like that. Damage has been done and it occured to you. It's like a song stuck in your head, but it'll go away in a while. Try doing something to get you active so you can get it out of your head. Play an instrument, play a sport, go shopping; I don't know, but do something that will make you happy and acts as if it's like your own special time if you know what I mean. Forget the past and try to move on. Don't think about it and don't talk about it. If you have to talk about it, let it all out. It's for that you can clear your mind and never have to reminise that event.
2007-08-23 02:16:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
hi you there,
you are a very strong women i think but the phase may be cloudy.
life is a set of all emotions combined.
once you are born, you have to witness everything from failure, desperation, frustration , also feeling of suicide till success and being a happy person.
even i feel many of the things which happened to me should not have happened . life is a journey . i am a psychologist and i came to know that everyone has done somethings very bad which we can see in a mirror or someone has been done very bad this to us in past. a friend of mine was sexually abused by her father and that was making her mad. everything else was normal and one male in NY did sexual favours to his Brother in law. be brave , you are destined to inspire the world. life can turn anyday. days keep changing.
plzzz dont feel bad about yourself. the worst things are over and the best times are to come you sweety.
i would like to be friends with you if you find it fine. my email is anand_kudari@yahoo.co.in
HAVE FAITH IN YOURSELF AND GOD.
THINGS ARE DESTINED TO CHANGE.. AND YOU WILL INSPIRE EVERYONE AROUND
BEST LUCK FOR LIFE
2007-08-23 07:30:44 · answer #8 · answered by angelboy_23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to forget? Many terrible things happen, but sticking your head in the sand won't help the problem go away. You need some closure. Did you report the rape when it happened? Speak out. You're not alone, and REMEmber that terrible things DID happen, but you will not let them happen again. carry your pepper spray, and use it on those creeps.
2007-08-23 02:18:35 · answer #9 · answered by good advice 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow, this has never happenned to me before but all I can say is talk to a loved one about it and get help. if you do have a good outcome or experience afterwards by talking to someone you could be on Oprah or Dr. Phil and make some money! (i'm not sure if they pay you) anyway, good luck with everything and i'm sorry to say that this doesn't sound like something anyone can forget. please get help soon. best wishes
2007-08-23 02:13:21 · answer #10 · answered by meow. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋