I realized today that my girlfriend who i have been dating for a month now, has an Ex who is more attractive than I am. Not only is he better looking, but is also more in shape. I feel kind of shitty after knowing this.
Should I be worried, or does it really not matter?
If you have any extra information on this sort of thing please add it.
2007-08-22 18:44:48 · 46 answers · asked by Chance 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just be happy that she's with YOU. Don't worry about the ex, unless you suspect something is going on.
2007-08-22 18:47:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What kind of question is this, honestly. I'm not trying to offend you. It's just that what are you expecting to get? When you say, "If you have any extra information on this sort of thing" what do you think someone is going to say? Are you thinking someone is going to send you a message from the person who holds the meaning of life, telling you some sort of prophecy regarding you, your girlfriend, and her ex?
Also, their must be a reason this person is your girlfriend's EX. That means they broke up because they don't want to be together anymore. They didn't tell eachother, "Okay, honey. It's time for a small two week break, where you can go out with that guy (you) and then come back to me because we all know I'm more attractive."
And what do you think we're going to tell you to do. Do you think you can invent a time machine, go back to when your girlfriend's ex was being concieved, give his mother a horrible drug, and hope that he would end up being deformed or something? Do you want to take a rake and smash his face up? Their isn't anything you can do! If your girlfriend does end up wanting to go back to her ex, what can you do? Is she your personal slave? Did you buy her from her ex, meaning you have all the rights over her, so she has to obey your every word? Grow up.
2007-08-22 18:51:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUDE --> HE'S AN "EX"!
And don't ever forget there's a REASON for that. Being better looking and in better shape is NOT the reason.
She is with YOU now. And there's a reason for that too.
Thankfully, guys who have what it takes to be TRULY ATTRACTIVE to women (the kind of guy she simply can't get out of her head) . . . . don't need to spend hours a day in the gym, they don't need HAIR on their head, and they don't need a Porsche or lots of money to achieve it.
Women don't CHOOSE the men they are attracted to based on ANY of that stuff. . . . but there is one thing for sure . . . being insecure about it is something she will deffintely NOT be attracted to.
Its actuallly a JOKE how easy it is to not be the best looking guy in the room, or the most "buff" . . . and still be able to get her to WANT to go home with YOU. So remember that.
BE FUN.
BE FUNNY (but not goofy)
AND BE CONFIDENT.
If you are the guy she "can't stop thinking about". . . then you will have every other guy BEAT. Because that's ALL that's required.
:)
2007-08-22 18:57:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks aren't everything. Chemistry, personality and having thing in common are just a few things that make a relationship bloom. You probably have or do something better than he did. You must not be so bad looking either, afterall she is your girlfriend now. Don't compare yourself to him or anybody. Don't stress on it, because if you worry about it too much, you can actually sabatage your own relationship. And whatever you do, Don't interragate her about the past. Don't even bring it up. Just leave it in the past. Try not to think about it. Just move on, make new happy memories with her.
2007-08-22 19:15:10 · answer #4 · answered by Browneyedgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do nothing! Clearly she likes you better for a reason. Who cares how hot the ex is because they're the EX! There must have been a more important reason than attractiveness for her to have broken up with them. For all you know, she thinks you're hotter... you aren't able to look at it objectively because you are comparing yourself with them, but there's also a good chance that YOU ARE the more attractive one! Plus, seriously, who cares because she's with you! If you continue to worry about it, guaranteed your self-consciousness will begin to show and she WON'T be with you! Just relax and enjoy your time together!
2007-08-22 19:04:05 · answer #5 · answered by Loungechic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks are somewhat subjective and girls tend to be more interested in the whole package than focused on superficial things than men are. You are thinking like a man and being jealous as men are likely to be. If you understood things from her perspective then you wouldn't be so worried. Why not talk to her about how you feel? She'll explain what she sees in you.
2007-08-22 18:50:15 · answer #6 · answered by Daniel H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to realize that being outwardly "attractive" is only part of the total package. He's obviously missing a few other vital elements of that package or he wouldn't be her ex. Besides........Just because you don't think you are attractive, doesn't mean your girlfriend thinks the same way. She may think you are.
2007-08-22 18:54:25 · answer #7 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy. Thank your lucky stars that she has learned to look beyond outward appearances and is now interested in personality, character, and an overall quality individual (uh, that would be.... you..)
Don't blow the relationship by trying to compete with the guys who alread lost.
Enjoy your relationship. You don't need to bring the exes into it. Relationships with 3 people, one of whom is only there in your mind are very hard.
2007-08-22 18:50:29 · answer #8 · answered by drslowpoke 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter, she is with you obviously because things didn't work out between the two of them and she wants to move on. She has moved on, she's with you, and it's all good! Unless she still seems interested in this guy, you shouldn't worry.
2007-08-22 18:51:16 · answer #9 · answered by noname 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope...doesn't matter. Physical attractiveness is just a very small part of her caring for you. However, it sounds like you would like to improve yourself a bit?? Staying in shape is a good thing for you to do for yourself, and she'll enjoy it too.
2007-08-22 18:51:27 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would'nt worry about it as long as u have a nice personality and u and ur girl get along good, there's nothing to worry about. im not saying looks dont matter but lots of other things matter more! trust me if u have a nice personality that will make u cute/sexy!(as long as ur not like terrible looking but im sure ur not! lol) and if u think he's more in shape just start lifting wieghts and working out and then u can kick his ***! hehe j.k. but yeah its nothing to worry about man just chill.......!
PEACE!
2007-08-22 19:14:31 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋