should I forgive?

Question

today I feel very sad, for many years I been married, for few years I have many problems with my husband I was about to divorse. my husband was born here he doesnt speak spanish, and my english is not well, I am latina so this is the third time that when I talking to our children about something and I dont said it right he starts lo laugth. I told him many times the i dont like that, that he needs to repect me, also he always is in bad mood he said is my falt, but even if I dont said anything he gives B.... and he told my children not to speak spanish.
What should I do I tired of this situation

Answer 1

I don't think taking English classes is the answer - if you magically started speaking English perfectly tomorrow, your husband would find another way to disrespect you. He is being cruel to you because he feels so inadequate (not good enough) himself. He insults you and hurts you so he can feel better. The only way to fix this situation with your husband (in my opinion) is for him to understand this fact - likely through marriage counselling. If he refuses to go, as I'm sure he will, you will have to either find the strength to continue in your marriage like this or get a divorce. Just please remember the effect this is having on your children. They are learning how to treat women because of your husband. Your daughters will marry men like your husband and your sons will treat their wives like your husband treats you. Is that how you want it to be? I really, really hope you will be able to figure a way to be happy in this situation. I think you have a lot to think about and I hope you will be okay....

Answer 2

Something that occurred over 25 years in the past just about ruined my lifestyles. Every time I inspiration approximately it, the hatred again. Even although the man or woman liable by no means requested for my forgiveness, I ultimately did. Someone else concerned did ask and by means of that point I had permit move of the animosity. There are a few matters which occur in lifestyles which will by no means be forgiven or forgotten. I am blissful I selected not to permit it smash what years I have left.

Answer 3

i this this situation does not jus require forgiveness but wisdom. you should for give your husband cause he is not supporting you and caring about your emotions. therefore you should challenge yourself to learn english. but let it be your personal thing dont tell anyone including your children, so that you would not be discouraged from doing your classes. and use this english as a stepping stone to follow your other dreams of raising your children and doing other things that have been hindered by the language barrier. pursue the dreams you've always wanted to pursue see this as the beginning of the rest of you life this situation could be the thing that makes you better,
lean on Jesus for His Love and direction.
Its A New Day!!!

Answer 4

you probably need counseling and you need to have a really good talk. It seems like your husband doesnt respect you as much as he needs to. And I know its hard for you but you really dont deserve him. So if your thinking about divorce maybe its for the better. But first try and work things out on more time and if it doesnt work out then you should move on and find someone new that will respect you and love you the way you are. Good luck!

Answer 5

Honey you sound very sad. I think you deserve to be happy. I think you should A.) Get the divorce
B.) have marriage counseling
C.) Or you just have to deal with it

you should not have to put up with that, Take some english classes. They have them online or you can go out and do it. You know your the parent to. And it would be good form the children to learn to languages. Good luck!

Answer 6

Its not a forgiving issue, I think its a communication and cultural issue. However I also do not think it is an issue for divorce. He should respect you and your culture, however doesn't always work out that way.

You and your husband can always go to a marriage counselor or just a regular counselor. My counselor is the communication bridge between my mother & me. We have a generation and cultural difference gap -- which causes alot of communication problems.

Good luck.

Answer 7

Leave him. Your kids should speak both languages and he needs to respect your culture. Girl you can find a man, and he knew that you didn't speak good English when he met you. You need to honestly leave him and leave him NOW! Let him sit there and be sorry, let him be alone and make sure that you get him for child support and spousal support for mental anguish because that is what he is doing to you. Girl he is a jerk and I say kick him to the curb!

Answer 8

The most sensible thing to do is to go for marriage counselling with your husband. And if that doesn't make your marriage better. Then divorce is the next step.

Perhaps you've been too patient with him. And he is taking advantage of you now.

Let him know that you are not satisfied with your marriage to him. And you will do something about it, if things don't get better between you and him.

Answer 9

well i say that you must separate or divorce from your husband
you shouldnt let anyone mistreat you ok so he's never going to change ok and if he already knew how you were from the first place then why did he marry you then so he has to accept you the way you are that is if he loves you ok i say think this over ok in my opinion it's best for you to divorce the guy ok and find someone else or just stay a single mom ok

Answer 10

Tell him that they are your children too, and should respect your heritage as well as his. They will always have a part of you in them. It is a big plus to speak two languages. More jobs are available to people that are bilingual!! Your husband is just being an ignorant jerk!!!